The REAL Secret To Getting Closure (It's not what you think...) (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

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Let’s face it, I have a weird job.

My friends think so. My mum definitely thinks so.

This week, if you’ve ever wanted a behind-the-scenes preview into the actual life of a “dating coach” (God, I hate that job title), then make sure to watch this week’s video.

You’ll see some of my personal thoughts on the state of modern dating, as well as one of my most powerful mindset shifts to help you handle your emotional response when a guy flakes on you...

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Directed by Jameson Jordan
Starring Matthew Hussey

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[moonstruck]

"the minute we like someone, our standards go out the door" sad but so true

[bbreviewsmoviesattemptscom]

"disinterest is closure" I am going to hold onto that.

[ayo_moreno]

"Disinterest is closure." I swear that brought me to tears just now.. He simply doesn't care anymore and coming to term with this is killing me.

[xuanius]

"Just because it hurts, it doesn't mean it's the wrong thing"

Everyone who chooses to leave a relationship that they know rationally is unhealthy (but emotionally still feels attached to) needs to keep reminding themselves of this. It might feel like shit for months but you are making room in your life for something that will contribute to your well being in the future.

Heck, even working out is painful and difficult in the moment, but we do it because we know it'll make our bodies stronger.

[ChrishelleMonet]

Closure is so overrated. If someone isn't interested in you, that's closure! You my friend are a God send. Thank you and continue to do great work. xoxo

[lindabui]

I used to think about needing closure too. But what I learned is that the other person would not give you an honest answer. When my ex broke up with me out of the blue, he told me he wanted to be alone and work on himself and it was not me but him.1.5 month later he start seeing someone else. I should have known better. For the next time you and I should learn that they they don't want to be in a relationship with us. It is better to move on from the second they break up, than to overthink. We can't find the answers because we are not them. When I accepted the break up, it was so easy to move on with my life and find happiness

[NancyArnstein]

“if someone isn’t interested in you, THAT’S closure”

[Euphrigenic]

"Acceptance, just because it hurts doesn't mean it's the wrong thing. Many of us go back to someone, not realizing the pain is just something we need to get over. It's part of the "teething" process of breaking up with someone. It's not a sign that they were right for us after all, and we need to go back there."

Thank you I needed that. ❤️

[safia]

"Disinterest is closure", yes indeed.

[jackieseow]

Breadcrumbing is worst than ghosting, so true.. This is deep and raw, thanks Matthew

[malyasiolek]

I got broken up through a text with no closure, no explanation, being made feel as if I did everything wrong etc when I poured my heart out to him. Ive spend months obsessing over the reasons why. Months crying and being broken. It wasn't until I understood that no closure = closure, something so simple but so hard to grasp. Thats when I could move on, and right now I am in a similar situation but I am dealing 100% better understanding that I do not need any closure at all! Perhaps everyone has to go through it at least once. My story is the perfect example of how every setback only makes you stronger! You don't need closure you just need to accept it and move on. You will come out so much stronger after this!

[sararaiss]

A lot of girls on here tell you how handsome you are.
Or if they could use your tips on you.

Well, I want to say that what I see is a man who would be the best father.
Best husband.
Best friend and best son.

Congrats on being a real man.

[gaaraluva]

I cried. legitimately I cried. I had no idea how relatable this video was going to be for me. This is such an important video. The advice in here is advice every woman going through what I'm going through should hear. That was beautiful and painfully relatable. Just because it hurts doesn't mean it's the wrong decision, and when you love someone, yes your standards do go out the window, the fun dies and you become dependent on them, and when they don't feel the same they breadcrumb you, or they don't invest as much time, but that neglect, that disinterest, that's closure. Closure is overrated. If you're waiting for closure, you're waiting on a toxic person to realize something they may never, not understanding your value was the reason you left, yes it hurts ofcourse it hurts but even at your best you can never be good enough for the wrong person so why expect them to come back around, them not coming back around is the reason why you're leaving. So don't wait for them or on them. Let them go for good, both physically and mentally. Disinterest is closure. Thank you so so much Matt! You've saved me a lot of doubt and grievance.

[charmaignecalinao]

"When someone invests less, we invest even more" ... this hit me hard. "Disinterest is closure". That was the greatest advice ever.. and also why I was able to focus more when I was younger. I was not interested in a lot of men until my hormones kicked up haha! I'm a lot more careful now due to pain I have to endure.

[AndySandy]

He gives advice for women, but honestly, a lot of this advice works for men too. Great stuff.

[FireCracker]

"Disinterest IS Closure." One of the best lines I've ever heard anywhere. If you realize this early on, you can avoid getting involved at all, or being breadcrumbed, which can do a real number on your heart.

Disinterest is closure. Words to live by.

[mrclrpnt]

I feel so dumb now because I still couldn't let go of someone I really like.

[thelillypad]

The moment I realised I just wasn’t THAT important to my ex.... we were done

[immaculatepassarellah]

"Disintrest is closure" the best advice i have heard in 4 days. I was so down blaming myself and asking myself why?
The moment you realize you were an option is the best.

[jlqe]

"Disinterest is closure" and "bad behavior is doing less so you do more" got me through accepting that, after three separate attempts at trying to get back with her and failing, I had to accept the breakup and go on with my life whether she was in it or not. She simply wasn't interested at all. That was my closure. And so far, so good. Everything is looking up, months after I chose to move on. Thanks Matthew, you are really making a difference!