Are Your Standards For A Guy Too High?

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Standards are a double edged sword.

On one hand they can raise your game, allow you to get the best out of people, and ensure you have the right foundation for a relationship you're embarking on.

However...

They can also be used as a protective shield, preventing you from meeting people you could otherwise have an incredible connection with.

After the first 7 Get The Guy Tour events this topic is hot on my mind right now as I've been asked about them at nearly every stop.

In this video I take you through a 3-step process to determine whether your standards are helping or hindering you, and what to do if it's the latter.

[vanessadu]

Many girls watch too much movie, and want a guy like the leading actor in real life. But, she's not like the leading actress either!
Come back to earth please, you're not in a movie!

[allenmciver]

Best Advice Ever, "Would you Date yourself."

[AvonleaMontague]

He signed off with, "Take care, my friends." Did we just get friend-zoned by Matthew Hussey??

[lauraelizabethbrown]

This was INCREDIBLY insightful. Especially the point where you talk about dating the guy who will never reject you--and not the guy you are afraid to be rejected by.

[tijsvaniersel]

My mother always says: "If you date the 'popular' guy you'll never have him for yourself but if you date a trustful man with a great hart you'll live an amazing life." My mom has had a relationship with my dad since her high school.

[pablov]

"Omg dating is sooo hard I have tons of guys interested in me I feel like I'm checking the menu at a restaurant and I can choose whatever I want, I have too many options! I hate dating!".-girls

[MrQuagmire]

I know a girl like that. She met lots of good guys, but it's always some bullshit like "he's too short" (she's 5'1 btw), "he got the wrong hair color", "he's not this..", "he's not that".. bla bla bla. and she is acting so damn entitled that pretty much everyone told her that she'll remain single forever.

[AleJimenez]

'What is more sexy than a millionaire? A billionaire (who spanks people)'. Ok the video is going to be great

[MarianneAm]

"Enjoy that book that you are reading.... not in public" hahhaha I died 😂

[minmie]

Everything you mentioned was right. I did lower my standard to my ex then he treated me badly. After watching your videos and reading your books, i know how my standard for a man should be. I talked to him and he asked for a chance to make up for his mistakes. I'm not sure he can change truly or not but he is getting better :)

[wendym]

Ha! Yeah beware of the "nice guy" you think will never hurt you! The nicest guy I dated is absolutely the one who hurt me the worst! Turns out he was not so nice at all. He actually lied the most out of every guy I have dated because he withheld his feelings of unhappiness for years. I lowered my standards and overlooked the red flags with him - because he was so nice! Won't make that mistake

[finnishguy]

I know a couple of girls who have been on HUNDREDS of dates and claim they couldn't find anyone they "clicked" with. That's when you gotta look at the mirror.

Ladies, perfect doesn't exist. Make sure you don't fall in love with your fantasies instead of the actual person, since the reality tends to come down hard on y'all.

Also, don't let your friends decide who you're dating. It's YOU that makes the decision. If they shoot down every guy you're dating or make you choose between them and your date, are they really your friends?
I don't know, but too many times I've heard a woman say: "You're such a sweet gentleman and I really liked you, but my friends didn't quite feel you."
At least don't judge the dude your friend is going on a date with, before you have met him in person.

[Misterkill]

my standards are so low, a girl just needs to say yes to a date. been single for ten years now. kinda thinking that i wont find anyone.

[emilyyb]

This guy is hot!
"a billionaire...who spanks people" haha made me laugh!

[jakemac]

Women bring up all these ridiculous standards to the table, but what value are they bringing to back all that up?

[gummybears]

I think i need to live with matthew so i can be decent at relationships, I need him so bad

[saucey]

Girl: _I want a 7' minium guy he has to be at least a billionare, he has to have abs and has to have perfect hair, smell nice, and have an amazing personality, to treat me like a queen and to cook for me, to give me flowers while I don't do shit at all._

[ggmash]

If there’s any ladies who’s number 2 like I was, please remember to not judge by looks, I was treated like crap by one bf and left by another who were notably below my standards (friends strangers and family would make comments throughout relationships etc) that I accepted into my life thinking they’d be more appreciative to have me and less likely to leave, whereas I’m now seeing guys who are more my standards and they have treated me well. I realised it wasn’t the guys fault, I chose to settle and accepted the love and treatment I thought I deserved. I had to improve my mind set, life goals and self esteem to date better ones I freely. Remember everyone is flawed so don’t put men on pedestals, get to know everyone equally, trust until they prove they can’t be trusted by their actions, not by how you expect them to act, if they reject you that’s ok anybody has the right to and they probs weren’t right for you, don’t be scared to receive and reciprocate attention from someone you find charming or talented, they found you interesting for a reason so explore that.

[LatinLegacyNY]

The biggest issue I am seeing with most women today is the value they put on how a man looks. It has gotten so bad that they are willing to take a good looking man that comes with a list of problems over an average looking guy that has good values and standards. That is why a lot of them end up in bad relationships and instead of blaming the men they they are choosing, they blame all men.

[rileyboenig]

you are seriously so inspiring, your videos are making this break up i'm going through so much easier and thank u for that!