The Love Shortage: Why Everyone Is Lonelier Than Ever

Why I believe loneliness/being down bad is on the rise.

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Timestamps
Intro: 0:00
The Collective Consciousness Is Down Bad: 0:23
More Connected Than Ever, Less Connected Than Ever: 1:50
More Self Absorbed, Less Community Based: 4:34
More Labels Means More Division: 6:16
Enhanced Confirmation Bias: 7:28
Lack of Vulnerability/Authenticity: 8:19
What Can You Do?: 9:58

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Hey, I'm Cole Hastings. I'm a vegan athlete/content creator with a passion for videography/video editing, among other things. I try to help people through sharing my experiences and evolution through life.

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[ColeHastings]

Hey everyone,
Back from a much needed short break. Feeling recharged and have implemented some new things/mindsets into my routine that i hope to share with you.

[DemetriPanici]

I wish everyone a year filled with close relationships, platonic, and romantic love

[dbez]

I feel like it’s so much harder to meet new people and maintain relationships because everyone is so closed off and private, myself included. I think the pandemic definitely messed with a lot of peoples heads and their thought process when it comes to making new connections

[theguybehindyou]

As an introvert who was an outcast in school and am only now learning to make friends in my 30s, all I can say is, “welcome to my world”

[Sweeneytv]

you put everything I've been thinking about into words very nicely. I agree. Compassion and general kindness is DOWN massively in society. I also think a big point of this is peoples lack of meaning or disregard for looking for meaning outside of themselves.

[theironworks]

Part of the problem is that, in my experience, people are viewed as expendable. If something your friend does makes you uncomfortable, all you have to do is block them and move on. There's no discussion of how to improve; the next possibility is always a block or mute away. A friend is viewed as someone to talk to, but not someone who will be there for you.

[Deadpool....]

"That person that helps others because it should or must be done, is without a doubt a real hero. " -Stan Lee

[Arabellacia]

I agree. The “do everything yourself” attitude is detrimental. The best thing you have to share is love

[cherryhazard]

Because the world has turned into a cold, superficial and selfish place. It's all about what the other person can provide, it's all about if the other person is exactly the person that has your exact same standards, it's all about what you can gain with being with the other person.

There were not much expectations about it back in the day, it was just someone that you could see yourself growing old with. It was more raw, more genuine. Technology has made love seem way colder.

I am glad I found someone that loves me genuinely, and I love that person back, but not everyone is lucky, yet.

It has to be said that to be loved, you need to love, but genuinely. Don't love just so the other person loves you, love in a way that is like your natural state of being (Be nice and chill most of the time, see other people as humans just like you, look at the positive side, etc.)

You will instantly have love flooding in your life.

[nadineskye]

This may be one of the most important videos on YT. Right before COVID hit, I was lamenting to a friend about the lack of love and empathy in the world. I went out into the world trying to be friendly and kind, and my efforts were largely unreciprocated. She essentially told me to be "grateful to be living in the best possible times". I left the conversation feeling like I had been too sensitive and ungrateful to the ills I perceived in the world. Yes, many things are better today - Technology, medical care (if you can afford either), rights for certain groups, etc. Still, I couldn't shake the emptiness I felt inside. COVID has only amplified these sentiments. I am thankful for this video, which acknowledges that there is indeed a problem with connection ( or lack thereof). I needed the reminder that true kindness should without expectations. Instead of wallowing in self-pity, I will go forth into the world with a light heart and spread kindness wherever I go. <3

[TheDhammaHub]

The more we "move digital", the less opportunity there is for real, quality interaction. At least in Germany, it was insanely hard to meet new people - especially at university. 2 Semesters of students never really met anyone in person here

[Shdwzzz]

My girlfriend and I broke up recently. She was in her phone all day long even if we were free together. She called other people for hours on hours via phone. She would send dozens of selfies via snapchat and Instagram. And at the end of the day she said I didn't give her enough attention. She is looking for something that does not exist. I feel sorry for the next guy to waste his life to learn this lesson. You cannot beat a man who is not in the relationship with your girlfriend. For he will seem perfect because he didn't wake up next to a grumpy person who's first act of the day is picking up her phone instead of saying good morning.

[AhmetKaan]

*"Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you have power over instead of craving control over what you don't." - Steve Maraboli*

[evanstroud]

It's sad that most don't realize when you distill human interaction down to literally only interacting - for example, phone calls, Zoom, Twitch, etc. - loneliness sets in, because being present is a responsibility and takes effort. If we only seek the most convenient ways to connect, we don't have to actually invest effort or sacrifice at all. Now it's at the point where just face-to-face interaction causes people anxiety. Social interaction is like a muscle that's atrophying because we want our relationships (like everything else) to be as easy as possible.

[robvandooren]

You absolutely nailed it with this video Cole. I completely agree with your points and feel like people get personally attacked, distant and entitled for these reasons. I've learnt to only share my personal opinions with people I know are open minded, and treat everyone else simply with unconditional love.

[PhoenixRiseinFlame]

I like the idea of showing kindness to people, but in my experience, if you show kindness to others they seem to take that as a sign of weakness and, more often than not, people will exploit that for their own gain. It just goes to show how shitty people are out there.

[paulblart]

Easy explanation. Lack of family = lack of love. People learn by example. No example, no love.

[QuantayPeoples]

This needs to be broadcasted all over the country.

[charli]

You spoke the hell out of my heart right now. All we hear is 'me, myself and I'. The newer generations unlearn how to help and be there for others. I really think there should be an age when you can legaly use social media. Simon Sinek, in my opinion one of the biggest Thinker those days, said social media is like consuming drugs. And he is f+cking right. I deleted Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. I do not miss these platforms. I have so much more time and feeling very much healthier. Go out there, help friends making their dreams come true, spend love and all will come to you back.

[DemetriPanici]

*“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”- Oscar Wilde*