How to Actually Raise Your Standards

Lose interest in the “bad boys” and receive queen treatment from high value good men ❤️

"A woman who embraces her femininity is a woman who knows her power" ❤️

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[sandraw]

everyone should take your course, it is absolutely life-chaning. still processing all these valuable informations. thank you so much Alexis

[Shiningsnow]

My standards was high from my childhood. I thought I need to lower my standards. I did and it was a bad decision.Then I realised we shouldn't lower our standards. I learned it a hard way.

[Joynzau]

Ikea effect: You value something you put more work into it.

If you keep trying to belong, it will make your life harder.

Never date a broke man. Financially, physically, mentally, spiritually.

Inner work is making you the match for your rich man.

By doing inner work, you are preparing yourself for your desired relationship.

You are selfish for not having high standards because it will affect your offspring that deserve to live a happy life and it insults you.

As a woman, you are allowed to change your mind at any point.

Being in touch with your feminine energy will upgrade your relationship with yourself and your partner.

Dressing up is giving yourself 100% for the day.

[drewm]

Oh my gosh... the rich man/poor man analogy called me out big time. I've been taken out by such rich hot absolutely lovely guys and turned them down. Meanwhile, I've settled for the potential of guys who have little to offer me and turn out to be abusive. I felt like I'd be called shallow if I accepted love from somebody attractive and successful, because everyone called me shallow throughout my life just based on assumptions. I felt like I had to prove them wrong. Never doing that again. It's okay to be treated wonderfully.

[IdorenyinIbanga_]

My job as a woman is to avoid broke men because they bring a lot of stress to the table.

[alishawinters]

So, in order to be IKEA proof from "boys", I have to start building myself with that same IKEA effect. Shift of focus and dedication towards self.

[TynishaTalks]

I can 1000% relate to cringing when I think about what I tolerated in the past. But you experienced this to be a light to others 🙏🏽

[Levelupandheal]

I just found your channel 3 weeks ago and you've already changed my life and my marriage. I wish all women can find you <3

[IsKaiOkay]

I can attest to the you leveling up levels up your husband 💯 there was disonance at first but I persisted and told myself “it’s either going to be him and he’ll figure it out or it’ll be someone else but either way this is what I want.” It ended up being him.

[riyakumari]

I used to have very high standards but I thought It was too much and lowered them but later I realized that was my biggest mistake . I attracted literally broke mindset person and he later messed up with my mind completely. He literally destroyed my whole self confidence . I was thrown lowest in my life by him 😢.

I am never ever going to lower my standards literally for no one now.

[uhpluplum]

Also, I don’t know if this is a good thing but it can definitely work in our favor! When we spend so much time, more and more every week working on ourselves and investing in ourselves, we are essentially using the IKEA effect on us! I see this in myself. I have worked on myself for so long and so passionately that I can’t give me less than I worked for. Because I have invested in me, I now want it to work, so I am choosing me more than I choose anything other than what I want.

[EveryWander]

“I am no longer responsible for the emotions of other people” I needed to hear this so much right now! Thank you! Going through something with a family member too who is calling my sisters and I all toxic and removing themselves. I’ve been really struggling with why it’s like this and what we could do to make it better. But I have to come to terms with how there might not be anything we can or should do. They’re an adult and I have to just trust that this is what’s best for now and though it sucks to not have them around lately, we can’t change how they feel.

[nicolataylor]

While I was doing laundry last Saturday I asked myself why I keep attracting men that were projects.... it's been a week since i discovered that negative self talk about myself...I started to pay more attention to myself...I am changing myself talk...like you said when you take
care of yourself spiritually, emotionally, financially....u draw that which you are...God sent this message on time...

[aliceandappetizers]

thank you Alexis. I rarely made the connection that dating a wounded masculine affects the wounded feminine as well

[NNNN-oupq]

Girls never accept a man who is less than u in any aspect, chose better looking, better financially, better education, better family.

[luckymitchell]

I believe the term is Sunk Cost Fallacy. It’s why I couldn’t leave my dismissive avoidant husband for 16 years but I finally found the strength to leave and do my healing work to not keep attracting emotionally unavailable men

[christinemariesanchez]

Aaaaah dating a broke man financially, mentally, emotionally and physically, having the bare minimum treatment, me pursuing that man—boy, never ever planning a date, and mothering him— happened from one guy. Ikea effect proven 😭 glad we broke up last month.

[blackkitty]

it is so important that women who have daddy issues work on their decisions because the problem is that when you didn't have the best relationship with your dad, you will unconsciously pick men who will reflec that lack of attention, lack of love, etc. it is a conscious decision

[ellensheriff]

This is so true. I remembered when I was in college, I gave my all to building my career to the extent of being so confident. My husband persuaded me with all this might because I didn’t want my energy divided, so he supported me throughout until we got married. Thank you so much!

[DivinelyProvided]

I am so grateful to God that I was led to your channel.