My Coming out Story 🏳️‍🌈

Hey guys, today, I thought I'd explain my journey with coming out as bisexual, or gay, or demisexual, depending on your point of you. Honestly, it's a long story it's complex. But I hope you enjoy it and please leave me questions and comments and I'd be happy to answer! I hope you're having a beautiful day and I will talk to you guys very soon!

[smit]

I am 22 who identify as bisexual and haven't come out to anybody yet. Be yourself because everyone deserves happiness. 🏳️‍🌈❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[timd]

I stick with bisexual, but tend to prefer men. Married to my ex wife for 9 years, in a relationship with my partner for 8 years. (The two of them go to movies together, lol, they’ve bonded over marvel movies) I prefer men, but don’t close the door on women. Thanks for sharing your story, sir!

[taylormorgan]

Thanks, Jaks, for sharing your story. Sexuality can be very fluid over time. I myself, am attracted to both men and women. I was married to a woman for 17 years and have two beautiful children. Now I have been with my husband for 28 years. I have felt deep love for both of them and consider both of them my soul mates. Circumstances change, life changes. You learn more about yourself as the years go by. I would love to have a man and a woman in my life at the same time, but that will never happen, so I appreciate what I do have.

[drewshulz]

I've been part way in the closet for decades. Was married for 11 years. String of short buddies, varried genders. Almost unalived myself, overwhelmed by guilt and shame. Your channel is Great! So grateful for your courage. It felt like you were whispering just to me. You have a beautiful heart. ❤💋

[lawrenceking]

The reason people try to categorize others is because everyone tries to label themselves. And in an attempt to stand out, they keep coming up with new names to make themselves stand out. A lot of these labels also originated in porn as a way to direct viewers to their preferred type of performer. People are now trying to fit into these categories mainly to advertise themselves to those who are attracted to their anesthetic. I honestly cannot say I would date a Trans woman, because for me that will always visually be a woman no matter what is between her legs. But that could change if i met the right one. The problem is nowadays we're not really taking the time to get to know PEOPLE. We make up this predetermined "type" where they have to check all the boxes before we even give them the time of day.

[BartBosman-abc]

Hi Jaks, being a newbie to social media I only just discovered your videos/shorts - a very good experience for me. I enjoyed listening to your coming out story: so different from mine, and yet so many similarities as well. Inevitably hearing from you sent me down memory lane (my own coming out, such as it was, happened in 1976!) which was good but kept me up at night -- and heaven knows I need my beauty sleep, so thanks for that :--) I also watched a number of your shorts. One that particularly resonated with me was the one where you explain it is alright to be vanilla, or bland, or whatever. I like nothing better than staying at home with a good book. To ech his own. What would be really boring is if we were all exactly the same, liked the same thing, etc.

Another interesting one is the one where you told you tend to get noticed by different types of men depending on whether you are clean-shaven or are sporting a beard. Very true indeed, as most men will agree. And yet... I am one of those who prefer to look at clean-shaven faces (I am always suspicious about what these beards might be hiding, it could be a a multiplicity of sins, or even a multiplicy of chins) but your particular type of beard/stubble (bristly rather than fluffy) is actually quite attractive. In fact it reminds me of the first guy I made love with (although ancient I can just about remember it!).

Oh well. Just wanted to say hi, really. Keep up the good work. I hope to find the time to watch more of your videos (obviously I haven't even begun to scratch the surface so far). Oh, before I forget, the best thing about your videos is that you are so eloquent. Do you just talk off the cufff? Quite amazing. And much appreciated and enjoyed.

Bart

[chaallus]

All I know is.. absolutely everything about you is FIRE & GOLD. Have a fantastic, beautiful life!

[markviolette]

So interesting because my Mom also struggled the most with my coming out more so than my Dad! You did an amazing job stepping through your coming out story! You definitely kept my attention through your entire video!

[benyounce]

Jaks,
Your story was refreshing to hear. My philosophy for sexual identity has always been: sex is not male or female, it’s human. I know for me there was a physical awakening before the psychological awakening. I was 12 years old and being fitted at a men’s store for a new suit. When the salesman ran his hands down my legs in order to get measurements I felt like I had been struck with lightning. This wasn’t pervy in any way. It was just when my body woke up to sensual feelings.
There was no bodily response like an erection, just an awakening and a feeling I had never experienced. And yes, it was incredible. The psychological part has been a rough road at times given the times and home I lived in over the years.
I share the above to let you know not to worry about coming out when or to whom. It’s your life, your body,
(and I might add a very fine body) and your in control. Enjoy all the sensations and emotions that you will have coming your way. Never regret !!!!

[DudleyMahon]

You are you. be happy in your skin. You don't have to put a label on it. Thank you for sharing your story.

[EathanSwift]

It’s crazy almost every coming out story I’ve listened to so far I always find things I relate to and experienced the same thing

[dalus]

Just found this. I loved hearing your story. And especially liked your attitude to your own unique variety of sexuality and orientation. It's great you can feel so free to claim all that you feel and all that you are.

[luckysunbird]

Thanks for sharing. You are so right in saying that you have to come out over and over. You deal with the really important people first off but then over time you come out to the new people that enter your life..

[CandleLight]

Labels make things quick and easy to categorize but nothing about people is that simple. I hate labels and all the bs that comes from them in and out of the LGBTQ community. We don't have a label for people who like pizza or for those who don't like jazz, why do we still need labels for our sexuality? You do you man, find happiness with whoever makes you happy!

[TheDirtDoctor]

Thanks Jaks for sharing. I figured out I was bi when I was 56 yo. Accepting this I am so much happier and have met many new guy friends.

[flyjet]

Good work! You're a lucky dude. Go forth and have a great life!

[kenvanderveer]

Jaks, you seem like an intelligent, young man. So stop complicating your life. You don't need labels. I'm 71, and the greatest lesson I have ever learned is...love who you love. Any time someone starts asking me questions I get just as personal with them. I'm just as direct with them as I need to be to make them understand to keep their noses out of my personal business. I wish you all the best, young man.

[mwmurdock]

Thanks, Jak. Loved your presentation. You’re a beautiful human being! ❤

[markdrennan]

Hi mate, great video. Hope you have great experiences. So lucky your parents and family are so supportive. Your partner will certainly be a very lucky person to have you.

[stevejones]

Awesome story, thank you for sharing! Looking forward to hearing more from you.