Non-Verbal Dominance: How To Command Respect Silently

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Harvey Specter isn't exactly the perfect man. He can be rude, emotionally stunted and sarcastic. But even though he is flawed and of course fictional, his portrayal can teach you quite a bit about confidence and power in the real world.

So in this video you’ll learn concrete steps and deeper mindsets for conveying a deep sense of confidence and power.


⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰

0:48 - #1: Your body language & tone.
4:29 - #2: Attack the framing, not the content of the insult.
5:52 - #3: Don’t be there to impress.
8:09 - #4: Learn to become an expert at framing your options in any particular scenario.
9:20 - #5: Create options for yourself.

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[yummyEnchilada]

Me: "Here's whats going to happen, you give me a raise and..."
Boss: "You're fired"

[jaxx-inspiregrowcreate]

Stay calm when others are freaking out. Learn to control your emotions.

[ayubm]

Harvey is the definition of confidence - this man should’ve won an award for this show!

[jackiemarie]

when harvey mentions the queen of england without knowing that she’s rachel’s soon to be grandma in law

[SuccessWheels]

Some NOTES here

1. CONTROL THE FRAME WITH BODY LANGUAGE & TONE: If someone talk to you aggressively make sure you don’t respond to their emotional state. Stay cool, calm & Respond not rising to it. Which means you set the frame not other person
2. WHEN IN CONFRONTATION, ATTACK THE FRAME, NOT THE CONTENT: The less you focus on defending yourself the better your banter will become. Don’t try to win every critical exchange.
3. HAVE THE BELIEF THAT YOU ARE NOT THERE TO IMPRESS: If you are sells person or on a client facing role if you shift your mindset from I am selling this person or I work for this person to this person need me to partner with them. This means you will push back when needed, you will give better advice.
4. BECOME AN EXPERT AT FRAMING PEOPLE’S OPTIONS: You don’t need to have total control just control the options and the person who controls the options controls the outcome
5. CREATE OPTIONS FOR YOURSELF: Believe & show that you can always get different path, client, job if someone closes the door for you.


My crazy passion is to share summaries like started doing it on my channel with PDF summaries✌
Lets create options for ourselves to show extreme confidence😃

[vekaasha]

Do a character breakdown of confidence on Peaky Blinder's Thomas

[titlespree]

To build real self confidence that is effortless and lasting, one must cultivate a sense of freedom and control. This comes from cultivating habits of looking inward, becoming independent, and working on improving oneself in all important arenas.

[sebastianelytron]

I named my eraser "Confidence
."
Because it gets smaller after every mistake I make.

[fcukausername]

Harvey single-handedly makes that show worth watching imo. Surprised it took this long for there to be a breakdown for him. Great video.

[codebreakerowns]

I've literally been asking for this breakdown for the past 2 years. Charlie you hero. Now you've got to do Jessica Pearson. Arguably the most dominant female character on television.

[Rensune]

The Key to Harvey's Charisma is the Work underpinning it.

Not just his Intelligence, or Talent, but All the Hard work he put in to get there, and his knowledge of his Chosen profession.

Confidence is a LOT Easier to have when you Know what you're talking about, and can PROVE It.

[klara]

”see that’s funny because” are the best catchphrases in this series

[pauldickinson]

Please do a video on Thomas Shelby at some point.

[MyLilPwniez]

Can you make an analysis of confidence for Tommy Shelby from Peaky Blinders?

[Jouhzu]

*Warm and strength = confidence*
Cold and strong = arrogance
Warm and weak = pitty
Cold and weak. = lost cause

[minopoke]

Please do one on Donna! She’s the only one who really stands up to Harvey, and we need some more female analysis :)

[jonnycpardoe]

'The less you focus on defending yourself, the better your banter will become'. Love this!

[Truth__]

i just wanted to share a lil something i took from a previous video. making myself comfortable when going in a room or coming over to sit with people makes a huge difference. i started doing this contiously and it quickly became unconcious. when you lets say join a group of friends who are already sitting, sit slowly, find the perfect position for you, (for me its putting my right leg on my left leg) and take a few seconds to soak up everything thats going on around you. even if someone started talking to you before you are done with this little "ceremony" dont even bother replaying untill youre done with it and feel 100% comfortable :). it makes a huge difference. i think i saw it on their george clooney video :). thanks CoC!

[TuanJinnNguyen]

Great analysis. I just finished Suits, a bit late, but i gotta say, Harvey and Jessica are among or even the 2 most well written characters in TV series. Those that you can learn tons of things from

[Javid]

Who else is waiting for Tommy Shelby video?