How to tell if someone is talking behind your back and what to do about it

I've talked before about the obvious clues, but here are some subtle and not so subtle signs that you are being gossiped about. And when you know who it is, should you confront him/her?

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[shellcshells]

Don't associate with gossips no matter who they are gossiping about. They'll do it to you also!

[chris__]

If someone habitually talks about others to you, then...

[mahlina]

I'm so amazed that this isn't even gender-related, as I've seen males who gossip just as badly as females. It's amazing how _insecure_ people can be. They somehow think they're the center of the universe, and _everything evolves around them._ Really weird. Life's so short anyway.



I put my energy into more expansive things. Might as well invest our energies _wisely._

[LoveMusic-dvsl]

Great advice! If you bring it up, they act like narcissists and will probably blame it on you.

[lilbabyangel]

your videos got me through the times i was bullied in middle school, thank u marie!

[mariewilliams]

self absorbed snobby and smug people enjoy acting superior and acting like they are perfect and enjoy people's misfortune to feel better about themselves. These people can be perfectionist and snobby and have big ego. Snobs.are usually not that genuine people because they have superior attitudes. Genuine people care about people's feelings and are loyal people and treat people the way they want to be treated. It's best to keep it polite and not always talk about yourself and self reference you are doing .

[gwendolynwehage]

I am quite sure there has been gossip is when they invite you to the party so you will see them ignoring you. They also use the names of people you know who are associated with you as though they are their friends but you know you are not friends with the gossiper. They want us to feel as though our friends are with them and against us too. I am convinced that the one who gossips to you will want you to go to the people they talk about so that we will look like the gossiper. I am also convinced the best way to deal with this is to ignore them completely. "Ignore the ignorant."

[wisdom]

Polite, but cold. Thanks for your advice ❣

[ma_lengend]

Sometimes people won't let you know but a lot of this detected in body language

[lacymacdougall]

If someone sees you and starts whispering to someone else, that's not "behind your back" FYI. And the easiest way to tell if someone is gossiping about you is whether they gossip about everyone else, TO you.

[clincpb]

I do not see it but I know that two of my " colleagues " gossip out of insecurity, jealousy and immaturity.
One even asked me what I had for dinner and I dismissed the question talking about work !
He wanted to pick on anything to turn it against me but I did not give him that pleasure.

[whiskywithkiwi]

You are what I call A woman with class

[justinshaw]

Sounds like signs working in a toxic work environment I used to work in. I am glad I am not working there anymore. As for those who always talk behind people's back well...karma is going to bite back at them sooner or later.

[budredheadtwitchy]

Your hair looks so pretty in this video! Big fan of yours, btw!

[jdglen]

The energy changes when I come around to see her with the person she's been talking about me with...

[brightbite]

In some small towns, this does not always work. So and so said this about you (true or false...) or maybe So and So simply doesn't like you because you dress or act differently than the other yokels. Or they think you have more money than they do. Or whatever. And then... So and So has a cousin and a cousins cousin, and they all talk to the neighbors. And then before you know it, no one will hire you anywhere. Sounds bizarre, but it has happened to me!

[dand]

I bought one of those USB voice recorders, looks exactly like a USB but offers continuous recording for 30 hours when fully charged. Put it anywhere on your office desk especially on days that you're absent, or at a family gathering. What I found out is people who are seemingly nice to me or actually bad-mouthing me.

[PurplePinkRed]

Going through this exact issue right now! Thank you!

[mansi]

I wish I had taken the high road too, but unfortunately I confronted the man and it perpetuated the rumor that I was a cheater, sex hungry and what not. That man involved so many people in order to dodge my questions and hide behind them, that it became a huge drama. 10 year old acquaintances messaged me on Facebook, casually taking his name to see my reaction and it triggered me so bad. I was raging in grief and people labeled me as crazy. I don't think I'll ever be able to attend my reunions.

[ciobalina]

Yes, I like this approach. Yes, you should be polite, but cold. I would also reconsider the friendship with the other people because if they were your real friends, they wouldn't behave like this. I think people sometimes just don't know how to pick good friends and then they're reluctant to cut such people out of their lives. Bu they're toxic and must be removed.