The Curse of Being Too Nice

It was midnight when Jake left Peter’s house. He was there for 4 hours, listening to Peter’s rant about money, about work, and even about the weather. Peter didn’t stop once to ask Jake how he was doing. Peter just needed to rant. Jake didn’t particularly like it, but Peter was his friend. So he tolerated. You must be nice to people, that’s what his mama always said.
Jake was the first to die, among all of his friends.

In this video, we drive deep on the reason why nice people more common than not die earlier than others. If you are a nice person, you probably need to see how it has affect your life, and let me know in the comment below.

Thank for watching my videos. And remember, just because being nice might harm you one way or another, that's no reason to be a jerk. Cheers
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SOURCES AND MATERIAL

- Correlation between niceness and ALS: Mehl T, Jordan B, Zierz S. "Patients with amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS) are usually nice persons"-How physicians experienced in ALS see the personality characteristics of their patients. Brain Behav. 2016 Nov 10;7(1):e00599. doi: 10.1002/brb3.599. PMID: 28127517; PMCID: PMC5256182.

- On Attachment vs Authenticity: Gillath, O. et al. (2010) ‘Attachment, authenticity, and honesty: Dispositional and experimentally induced security can reduce self- and other-deception.’, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 98(5), pp. 841–855. doi:10.1037/a0019206.

[Zaxeras]

To be honest being "nice" doesn't really suck. Being good to others does not mean ignoring personal limits or lacking self-care. In those cases where being "nice" sucks, you're not really being nice, you're just a person with poor social skills and low self-esteem. And this can be overcome and be a person appreciated by others and valued as such.

[hellenahamutenya]

Being nice in a dark world is very hard, most of us could have been dead by now if we let most of this people in this world lead us

[masongerber]

This really helps highlight the difference between nice and kind. Being nice is good, but it can be a surface level way of satisficing those around you. Being kind, however, is a deep and more authentic metric for how to treat others around you. For example, if your friend is an alcoholic and it's ruining their life, the "nice" thing to do would be to smile and tell them they can call you if they need a ride home from the bar. The "kind" thing to do would be to call them out on it and call them to a higher standard, because you care more about their best interest than you do about their feelings. Kindness wins over niceness any day. And kindness is what we're called to. Galatians 5:22-23 ❤

[Gamer-oxdn]

This is really the reality of nice people, I myself trying to please others lost myself. Now, I don't really know what i want or want I want to do in life. It's really fucked up

[Datb]

One thing I tell myself is the world won’t end if you’re not nice. People can deal it’s fine.

[imadork]

It's crazy what a complex system our bodies are, and the more we understand them, the less we understand them.

[Zeroreaper.]

I sure won't have that kind of problem of being overly nice since most people find my attitude arrogant, cold and despise me. I hope to keep things that way.

[ScarletteXoxo-wgui]

I've learned that having self awareness can safe guard you from wrong people, situation, mistakes, and stress/depression.

[drahzevek]

Very great video, I am a Brazilian learning English and I am using your videos to train, keep going

[jemalo-cszweitausend]

I wish I knew this back in 2013... now I'm 24 and feel like an unauthentic and drained adult. Being ashamed of one's own emotions and being nice ruined my youth.

[goamatotes]

Why nobody talkin bout that bee at 3:06

[myrkurvr]

Nothing helps stress more like being told to not be stressed and how bad it is to be stressed.

[gorgeao]

You deserve way more clicks than you have, for such good videos

[YoungGandalf]

Have scientists found a correlation between being a douchebag and living longer or being healthier?

[mike-xtvy]

You told me not to be nice then here it comes
IT IS PRONOUNCED OFEN NOT OFTTTEN

[ADHDGaming-jf]

Thank you lazyowl❤ i'm one of the "afraid to say no" guy...it is so annoying to have behaviour like that but after i watch lazyowl videos even though a little bit but i know what to do now, I love you Lazyowl truly Underrated channel❤

[petebunting]

aww man this is painful to watch. true and painful.

[antoniojaviergarciapaez]

haven't seen the video and its great! now lets see it

[ravajow]

Loved to see your videos...., ❤big fan

[that_objectguy]

This “nice” thing is not being nice. You’re faking your happiness. Niceness is always sharing your honest opinion and being blunt while being respectful.