13 Warning Signs You Might Be In LIMERENCE

Is an intense infatuation a sign of true love, or is it something else entirely? This episode explores the concept of limerence and its potential impact on relationships. In this eye-opening episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes of Marriage Helper dive deep into the powerful and often misunderstood phenomenon of limerence.

Discover:
- What limerence is and how it differs from romantic love
- The warning signs of limerence: how to know if you or your partner have crossed the line
- Powerful questions to assess how to set boundaries and protect your marriage relationship
- What to do if you're facing the destructive forces of limerence

If you're struggling with confusing emotions or have questions about the health of your relationships, this episode is for you!

⚠️ The video discusses 13 warning signs of limerence, which include: ⚠️

1. Heightened focus on the other person (limerence object).
2. Halo effect where the person in limerence cannot see any flaws in the limerence object.
3. Decrease in productivity due to being so focused on being with them, daydreaming about them, or thinking about future plans together.
4. Deep longing, craving, or almost unquenchable drive to be emotionally connected to the limerence object and for them to reciprocate those feelings.
5. Willingness to sacrifice everything in life to be with the limerence object.
6. Obsessive thinking about the limerence object.
7. Hurting other people around them due to their focus on the limerence object.
8. Changing habits that they never thought they would change.
9. Having hyper vigilance and being overly attentive to any sign that the limerence object is moving towards or away from them emotionally.
10. Experiencing emotional highs and lows based on the limerence object's actions or perceived actions.
11. Being in a state of ecstasy or misery based on interactions or lack of interactions with the limerence object.
12. Unable to see the limerence object's flaws.
13. Turning against anyone perceived as being between them and the limerence object.

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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Intro
1:44 - Limerence and romantic love, its differences and negative effects.
6:11 - Limerence and its impact on relationships.
10:15 - Limerence and Attachment Styles.
14:32 - Limerence and Relationship Boundaries.
19:15 - Recognizing and addressing potential infidelity in a marriage.

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Understanding limerence can be crucial for protecting your relationship. Discover the difference between intense infatuation and healthy, lasting love. If you're struggling with confusing emotions, feelings of jealousy, or fear about your partner's behavior, this video is for you. Learn how to recognize the signs of limerence, assess boundaries, and get the help you need to navigate difficult relationship situations. Explore themes of infidelity, emotional turmoil, and the importance of psychological well-being, so you and your partner can build a healthy and fulfilling relationship

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[s_gal]

Society needs more info on this as it relates to the increase in social media.

[ivywildwss]

Romantic love, limerence, is a drug my spouse is/was addicted to. He took his marriage and his wife for granted.

[RajeshKankavlikar]

When a man loves a woman
Can't keep his mind on nothing else
He'll trade the world
For the good thing he's found
If she is bad, he can't see it
She can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend
If he put her down
When a man loves a woman
Spend his very last dime
Trying to hold on to what he needs
He'd give up all his comfort
Sleep out in the rain
If she said that's the way it ought to be
Well, this man loves a woman
I gave you everything I had
Trying to hold on to your high-class love
Baby, ooh, please, don't treat me bad
When a man loves a woman
Down deep in his soul
She can bring him such misery
If she plays him for a fool, yeah
He's the last one to know
Loving eyes can't ever see
When a man loves woman
He can do her no wrong
He can never want some other girl
Yes, when a man loves a woman
I know exactly how he feels
Baby, baby, baby, you're my world
When a man loves a woman
I know exactly how he feels..!!!

This is so true and heartbreaking 💔

[hightechpickers]

unfortunately, many of us grew up in narcissistic families who were uncapable of giving us the unconditional love we needed. That is why we are attracted to people who have no emotional availability, no love to give, just like our families of origin. For me, finding self-love and the love of god helped me a lot in my recovery from my limerence.

[Stageson]

So I'm seeing this and it is exactly what I have been through. I wish I could have aeen it before now. I keft my wife of 30 plus years, hurts my kids and grandkids thinking thatvthey will just get over it. I divorced my wife. I have since left the other woman for many reasons. My question is do you have anything that can help my now ex wife and I to repair our relationship after a limerant affair? I feel like such an idiot for what I have done. It might be too late for me. Please, if you are feeling this way Dr. Beam is correct. It is not sustainable and it isn't worth it.

[sherridevries]

I love the topic of limerance
I know you've covered The PIES a lot, but would love more content on that as well!

[JanetShimaingaMwale]

Many marriages are going through this.. it's really educating.. thanks

[RajeshKankavlikar]

Thank you for this video. Very informative and a revision as well ❤

[hennore]

Loved this episode! Appreciate the breakdown of limerence and romantic love 👏🏾

I’m in limerence with Jesus 😍

[pistolpete]

Hi. Unsure if you or anyone still answering questions on the comments, however I was wondering about something.

I separated from my wife, and since it happened I've gone through a number of the "symptoms" of limerence. So I was wondering if there can be a sort of reverse limerence, if that makes sense, where you feel the feelings once a separation happens. I hope this makes sense and thank yoi for your work in this channel 🙏

[CesarI.]

Thank you Dr. Beam and Kimberly for a very thought provoking video! I am familiar with the CAGE measure have seen it's utility as a good screening tool. I think adopting it to "screen" for limerence is a great insight. I wonder, just throwing it out there, if the Guilt component could also be viewed as guilt more associated with not spending more time with the object of their limerence rather than guilt that the limerence is occurring. Considering limerence can be nearly all consuming, I speculate that perhaps guilt as not as common as we would like. Just a thought, regardless; great video!

[taylorhumphreys]

This sounds like codependent love addiction

[MrsPFenzel]

I have a question about my husband's affair. He says he stayed in the affair because of selfishness. He knew she was a very disturbed person and had alot of issues but stayed with her anyway. I don't know how to move on from feeling such rejection from my husband because he went from avoiding me all these years to telling me he really really loves me now. Thank you

[flowerfullgirl_]

is it posible for limerence to turn into trully loving them for ever? like, you know you will be there for them always no matter what? Even if they leave, you will love them? You even feel so confident about really spending life with them and sharing this positive view of love and life and remaining strong no matter the bad or good we might experience, just trully loving each other...

[scottroberts]

How would cancer effect this? And can someones LO change overnight?

[joewee]

You mean with our phones? Tablets? Social media? Def not with another human being.

[MariaSteinbrecher]

look up attachementstyles. you are using an extremely easy theory I could explain to someone in elementary school wrongly. You don't change your attachementstyle for one person XD. I am pretty sure the rest of his talk is more his opinion, based on things he did not understand, either.