This Is Why You're Not Disciplined

In this video, we'll explore the common challenge of aspiring towards greater discipline while encountering obstacles that impede readiness.

Striving for discipline is a universal aspiration, yet the path towards achieving it can be laden with obstacles. Our conversation aims to shed light on the prevalent struggle many people face—yearning for discipline but feeling unprepared to embark on the journey.

▼ Timestamps ▼
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00:00 - Introduction
00:38 - Why should we change
01:25 - Play the tape through
02:48 - The end of the tape
03:20 - Circuit of value
04:38 - Competing interest
05:57 - Not ready to pay the price
07:56 - How do we find what we care about?
08:42 - What do we do about this?
11:44 - Start with the smallest thing
15:40 - Conclusion

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[jaydennguyen-xkyo]

The pain of regret is worse than the pain of discipline

[AltevBaka]

“Your mind knows you won’t do 100% so you end up doing nothing”

Damn that hit

[HeyJuuu]

I always tell myself:
1. Stop trying to do things perfectly.
2. More doing, less thinking
3. Do it now.
4. You owe it to your future you.

I'm not saying to be content doing half-assed things. It's just to getting the hang of doing things and then you can go make things better in time. It won't do you any good to be inside your head all the time.

[BonnitaKEverett]

I’m 57 and I’ve been struggling self discipline my entire life. Although I’m not a gamer I know people that are. Imagine you’re 57 and still having this conversation. I am victim to the pitfall of making discipline an all or nothing situation. Consistently inconsistent is a story of my life. In your 20s (30’s and even 40’s) it’s so easy to take life and time for granted. In a blink of an eye you’re 57 and have WASTED so much of your God given, precious TIME. It’s hard to believe but it happens pretty easily and you look back and you think what the fuck did I do that for??!!?? Out of laziness and ego- “that won’t happen to ME” syndrome. Hopefully this video will motivate me and I won’t let me stand in the way of what I really want. Six months ago I had brain surgery and now I’m going through radiation. I have other health issues as well, but I can honestly tell you this video and all the comments have motivated me. So if you want some really good advice, don’t be me. Find what you love to do that’s good for you and adds value to this life experience. Try everything, do something new every day find a passion that exhilarates you are giving back to society. Enjoy the beauty of nature and this amazing world around us. Get in the actual game, the game of life- enjoy your family and friends and this beautiful world around us. it’s meaningful and at the end of life you won’t have any regrets.. instead of taking time for granted, take advantage of what real living has to offer. The only get one chance so why not experience it to the fullest? ❤

[stellar]

It's a difficult pitfall especially if you're hard on yourself to begin with.
My therapist says to forgive yourself often for not doing enough, and that x amount of days off the wagon doesn't mean you fell off the wagon, it means you're taking a break by walking behind it slightly :) helps me keep it together and not think I'm a total failure when I stumble on my progress.

[grechy]

A few months ago my life completely changed thanks to a Dr K video similar to this. I sat out outside on a chair, no phone, no music. 2 days.. bored out of my mind; and reached the end of thought.
After which I started conjuring all these genuine wants to start a family and hold responsibilities for them. Kick started me into super drive mode. I’ve never felt more disciplined than I do now. Only turned on my PC now for work or budgeting, lost 15kgs, and feel happier than I can ever remember.

It’s become a common practice of mine now to be comfortable sitting in boredom and just thinking about what I truely want.

Thanks Dr K

[effecc]

Please never delete this video, I want to rewatch this when I lose myself again. This is a gem bro thank u

[RussianZombie]

Him talking about the trap of your mind trying to force you to choose between all or nothing (start with the smallest thing segment) reminded me of a great, simple phrase that helped me a lot with getting started on the paths I wanted to go down. “Something ain’t nothing.” So simple, so obvious, but sometimes I needed to be reminded of that. Some progress isn’t no progress, and some progress is better than no progress. Hope it helps some others out there =)

[adrianoctavio]

The whole strict parents thing really adds to the retire at 22 trap because you spend the first almost two decades of your life with the only goal being to get the approval of your parents. Why do you do work? To not get your parents mad. Once you're an adult, you don't need to do that anymore. It feels like the credits have rolled, as your biggest roadblock is gone now. Finding a new goal becomes so much harder.

[MehoyMenoy]

I had zero discipline till I turned 25. No joke it felt like a switch was flipped.
I realised a lot of the things I wanted in life was just because people expected it from me. For years I struggled with weight loss but once i told my self I’m doing it for me, instead of getting a gf/approval of others. I’ve been smooth sailing baybee.

[XxKINGatLIFExX]

I can't put into words how incredibly brilliant this man is. He has asolutely nailed every problem with modern mental health problems, he has cut out the crap and he is doing a justice to all those lonely, confused people out there. I thank you Dr K, you are one of a kind and I will pray for you so that you continue to recieve good fortune in your life. Thank you Dr K you are more help than you could ever possibly realise and the world is slowly becoming better with each video you post.

[AcelLeca]

Don’t retire.
Find a single thing you care about.
And take one small step.
Without falling in the all or nothing trap.

[WASDLeftClick]

Oh hey I used that same trick for doing more exercise. My brain tells me 5 pushups, squats, and crunches each is useless, but doing just that every other day was easy to stay consistent with. I’m up to 10 each now!

[SavagePrisonerSP]

I don't know how Dr. K does it. This came literally at the perfect time. Just an hour ago I was journaling about how I want to change my life but I don't want it badly enough to change it yet. I'm content enough to stay where I'm at, yet not so helpless where I "need" to do anything. I'm not great, I'm not terrible, just "okay". I wish I wanted to "want" to change badly. And then this video comes out 20 minutes later? It must be sign.

[coded]

This guy is the real deal he doesn’t have clickbait or tells you right or wrong just genuinely breaks down everything and lets you decide. It’s remarkable man

[chocovanilla]

"listen to your heart, not the voice in your head."

-Sol Badguy

[mlvxd]

these videos are honestly timely as hell lmao

just when i was thinking about discussing this with a coach

[markmuller]

This resonates with me because for 35 years I thought I simply had a discipline problem but it was ADHD really 💀

[dameanvil]

00:12 🎮 Many enjoy leisure activities like video games, YouTube, and staying up late, but desire more responsibility and self-discipline.
01:25 💰 The challenge arises from questioning the purpose of discipline when current enjoyment seems sufficient.
02:22 🔄 The mind calculates the cost and benefit of actions, often favoring immediate gratification over long-term discipline.
03:47 💡 A competing interest, a strong personal motivation, is crucial for developing discipline.
06:34 📝 Identify what you truly want, not just what external influences suggest you should want.
09:51 🚀 Even if you're not ready for a major change, acknowledging the desire to want to change is a crucial first step.
11:14 💪 Start with a small step towards what you truly want, and don't underestimate its impact.
13:35 🔄 Be aware of the mind's tendency to push for an all-or-nothing approach to maintain the status quo.
17:48 🧭 Focus on finding what you genuinely want amidst societal expectations and external influences.

[hiboahmed]

I’m a psych major, watched so many mental health content online and books and this is some of the best most applicable guidance that addresses the reality of where people are at and explains the psychology behind it. Dr.K you help people understand themselves better and make real positive impact to people.