how to overcome loneliness | causes, myths and REAL solutions

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[Faefair]

“You have no excuse to complain that you’re lonely when you continue to sit in rooms where you are ignored, judged, and misunderstood.” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 love seeing a desi sister (sorry if that’s an incorrect assumption) with such a strong platform and message 🙌🏽 I wish you so all the success and recognition you deserve

[doveslizleskiss]

so basically from what i'm learning, by focusing on yourself and making yourself happy you can attract the right people who won't make you feel lonely. it's a lot easier said than done, i'm on this journey right now. thank you for the reminders tam <3 i hope that all gorgeous souls who feel lonely like me soon find themselves in a better place

[abigail]

I literally had sudden pang of loneliness in my office today and was wondering what can and should I do and here you are. Being Goddess to us all❤️🧿

[tanishkaagrawal]

How do you know I needed it!!! 😭😭😭 I'm grateful my notifications are on!!!

[cwchgre]

We need to talk about how to connect with yourself. I've made some pretty bad choices for myself such as drinking, smoking and hanging with the wrong people in college. Over the course of years, of not choosing yourself, I found myself disconnected from myself and unable to reconnect even though I left that lifestyle & group. I moved in with my family after college, and my family have always been super toxic from the time I was young, over the years, this INTENSELY made me more detached with myself. I can't even explain to you the loneliness I felt, it was so strong that it physically hurt my body. It soon hit me that the family members around me don't choose me, (it's a toxic vicious clique in your own home, think means girls who gang up against you, never takes your side or supports you, unfairly biased, enjoys dominating you and controlling you lol) when it hit me that they don’t choose me, and I continue to choose them in the name of love, I suddenly had a shift. It's like I felt my body and soul shifting into one when I told myself that I'll choose myself. I can't tolerate any of this crap anymore in the name of love, when there is no love here. That shift that I felt where I chose myself, was the most liberating feeling ever. I have never felt that specific type of lonliness again, where it's physically painful. It takes bravery to choose yourself, when you don't know what will happen once you move out, you don't really have friends to rely on near you, etc. but I'll do it, I know i'll make it cause I have myself to stand up for me.

[RafaellaG.]

I've suffered from extreme loneliness in the past couple of years but I finally came in peace with it and now I don't feel lonely at all cause I put all my trust in God! He's always by my side!!! :)

[Wodobodo]

I cut off toxic people gradually this semester and I've been going on solo dates instead of burning my energy on those big toxic groups, I even started to be very confidently smart in classes instead of sensoring my knowledge and this is on their nerves. And today I was wondering if I'm doing it right or I'm just isolating myself. Thank you for this video❤ (and for all your videos, I'm becoming a highvalue woman)

[myaa]

This is actually insane. I’m at uni any i’ve been feeling so lonely which has never been a Problem for me, and this video was genuinely such a godsend because i really need to hear this ❤

[Zayniee-bnll]

Notes:

1. Causes 2:23
Lack of self

Relying on other people

Let’s go back to self

You’re simply in the wrong place

Excessive digital socialization

2.Solutions 10:28
Find your purpose outside of other people

Being able to see the joy in life

Call up a friend and share something of value

Work on yourself

Reconnect with your inner child

Regular journaling

3.Homework 15:50
A real solo date

Journal or meditate

Call a close friend/partner/family member and discuss something that matters to you

Join a online community

Come back home to yourself, romanticize your life, build yourself

That’s it :)

[Muskann]

Okay so I've been watching tam's videos for some months and it has become my favourite YouTube channel whenever I feel demotivated or empty I just come to her channel and suddenly I get so energized by her energy she's so magical her existence makes me feel happy, you're the best tam there's no one better than you on this platform keep shining, growing and helping us love ya!💗

[jeshthaac]

To have someone like her is a privilege. Thank you so much Tam!💗💗

[gojoo]

I can't believe you dropped this video just when I needed this! I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. I love how informative and practical your advice actually is.

[kala]

your videos always help me to get myself together. lately i have been feeling lonely eventhough i always try to spend more time with people and i realize i havent had the time to sit with my thoughts alone and have a solo date in a while. thank you for the reminder Tam! your positive energy is so magical <3

[charlotteashworth]

honestly your videos are what inspired me to love myself even when I felt no one else did and to find happiness even in solitude. I’m so glad now that I didn’t give up on myself and I have you to thank for that :)

[melissacarreno]

I swear the universe is telling me to watch and reflection on my own loneliness! Thank you for your content and making me feel I'm not alone:)

[saffaali-uwex]

the way this video came out at just the right time <3 Your literally my therapist, keep going!

[faerycupid]

ur videos have actually saved me lowkey 😭 i've been watching you since the start of 2023 and i feel like my life has literally changed in the most positive way. im actually so happy to have discovered you when i was 15 and having a lack of self-esteem, confidence and also feelings of loneliness. watching ur videos helped me change all of that and im so so grateful. still on my journey but thank u for everything that you do <3 x

[ConfusedB]

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS BIG SIS!!! I did not even know that I needed this... Thank you so much for this. I had an epiphany while watching the video and will surely be changing the habits that I have unconsciously fallen into.

[justanhuman-]

I love Tam's energy and the fact she gives tips from her heart 💗💗❗❗

[xyzza]

Your makeup look in this video is absolutely stunning. I think I might get inspiration from it next time I do my makeup