5 Signs Someone is Insecure

5 SIGNS SOMEONE IS INSECURE

Sometimes it can seem like someone is confident and secure, but you find that they do things that just don't sit right with you and you can't figure out why. Well, chances are, if something seems off, it likely is, and it could very well be that the person is secretly insecure.

But how do you know? How to you tell if someone who appears confident on the outside is secretly insecure on the inside?

But how do you know if someone is really insecure?

In this episode of GoodForMeTV, I'm going to teach you 5 signs that someone is insecure, even if it appears differently on the surface.
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[juliakristinamah]

The truth is, we all struggle with feeling insecure at times. What's a tell that you notice in others (or yourself) that they/you are not feeling as centered in themselves/yourself as they/you could?

[mohammadchami]

confident people never try to bring you down

[Smokey]

I've found that insecure people most often are insanely jealous and continually find fault with others.

[kaitlinmoore]

1. Talk about themselves all the time, don't care to hear about you 2. Judgemental 3. Inability to say sorry 4. Dish it out but can't take it in 5. Expect others to make them happy and blame others for their unhappiness

[BethyKable]

I would add people who.gossip compulsively ....it's an effort to bring everyone else down to the low level where they feel they exist.

[carolloraine]

I never thought of "not apologing" as a sign of insecurity. Good insight.
Thank you!

[consciousbeing]

99% of people are emotionally fluid beings... There are times when most of us feel supremely confident for a while and then something happens and we take a blow to our self-esteem... feelings of insecurity are not the end of the world... The biggest mistake I see people making is that we take too much of the characterisations other people make about us on-board. You know the type... the ones who highlight your negative traits and forget about the million and one things you've done or said that were positive, uplifting or reinforcing... The statement "You ALWAYS do/say... blah blah blah" is highly destructive if you are the type of person (or are just in that place of absorbing toxicity for an extended period) who places too much value on the judgements of others especially if you are close to them and tend to value their insights.


Always trust your own instincts... Nobody... and I mean NOBODY knows you as well as you know yourself. Sure, they may be able to tell you the things they are observing about you... but don't take it as gospel. Of course, listen to them and try to do it without feeling defensive, which can be difficult if you are already in that insecure place... just keep in mind that whoever is making those observations has their own psychology and it's very possible that person is not aware of their own misgivings and may be wrongfully projecting their behaviour onto you.

[annekenna]

I used to expect others to make me happy, till I lived alone, now I try to make myself happy, I go for a coffee alone, or food, shopping, or lovely long walks in green spaces. When we can make ourselves happy, we don’t depend on others.

[jensbasement]

I've had all of these from a narcissist who was trying to tell me I was the insecure one. I think another to add to the list, is insecure people often are accusing others of being insecure.

[vkng_dragn]

People who have the need to control others. Drives me nuts. I feel like that person think that I have a hollow head and I'm incapable of analyze and get to my own conclusions. I guess they are afraid that my conclusion is not in agreement with theirs. I catch them in a heart beat now. They can be very subtle.

[fatimasamira]

I had this insane need for validation for others. Thank God, I m recovering from this. I no longer have this insane fear of judgement or need for validation anymore. Sure, it feels good when someone acknowledges my talents and accomplishments, but I no longer crave for that.

[lynnthomas]

Agree 100%! Especially, the inability to say your sorry. I started from 1 day modeling saying I’m sorry to my boys.

[gurll]

Okay, here is what happened to me and it's really sad, honestly...

My best friend, who I haven't seen for two years due to college, we reunited today, just a few hours ago. I was sooo excited to see her again cause we've been best friends for about 10 years.
When I saw her I run up to her, hugged her, told her how much I missed her and the first thing she said was "You've gained a lot of weight, you need to go on a diet, ew".
I was shocked.

Truth is that I've actually LOST a ton of weight and I look fine while SHE was double the size from when I last saw her.

I know she is probably just really insecure but today, I got really hurt and I'm crying. :(

[goldark]

I have done it. I am not a ashamed of it. I learned from it and i become better. Work in progress. Lol

[Ashtarot]

I work with someone like this. Always want to be better than others even when we know they're not.

[kheidy]

Very, very helpful. My bucket list? To finally be somewhat emotionally stable and have an assertive voice and healthy boundaries! #tryingugh

[Angryoyster]

I used to have a friend that would never say sorry it was so bad that sometimes she would make you apologize for what they did wrong.

[IyoniAdeMacy]

I use to struggle with talking about myself a lot, not saying sorry and being able to dish out advice, opinions etc but not take it. Now I realize that I can sit back and relax and not try to prove things. I am definitely getting better with these things. This is a perfect start to growth. 🌱☀️

[dkdawe]

I love how you give some solutions. So many times people identify the problems but don’t offer the solutions. Thank you.

[DeathAngleZoe]

I wish you were my counsellor, you're amazing.