why we struggle with discipline (& how to improve)

many of us have unhealthy relationships with discipline & routine because society has taught us that we are inherently unworthy of the life we want. want financial freedom? you first have to go to college, climb the corporate ladder, and slave away for 30+ years before you can enjoy it at retirement. follow the rules, and you will get there one day. the last few years have taught us that this isn't true. we are discovering that we are capable & deserving of financial freedom, happiness, and overall a life of abundance without following the standard rules of the system. in this video, i share some practical ways you can build your dream life & implement discipline in order to do so.

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age: 24
race: black
sign: aries

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[janelleprotagonist]

I literally just had this realization! Working out everyday is an act of self love. Discipline= consistently showing up for and loving yourself

[mariafernandacaicedo]

I was waking up at 5 am every single morning and cleaning, washing the dishes, and having a perfect clean home but feeling drained and awful, because my “motivation” was to fill a society expectation, a rule that says that I need to be a perfect wife with the perfect life and tidy home. When I realized that I DONT HAVE TO FILL ANYBODY EXPECTATIONS BUT MINE. I still wake up by 5 am but now I am doing it for me, to have a calm morning, make myself a good breakfast, have time to read and journal and now my days starts with the right foot. Same habit, different motivation = 100% change

[saxetlove]

Big take aways for me:
1.TRUST YOURSELF
2.discipline=power=self love
3. It’s a journey.enjoy it.
4. Spend time alone to connect with yourself and what calls you.
5. Creat a system to get you closer to your goals.

Thank you for this!

Love and blessings to all
💟

[nesa]

I’m gonna be honest, I avoided this video for a long time. I’m scared of learning about things that are good for me. I was scared that I was going to feel guilty. But this video made me feel a lot better about these things. Never thought that self-love would intertwine with discipline. This video changed my mindset. Thank you so much.

[DanielleBallou]

I was NOT raised in a disciplined home, so it’s a daily struggle for me. Thanks for the reminder that discipline is love (not just for my son, I deserve the same love 💚)! Thanks for sharing your journey! 🫶🏽

[cortadito_]

Thank you for this video. I found myself on a negative spiral about how I’m not doing enough, how I’m not being disciplined enough, and this really helped me see how much I’m shaming myself into “living” a certain way because that’s what other “more successful” people must do. This helped me remember that I can live my life how *I* want. It doesn’t have to look like others’ lives.

[yagmureyupoglu]

how could you even manage to hit the spot every single time when every single one of your videos is like a summary of my whole lifespan

[shriya]

You know what? You’re the friend I needed atm. Most of these motivational podcasts/videos are dominated by men and they make you feel like you’re running out of time and ask you to do extreme things to change your life immediately. Women put it in such a soft, loving and peaceful way. You’re the voice i needed to hear so thank you for this video and all your other videos! 💗

[Blackcoffeesometimes]

There’s this quote that goes “Hard choices lead to an easy life, easy choices lead to a hard life” or something along the lines of it & I always go back to it when I’m feeling self destructive ☁️

[sanrihoe]

i have this bad habit of just jumping into change (overnight) and finding myself falling back into old ways right away. little by little is what i need to focus on. i'm always focused on the result, the prize, not the journey.

[mindfulnesswithmatt]

I love that you say discipline is a practice of self-love. So true. The way we were taught discipline has been so authoritative and fear based and therefore we swing to the other side and say "going with the flow" is self true love. Neither are, it'll always be a balance.

[siphelelembele]

My takes:❤️
-Do it out of love and not shame
-Don’t focus on end goal so much that you don’t enjoy the journey
-start with small changes or goals towards the big goal.
-Start observing myself and see habits or changes required
-break goals down into yearly, monthly, weekly
- Have a system that helps day by day to reach your goal… what current self can do for future self

[katie]

"We always want the best for ourselves because we love ourselves"
This completely switched my mindset omg. I always felt like I didn't like myself so I always wanted to improve and do the best for me, so I could finally love myself. But now I realized that I already do. Because I want to put in the effort to heal and do all these things. That shows me that I already do. Thank you so much!

[amberlin]

I remember I was showing my therapist my art journal's recent entries. the topic was self love and finally I said "I don't love myself"
And he said "yes you do"
And it took me back, shocked me cuz usually he's so agreeable.
He says "these journal entries are PROOF that you love yourself."

And so he told me to keep looking for proof that I love myself. It was a slow process, but necessary cuz it turned around my perspective so much.

[ashgandawa]

The fundamental problem with this is half of the time I don’t love myself. I just don’t want to exist. The other half I’m trying to make my life comfortable enough that I won’t hate myself so much. I’ll give your advice a try. Great video.

[Mindmyvagina]

I love this cause I literally just deleted every social media app off my phone. I feel like it drains me and it’s not even that entertaining watching peoples lives it just helps to detach from my own reality cause I don’t know how to control it the way I want to 😢…

[AboutBritney]

Atomic habits is so good! It's more of an action oriented book which I preferred as far as habit changing. My favorite tip as far as changing habits is making or not making something easily accessible. For example, if you're trying to eat less sugar just don't buy it when you go to the grocery store. When you have a craving you'll have to get dressed, get in your car, and drive to the store to get it.

[xerindavisx]

"you do these things because we love ourselves" yes

[wherermysocks]

I really struggled to find the balance between discipline and self-love. Everytime I did a task or held back from an addiction, I would reward myself by indulging in that addiction. I justified it to myself by saying that "I did a good job so I deserve what I want". But really, it was just skewing the results of my discipline because I wasn't truly challenging myself to the extent that I wanted. Now that I'm regaining that hold and seeing my true strengths and weaknesses, I've found the chance to grow without the stress of sacrificing relaxation time. I definitely feel that slowly as I go forward I see progress day by day!

[mzkmonet]

So true. Once I changed my mindset to “I deserve keeping my word to myself and I deserve to do this for myself” things began to change so much