How to tell if someone acts like they like you but really can't stand you

These so-called friends/aquaintances are complete fakes! And here's how to tell.

Marie Dubuque is a life coach who loves to give advice about everything from dating dilemmas and toxic friendships to tricky social situations and romantic relationships gone south!

[AnnaMishel]

If they KNOW you WANT them to like you...A way for THEM to CONTROL you...is NOT to like you.

[michels]

9 times out of 10 they're jealous.

[lovearttherapyalways]

True, you can feel it. Trust your gut feelings. Lose them!

[ChrissElizabeth]

Yeah you'll notice that with people who actually hate you, every time they come around they cause some sort of drama or negative situation towards your life

[James-]

This is all I have ever dealt with in my life, people who seem to like you, but you always have this feeling that they don't, then when you ask them about it - they go off on one and deny all the bad things they have ever said or done... they may as well just tell you they don't like you. The evidence is always right there in your face, but they would rather deny everything and make you look even more stupid. There really is a lot of horrible people out there and I have met some of them.

[moonsun]

My crush was turning ppl against me behind my back because he didnt feel good enough to have me. All the while I didn't know he was just pretending to like me. It took me two years to realize this because of how convincing he was. At first he told me that I "acted better than everyone else". I would always say nice things about him while he was just playing with my mind and insulting me behind my back to make himself look superior. I'm so shocked and sad.

[lifeisanadventure]

Hi Marie, I have come to the conclusion that some people will not like me because I am nice. That sounds crazy I know, but I have witnessed people not like me because I am kinder or nicer than they are and it makes them take a hard look at there self. instead of being a beter person, they rather condemn me for existing. Maybe its easier than putting effort in there self.

[itachee]

Always listen to your gut, when something feels off it probably is. One of the best skills to have is honing in on that feeling as soon as you can so you can identify which 'friend's are not your friends.

[reiackerman]

But why are they acting like they *love me* but I can see the hate in their eyes
Dude I'm scared what do they want

[davebarnessr.]

It’s true, you will meet people that won’t like you, sometimes it’s jealousy, sometimes it’s your political or religious beliefs. But if your a person with a average sense of awareness you will know it if you give them the attention you should during conversation. Don’t let it bother you, just move on . But I do understand that in social gatherings they very well may throw a zinger your way or even a back handed insult. These situations call for tact, stay above the fray, remember the problem with slinging mud is you can’t do it without getting muddy!

[MyTimeOutt]

You can't make anyone love or even like you. If you could 'make' them do this, it would not be coming from the heart.  This is where the source of friendship needs to be in order to have any degree of authenticity.  Re:  I like the quotation from Maya Angleou:   "When someone tells you who they are, believe them the first time."  It's a priceless bit of advice. Sorry, I had to waste time learning it the hard way! 

[ltcman]

i wish i could have a friend like you. your videos help me to listen to my gut instinct and how to REALLY read people and how they feel about you no matter how much they try to cover it up. VIBES are the first thing i listen to because lets face it we can sense when someone is two-faced. also their body language too, if its tense around you they probably can't wait for you to leave. i'm learning in life to avoid these people cause they only make me feel awkward and life is too short for people i'm not incompatible with. Every time my husband says, "you are reading too much into it" when i'm talking about someone who has a problem with me, i almost always prove him wrong.

[krystalmiller]

I have been at work and school and had this happen to me as well! It is very difficult to work with these types because often times they don't want to communicate with you? What if it is a boss?

If a person treats your poorly regardless of what you do and say, it is because he/she lacks self-respect, which stems from a lack of self-gratitude!

[prettynena]

Oh wow...I live that in my job every day ...very draining ... They chat all they long text each other after work meet out etc ...never included me or asked me to join them...yeah they put this smily face when they talk to me, look at me up and down...its kind of annoying ...I don't care anymore

[ltcman]

also, lol i think a lot of people are jealous of you, this is why you are so wise to how to deal with them. i get mad at people who get jealous but they deep down realize how much better you are then them, so they gotta do anything to try to make you look bad. and if they can't find anything bad they make up something to try to turn people against you...then when you go to hang around these people you get the WORST VIBES like they've chewed you out behind your back. OH LORD. AND none of them have to dignity to tell you, they just let you sit there feeling like shit. i cut people out of my life who give me that treatment. anyway, forgive my ranting. i'm glad to see someone speak out about vibes.

[nativeprincess]

The person that does this to me makes me feel like im never going to be good enough

[groovyashgames]

I get this all the time at work drives me crazy you don't like me tell me to my face don't pretend to be my friend when your not

[cassandrawest]

I had people act like that turned out they were jealous and thought they were better than me

[PvlogVid]

This channel is good for socially awkward people! Haha.

[ando]

you are the wisest woman on youtube! thank you! a lot of times we are so desperate to maintain relationships that we ignore the signs of a bad one to keep it. It's easy to say "let them go" but it's much harder to actually put it into motion and have to deal with the emotions that come with it. its essentially like pulling off a really stuck on band-aid that you know is gonna hurt like hell when you rip it off and be tender for a long while after that.

stay strong people....