How Do I Figure Out What I Want?

Feeling lost? Figuring out what you want in life is something that we all struggle with at one point or another. You might be feeling lost if you're trying to figure out what to do with your life or find your life's purpose.

In this video, you'll learn key steps you can take to answer that nagging question of "what should I do with my life?" even if you are feeling lost right now.

The first step is to be honest with yourself about what you really want in life, and then own the fact that you're already clear about what it is you want. Don't trip yourself up by thinking you don't know what you want if you already sense what your purpose is in life. It's just an excuse and another thing standing in the way of you accomplishing your dreams.

The next step is to take action that's consistent with what you want. Getting what you want won't happen overnight, so be strong enough to stay on course with your dreams even when the voice of doubt pops into your head!

Thanks for watching!

[Pocketic]

I totally broke down and cried from this video it really hit a spot that needed healing. Thanks Marie for the breakthrough. this not admitting what I wanted had been such a struggle for me creating the "lost" experience and it completely devouring me and numbing my reality and creating obstacles. I didn't realize where I was, thanks for the opportunity to embrace that wounded part of me. when the student is ready the teacher appears I guess

[teresapahlevanyan]

This woman really motivates me as hell.

[brendajackson]

Marie's videos have taught me that it is ok to be quirky and playful, and still be taken seriously as a professional. Thanks a ton, Marie! PS: Lock up your closet, I'm coming for your clothes :-)

[alexandrac.macarthur]

Yes, I got into that trap real bad. In 2008 I had a huge epiphany where I realized I wanted to be a filmmaker. However, the film industry, how little it pays and how people are treated, totally discussed me. Unfortunately, I let the money thing confuse me. I started fantasizing about safer positions, putting all my energy into those. I developed the "I don't know what I want problem." Finally everyone had an intervention with me and told me to make some fucking movies and shut up. 

[KatieHarpCreative]

This was a major wakeup call for me to pay attention to what I'm passionate about because deep down I already know what it is! Thanks for this video :)

[annamae]

I'm past 30 and I'm still figuring it out. Quite different from Allison I actually don't know what I want 😕

[adriannapierzycka]

This is exactly what I've been going through for the past couple of years. I thought I didn't know what I want, however it turned out I just wasn't ready to embrace it yet. Finally I feel like I'm on my way to a more satisfying life.

[TheSLme]

12 years ago I finished high school and since then I never knew what to do with my life. One day I woke up and remembered a question some teacher asked me when I was little "what do you want to be when you grow up?" my answer was "a fashion designer". That has always been my passion, but I never believed in myself to go for it, so over the time I just forgot about it. Now I'm about to start studying fashion design, I hope to be strong enough to keep myself focused and confident in this desicion.

[SaraRahimi]

So true Marie. We all know what we want deep down, just not have the courage to go for it.

[PhoebesWorldProductions]

YES! I struggle with that ALL the time. I haven't a clue what I want. Then, I figure... "I've GOT what I want - just want a little "extra" and "guilt free". I DON'T feel I deserve it... but... I have it. And I fear "losing it". and etc.

[moniquejackson]

Love your videos Marie.  You're providing an inspiring example of a truly fulfilled life!  I love the reminder that we really do actually know what we want, we just need to stop being afraid to want it.    I love how you stopped mid-sentence to love on your belt for a few seconds.  What good is living life if you don't stop to smell the roses?  Thank you for being such an amazing example of unfettered feminine energy! 

[MC-olnd]

I have explored this topic all my life. Taken jobs that just pay the bills and was completely miserable. I have taken up new hobbies and after all this, still don't know what my passion is. Help!!! :(

[lizzymead]

Amazing answer!!! I love how you pointed out that she actually does know what she wants but that fear is getting in her way. I can completely relate as I have been afraid to take a leap and start a new career. Thanks for the inspiration!

[justleigh]

Marie, I love your intention in every word copied, written, spoken, and shared! You are the most succesful, yet always graceful, women I have seen.

Keep Rocking!
Leigh

[qudsiyyah]

you're sort of amazing! SO BLESSED TO HAVE FOUND YOUR CHANNEL!

I agree that often people do know what they want - they just get blocked by fear. I see this in my coaching practice alot. And language always gives away what people really mean - so great pick up there! Great episode Marie :)

[tomkop]

if someone would tell me to make a wish...anything I want...I wouldn't know what to wish for. that's how fucked up i am. and it's getting harder every year

[kathleenannemiguel]

Wow! Thank you for this! I'm really glad i stopped by to watch this vid because I'm currently in the same situation regarding my studies. I have to make a decision whether to stay on my course (what i thought was right for me) or shift to where i really excel at and my interest (i kind of regret now not choosing it bc i thought i couldnt do it). At least now im able to weigh my decisions and find my passion... thanks, Marie! You're really amazing!

[danrobinson]

Don't know if you'll see this Marie since it's a couple years old. But the part about completely surrendering to the aspiration it was caught my attention. I have had trouble with surrender in other parts of my life. I am weighing a big decision on what I truly want right now, so this video clip really helped me. Thanks!

[jasonrobustelli]

I was recently told by my mastermind I meet with that it didn't seem clear what I really wanted. I realized after we were done I really do know what I want. I actually have most everything already at my fingertips. Some of those things, like playing guitar, still need to be developed (I can't even play twinkle twinkle little star), but the point is it 'lights me up' inside. Thanks for helping me understand how easy it is to clarify our wants. (even if this was posted two years ago!)