Break Your Isolation And Escape Your Loneliness

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Loneliness and isolation are almost universal symptoms for people who grew up abused or neglected. Nothing causes as much suffering and limitation, and learning to connect with other people is essential to healing. In this video I share a series of clips from my videos about CPTSD and loneliness. Find out what you can do to start feeling better and making positive changes today.
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[אמתמארץתצמח-גילויהבנהוקיוםחכמת]

Anna - dear! The way this video was put together, is so ... soooo helpful.
Do you realize how much healing, comes from your precise, comprehensive observations?
& not any less important - from your honest, sincerely caring, humble approach?

Those are the gifts you & your team gave me in this video:

Validation
Normalization
Love
Clarity
Encouragement
Hope
RELIEF

What you`ve said about isolation feels freeing and great, then realizing we've become weird hermits.. and the nagging anxious feeling of 'wasting my life' + the realization that a lot of it has to do with being fundamentally a shame of my self --- wow girl! Spot on the money.

Until like a month ago – I didn't even know I suffer from CPTSD (And I'm about to hit 50….)
I MAKE SENCE TO MY SELF NOW. Can't thank you enough – God bless you.
You people are life savers. literally.

[pearljamin]

It’s unbelievable how alone you can feel in this world while so many people experience something so similar

[DJElectraFry]

I don’t even feel lonely anymore…..I’m so afraid of people that being alone now is what I want. I don’t think it’s healthy necessarily but it feels safe right now.

[sadiaarman]

" Your immune system needs to be around people." If for nothing else, I salute you for this single statement. Vow!

[quiethours]

I would like to add - That I feel one of the biggest challenges of escaping this loneliness is healing a lot of attachment wounds. Forcing connections with people doesn't really work - People detect desperation and it turns people off from wanting to spend time with you. Also, always finding excuses to not spend time with people is also an issue. Letting relationships form organically, and practicing reciprocal connections while putting yourself out there a few times a week is the best you can really do.

[roycexroyce]

I've made peace with my loneliness and isolation. It is what it is. I'm too tired.

[crystalnina]

I’ve been so isolated that once I meet someone, I want to hold on to them but I feel I’m just so awkward in conversation and everything in between. I have such an attachment to my husband (comfort zone) but I want to detach so I can try life with some normalcy. I don’t feel much joy. All I feel is empty and heartbroken all the time. I’ve tried it all and I keep ending up right back where I started. This cycle is frustrating.

[CC-xnxi]

CPTSD are often VERY aware of non verbals. Eye rolling, sighing, passive aggressive cues. So they have a problem with people who don't use words. People who don't use words but instead shrug their shoulders or whatever are poison to them.

[midnightblue]

I can only connect on a superficial level and then not for long....trust is a huge issue for me...I am happiest alone, the older I get the more comfortable I am by myself....

[stevec]

I shrank from life, from connection, in an attempt to avoid the fear of facing a world that seemingly rejected me. Not even my best moments of being accepted could last, as I was not allowing it. Mindset distortions proved most powerful until I fully faced, uncovered, and understood my early trauma and its consequences. That is when healing first had a chance.

'Alone in a crowd' was me; terrified of parties, of social nuances I had never mastered. Yet I 'covered' well - enough to avoid detection...until the inevitable nervous breakdown. My healing has come a very long way. Yet the lagging indicator of my success is the fact of lingering loneliness. Now I know that no one is coming to rescue me. I must end my isolation and loneliness.

[MsCaterific]

Here, with you Anna, is the place where I feel the most normal and validated.
Leaving my house is a huge challenge. I keep my errands to grocery shopping, which I only do once a month or longer if possible and often only after starving myself for several days, every day hoping that tomorrow I'll have more courage to leave my house and it won't be such a severely daunting task.
Interacting with people causes me to wish I was dead ... it "is too costly". Once upon a time I was an ambivert, now my happy peaceful safe place is home alone. Covid lockdown had zero noticeable impact on me and I marvelled watching the world lose their minds.

I have started to notice how my isolation has negatively increased my social awkwardness, tactlessness, weirdness and shame. I hate it but it's no where near as costly as with 'people interactions'.

I know that my happy place is Not a healthy place. I'm stuck.

[Lyrielonwind]

I used to be very extrovert and outgoing but I spent last years so isolated that I believe I have lost my social skills. I the other hand; I feel lazy, besides; is not easy meeting new people.

[chrism.]

Dude. This is so weird, this is exactly what I need right now. Literally just let a girl go that I got too attached to and this video drops at the exact same time. Thank you!

[SamJone]

I was thinking about this lately and trying to remember my childhood. I remember being happy as a kid but when I was sexually molested (not once but many times by different people) at 9 or 10yrs old, I started isolating myself and no longer want to go out and play with other kids. I also didn’t like people coming and going in our house whenever they wanted to. My mum didn’t care if they come and go. I thought I was just being a snob and now realizing at 40 that I was trying to protect my child self. Up to these days I never like people visiting me at my house all the time. I never once did house party it feels very intruding to me but with this I feel very isolated with everyone.

[houske]

haha i did all of these and it just stung my ass loll. i go through cycles of becoming a positive energy in everyones lives, listening and supporting them, loving their traits and promoting them, i build connections and bonds and then i realize its just me who does that and i never receive anything back, get judged and then toss away and i become negative and lose faith in the good things again, isolating myself. and each time this happens the more i realize its stupid to keep going back to the happy side because its all superficial and fake, the final truth is that everything comes from selfishness and thats depressing

[chrishatcher]

I've had so many women in my life call me "amazing" among other nice things but yet I still have an underlying (secret) fear of someone regretting having chosen me.
Which leads to me subconsciously doing things that push them away.😥
My earliest memories are when I was with my grandmother, wondering where mom was or if she was coming back.

[bumblebee_ms]

I had to get rid of everyone from my life coz they were all toxic and abusive.
Now my isolation is getting worse.

[karaW]

Thank you. Experiencing a loving relationship is the one thing I'd like in life but it does feel unachievable x

[spiritvalentine]

I'm in awe. You have no idea how much I needed this. This specific thing has been my greatest sadness my whole life.
As a child and young adult, I found it almost impossible to connect with the people around me. I was painfully shy, afraid to put myself out there because it meant others recognizing how weird and socially underdeveloped I was. And they always did. I always felt so "other" and I never wanted it. I didn't understand why making and keeping friends was so easy for everyone else. A lone wolf, begrudgingly.

Only now at 28 am I making the first steps towards healing this. I am so excited to finally connect like a normal person. I can't wait to finally have best friends or a friend group I can hang out with and talk to. I'm so excited to finally have the confidence to reach out towards others. I can't wait to be my authentic self and then let others accept me. I can't wait to open my arms up to the world. I have hope now.

[Chahlie]

I have a part time job which is my only connection with sociability and I have to really be careful not to harm it by talking too much or trying too hard. The other women all have lives and I think they understand that my job is my only connection with the world, though they have no idea of the extent.
Every so often it hits me like a brick wall that I don't have the friend and family group that I would love to have. I often think I ought to have a hostel somewhere in order to just have company and feel useful