Solving ENFP & INFJ conflicts With @ErikThor | The INFJ and ENFP relationship

Today I have invited @ErikThor to have a conversation about the main causes of conflict between the INFJ and the ENFP personalities in a relationship. We talked about Introverted thinking (ti) and extroverted thinking (te) and other cognitive functions, the Biggest insecurities of both types and we shared a few interesting theories with each other. It was very fun!

THE VIDEOS I MENTIONED:

YOU WILL ALSO LIKE:

Erik Thor's Channel:

SUPPORT MY CHANNEL ♡☟

ONE ON ONE SESSIONS WITH MINDI☟

NEW VIDEO EVERY WEDNESDAY & SATURDAY | Personality types • Intentional living • Becoming a better version of yourself • Purposeful living • Vlogs

SOCIAL ☟

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

WATCH MY "INFJs & ENFPs" Playlist:
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

~ CONTACT:

~ Music Credits
The music in this video is by Epidemic Sound:

[ErikThor]

Thanks for inviting me over! Was a lot of fun!

[visionarycatalyst]

I kind of like it that the INFJ is deep and not always lighthearted. I'm generally pretty light and I love it when I make my INFJ friend smile. I also need it and absolutely love my friend for keeping me grounded and feeling safe and secure when I get overwhelmed or confused. INFJ energy is like home base. There were times when my INFJ friend was a place of refuge when I needed rest or when my feelings were hurt. Not everyone can just float around! The grounded INFJ offers something very, precious and valuable.

[visionarycatalyst]

I suffer because I want to help the INFJ like the INFJ does for me. I want to listen and wait on them to find their words and encourage their self disclosure. Although they hold space for me, they don't seem to need what they offer that and I wonder what I have to offer the INFJ. INFJs naturally do A LOT for us. I get insecure when I am not sure what I can bring of value into their lives.

[jeannined]

As an INFJ, I am very passionate about specific hot topics. My opinions are actually more of an inner knowing derived from introverted intuition, and it has the feel of unshakeable truth. And yes, I so want to agree with the other person, and it's a struggle to choose my truth knowing that the other person is uncomfortable with that. I wonder if the extroverted intuition of ENFP enables that person to have a different opinion as one of many different ideas.. Maybe it's the intensity of the single mindeded INFJ that is so off-putting?

[haydenwinters]

Fe Fi conflict is HUGE for me and my INFJ friend.
I am an ENFP and I’m very very protective of my friends and morals, and I will openly defend those at the risk of social harmony.

My INFJ friend is much more conscious of the social harmony with Fe. This means if I want to defend my values, the INFJ can get very annoyed at the way that I handle that situation - even if we both agree that the action causing the conflict was incorrect.

[hayatalturki]

OMG my two favorite MBTI Youtubers are collaborating!!! I am so excited just looking at the the thumbnail! 😍😍

[TheStarlitfuse]

This infj is super cute! You can see how this pair listens to each other deeply, without interruptions

[Layfizzi]

I enjoyed this conversation so much, I also felt triggered when @30:45 Erik brought up how ENFPs focus on the past too much 😂 I was like damn son !!!!

[muma]

Erik, the belief is naturally there because we know we didn't make ourselves, that's why.

[PowerRedBullTypology]

You have a natural chemistry together!

[elypelowski]

Ah yes. The Ti, Te child struggles. One sign of maturity is being able to overcome childishness in this 3rd slot (child function). IMO the immature child function can be a major Achilles heal for all types if not developed. Immature Ti child will be very obstinate in it's logic and thinking that they are correct because they see no other way (logically speaking) and does not want to put in the effort to test the logic for holes. Meanwhile, immature Te child will be very stubborn in its beliefs of what is true for self without validating others beliefs and whether those beliefs are applicable for the self as well. Great collaboration.

[nisa]

We do do not go down the rabbit hole, we go up the rabbit hole. We are open minded to all the possibility, not like rigdid and want to question to make other person become more flexible and think from others perspective or taking a perception of 3 rd person perspective watching the problem to arrive to the solution that satisfies both side in other word arriving to mid ground instead of saying my-way is the highway.

[johnearnshaw]

Loved this, I didn't want it to end.

[ioanageorgia]

Thanks for making me understand. I will leave my infj alone from now on for protecting my feelings.

[Invisibility]

Im extremely grateful that I will not have to do that ever again because I don't have any friends and i will not allow or enable anyone else to use the weapons friendships or relationships to destroy me anymore. Guess I didn't choose the best people who I attempted to associate with. Solo living in Solitude and Celibate

[muma]

that was really interesting. Can you do another one two years on ?

[rkplaylist]

Religion is always a hot topic, regardless. You are both correct, INTJ’s we have a need to rationalize and think logically about things and religion isn’t rational. That creates conflict and one I don’t think can be solved. Sometimes you just have to agree to disagree.
My experiences have given me a deep understanding and broader view; however, it will never satisfy a believer. By in large, we think religion is primitive, sorry. I know there is a deeper connection between all living things and this goes contrary to logical thought. My experience in martial arts is where this comes from, there comes a point that you plateau and you can’t progress unless you let go and remove thought. In that letting go you open up other senses and feel the energy around you. As for the concept of a god, that still remains foreign.

As I like to say, sometimes you just need to slap us upside the head to get us out of our heads … I do mean that literally … 😂

PS: your quirky mannerism are so cute and endearing, just fun to watch.

[moeruyona]

It's my Fi and Infj's Fe. They say what they feel like too much and I don't say enough of what I feel like. Then I feel I'm adjusting too much by agreeing with Infj and then shut down but Infj doesn't care and leave and my Fi gets hurt. It's like I can't change what they feel like but if they cared about me they can politely tell me about it but they just share it out agressively and leaves. Fe is way to harsh for my Fi. But it usually happens when we both are in self protective ego mode instead of coming into agreement and forgive each other. I don't know how to work on this

[suzannemachen]

You really need to look into the additional part of MBTI - Assertive (A) or Turbulent (T) as this affects some of the things you are talking about!

[Cre-qixy]

Hey Mindi, I love how you've opened the conversation to God. Let me know if you and your friend want to know more about who God truly is and to learn how to understand God through the word