My Depressed Husband Doesn't Support Me

If his depression means that you are left alone, not only with your problems but with EVERYTHING, I have a little advice that might help...

Please Note: I have shifted the focus of my coaching business, in response to the needs of my clients, and am primarily helping high performing men recover from the end of a relationship and rebuild themselves to get healthy, get happy and move on with confidence.

I will continue to keep 1-2 slots of my calendar exclusively for people with depressed partners.

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DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor and the material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment.

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It's no secret that a depressed man doesn't make the most supportive of partners. What is worth paying attention to though, is the way that lack of support effects you. How do you feel? How do you behave?

If you're like me, you probably feel lonely, frustrated and overwhelmed. How are you supposed to handle everything all by yourself? Many of us turn to buffering behaviors to escape the overwhelm. Unfortunately, buffering doesn't make the fact that your husband doesn't support you go away! And it doesn't help you solve your problems.

In this video I help you understand what is going on and give you a simple, concrete strategy that will help you show up for yourself in a powerful way, so that your problems get solved.

[AA-wctw]

I'm so tired of giving giving giving and not getting my needs met. And I ask for VERY little in a relationship, just the basics. I'm exhausted.

[zyrellnicolequilates]

Everything just made sense. Thank you so much. I’ve been in LDR and my partner has been depressed even before getting into relationship with me. And it was really tiring as my partner refused to get a help from a therapist. Like for years, she just relied on me and had this thought “I can be the therapist”. Now i got depression too. I don’t wanna leave my partner, I wanna understand everything.

[JessyMessy]

I met him at 18 years old he is my first boyfriend and I thought his behavior towards me was either my fault or it was normal. I feel so angry and I don’t want to be I hate who I’ve become because of this. On top of the depression he has and my OCD we are long distance. He can just ignore me now whenever he wants and It all makes me feel so dumb I can’t tell anyone about our relationship because I feel embarrassed because it sounds like I’m with someone who hates me but it’s real the love is real he is just depressed. I grew up with my family members all being depressed and I’m terrified I’m gonna be just like my parents just two depressed people raising depressed kids. I don’t have any friends and my family can’t help me the only person I have is Jesus rn

[autumnislovely]

My partner isn’t depressed, but is on ADHD medication and his mood swings/energy levels are tough to navigate. Anytime I’m not supported by my partner, I decide to turn to my phone to find other people who’ve experienced the same thing or I cry alone. 🙃 Then I journal to get my feelings out and decide what thoughts I need to communicate to my partner.

When I was single, I worked for me, I supported me, and I was happy. But now that there’s two of us, I am emotionally supporting two people, I work/labor for two people, and I am exhausted. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with looking for support when I am exerting more energy than when I was single. I’m burning myself out. I need to rest sometimes… is it too much to ask for rest?

[thevikingbeard]

Just happened with my gf. I saw we both have relationship anxiety because of past people. My business partner screwed me over and we shut down and i was getting close to being homeless and couldnt find work for months. I talked a lot about it to vent and work through it and then i had an anxiety attack which ive never had. She did good to try and comfort me but then after a good weekend where we felt better i vented on the phone a bit but backed off when she said she felt worn out. Hours later she broke up with me and said shes not ready for our or any romantic relationships. She cares for me and said she was holding on to me. I feel i didnt handle it right and im sorry i put extra stress on her. She had offered her dads to stay at for a bit but when i thanked her and said ok finally, it ended. Im really sorry i and the business put all that tension on us. I hope time will heal our relationship/communication.

[heykp]

My husband left and went to his mother's house because he said he is depressed. I'm trying to be supportive and let him know I love him, but I'm worried that he's depressed because of our relationship issues and that I'm the cause of his depression, but he won't tell me that I'm actually the reason he's depressed. I'm absolutely devastated if that is truly what's going on.

[lynnpatenaude]

What about if I’m depress and he doesn’t care!!!
So this is useless!!!

[melkerner]

Sexless marriage, 15 out of 22 years, nothing for the last 8. She is depressed, takes Prozac every day for migraine prevention (which kills Libido), also touched out / burned out from 17 years of full time at home Mom with multiple adopted kids. I of course had to work to provide and pay for everything, but the physical affection and sex has just been withdrawn, and she refuses to compromise or even understand why it is NECESSARY to maintain out relationship. Acts of service all the time, not abuse or anything like that - just convinced this should remain sexless and she feels "overwhelmed" with closeness. Lonely, frustrated, touch and affection starved. She loves on the dogs, the kids - but I suppose this is because she is not vulnerable in those relationships - and in complete control. She admitted to trying to fill the hole she has with shopping, and everything else. Just not filling it with our relationship. She admits it isn't working, but isn't moving to fix it. Overeating, health is deteriorating and she it stuck

[mindofganza]

My gf seems to hop onboard for support....for about 72 hours.