Why You Feel Unlovable

Do you ever find yourself feeling unlovable, despite the presence of loving relationships in your life? In this thought-provoking video, we delve into the deep-rooted reasons behind feeling unlovable and explore empowering strategies to overcome this challenging emotion. Whether you struggle with low self-esteem, past traumas, or self-imposed expectations, this insightful guide will help you understand the complex factors contributing to these feelings and guide you towards rediscovering your inherent worthiness of love and acceptance.

Researcher/Writer: Morgan Swift
Editor: Caitlin McColl
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Production Assistant: Thomas Kang
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References

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Graham, L. (n.d.). The Neurobiology of feeling unlovable [Blog post].

[MiaCarter]

I want to leave the planet so badly sometimes. I just feel I’m not meant to experience the happiness I desire, and if I’m not, I don’t want to continue suffering here

[buckfidencoincidencetheori]

Reaching out and needing connection equals pain

This hits deep.

[neonredhex]

Speaking as someone who feels undeserving of love, it's difficult to convince someone they're deserving of love because they don't understand why or how. You can't just say no one is unlovable or that someone out there loves you because often the question that'll be brought up is "what makes me lovable?" "Why do i deserve love?" "What would people like about me?" If you want to explain to someone why they're lovable, using real-world examples in regards to who they are and what they do can further cement the idea that maybe they do deserve love.

[jakeaurod]

No one is unlovable, but it seems that there are people for whom love does not happen. It's not that it can't happen, just that it continues to not happen.

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). An early defining moment 0:41
2). Rejection and abuse 1:36
3). Shame 2:18
4). How to heal 3:03

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[indecisitivity]

Ok wait this one has my attention… it’s just too relatable. Take care of yourselves guys, you need to find ways to promote self-love, especially when others can’t love and accept you for who you are.

[FrozenFuze]

Relatable... I feel that I am only valuable when I do things that my peers and parents want me to do at 100%. If I dont do that myself as a person is worthless and unworthy of love. I am only loved when I work hard. I am not useless, I am worthless because anyone can replace me.

[zero]

I think the problem is more like being unloved than being unlovable

[nicholasleipzig]

This is relatable. I couldn't get enough marks in science and maths and my family started hating me for it. It was as if they stopped giving me that little bit of love i used to get from them. Although things have now improved i still can't get over it. My family always tries to make themselves look good in front of other people. They make excuses about my mental problems and always make me feel like I'm a burden to the family and that I never should've been born. I just envy those who have healthy relationship with their family and loved ones

[belliyt]

It's also important to realize that, apart from being loved, you are love.

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Timestamps
0:41 An early defining moment
1:39 Rejection & Abuse
2:18 Shame
3:03 How to Heal?

That's it
Hope it helps!

[ravenomega]

I was never in an abusive relationship. I WAS the abusive relationship. My feeling of being unloved comes from hating myself. Being bitter and ashamed of the things ive done. Feeling like ive betrayed life itself and now it will punish me for the rest of my days by keeping me with a perpetual feeling of loneliness.

[Vital]

Today I reached out to my girlfriend whom I haven't heard from in a while, and told her I miss her and hope to see her soon. Shortly after, I had a mental image of my mom being annoyed or frustrated from when I was younger and would ask for her in some way, and saw very clearly one of the things that makes me afraid to ask for my girlfriend which makes me feel like I am intruding or being a burden.

[chezdavies]

"Make you believe you're unworthy of love." Im 65 now. 100% alone. Scary.

[weightlossandwellness]

This one made me cry because it's so true to me. I was rejected from the beginning and often in my life. It's hard to heal but I am trying.

[aniE]

This is probably the most common kind of thoughts that wake me up in the middle of the night preventing me from getting back to sleep.

[jamesaita]

40 years of therapy, and I still feel unlovable. It's not easy to overcome

[julsjcjj]

That's true. I felt unworthy of love almost my whole life and then I met a person (no not romantically, for anyone who's single and stuck in a mentality that they'll never find love) who appreciated me for me. Loving relationships can TRULY rewire your brain. I don't know how long it'll last but I'm happy someone finally showed me that I'm lovable and helped me with my self-esteem in such easy way.

[boo_aa]

i guess i'm not the only one who is feeling like this, right?.. it' hard to believe that you deserve love or that someone loves you...


thanks for the video !!

[JoelDJohnson]

This is so relatable. My mind was telling me, that I don't deserve love from anyone, that's where the depression comes from. Now, I'm going to therapy and I'm also taking meds to help me feel better about anything. I almost always write about love in my poetry because I'm INFP-T, and I watch and read ROM COMS a lot, also sone funny comics, too.