Are you too nice for your own good

Being too nice presents a lot of challenges. The main issue with trying to please everyone is that people take advantage of you. People eventually lose respect for you, too. If you don’t care about your needs, no one else will either. It’s important to be your number one advocate. When you respect yourself, others can respect you, too.

Use these techniques to be good to yourself and stop being too nice:

1. Do something you want to do, but are afraid others won’t approve.
2. Be assertive.
3. Realize that you can be a great person without being subservient to everyone else.
4. Many overly nice people aren’t actually nice.
5. People that are too nice are often overly passive or aggressive, with little behavior between these extremes.
6. What’s the worst that could happen if you failed to please someone?
7. Review your boundaries regularly.

Are you too nice? Always trying to please others is a poor strategy for navigating the world. It’s not an effective way to meet your needs or gain the respect of others. Be kind, but ensure that you’re taking care of yourself, too. Spending too much time pleasing others will result in your own displeasure.

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