Do all narcissists end up sad and lonely? | The Narcissists' Code Ep 690

do all #narcissists end up sad and lonely?

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[rockybalboa]

Anyone who is diagnosed with NPD really should be legally mandated to get self awareness and therapy because of their toxic effects on other people.

[mzlaniet]

Most toxic people I have encountered simply move on to a new relationship or new friendships.

[rhondachavers]

The dynamic or response is…narcs can’t be alone, so they end up with whoever is willing to put up with the emotional distance and vacant emotional expression. So they have a partner or whatnot. All I know is after years and years of being around this toxic person….I have gone absolutely no contact….I love being by myself! It’s peaceful here.

[tam-i-am]

My alcoholic ex-narc lost his job, has no contact with his brother, me, our son, or his friends. He's been living with his mother for 9 years and still drinks every day. He is very alone, and his mom wants to tell me about it sometimes. I know she wants me to feel sorry for him, but I don't.

[sweetoneloves]

That is so frightening to live with someone for YEARS, and you don't even know them, you feel as if you are by yourself. You are correct Lee, best thing is to leave. Yes, those Narcs and Toxic people don't want to be by themselves, they will keep someone in their space just to have someone around. Even though the other person want to leave them

[debsmith]

People don’t realize how many couples are lonely .

[tati]

So true just left my narc soon to be ex husband March 1st after 18 years and I haven't been happier. Peace stress free not waking up not knowing how my day will be bad or good without him in it.

[fenlandwildlifeclips]

A few years ago I had a narc boss who was so sad & lonely she went to work on xmas day alone. This was a 9-5 job. She didn't even have a family member she could see.

[TigerOnVaseline]

I'm so impressed with your self awareness Lee.
Your experience and advice is Invaluable and you put it over so well. 👍

[ryanarchuleta]

Mine gave me so much silent treatment that when we broke up my life didn't change at all lol. Yet somehow she was tortured by the fact that I was gone.

[azianotasia]

It’s the weirdest thing.. narcs tend to find love more than the genuine people who actually want it and are willing to reciprocate it

[blen]

The hardest part for me is to realize that not all narcs end up getting what they deserve. And that makes me sick! Especially after all of the evil that some have perpetrated against those they claim to love. Thank GOD it's not my place to impose judgement against these individuals because I could sure come up with some good ones. Y'all pray for me. It's hard some days to get past what was done to me.

[summerpax]

The combo of feeling obligation, guilt, and fear was the relationship anchor for me. I stopped enjoying my ex's company many years before I left. It's a blessing living life without being pulled down by negative emotions all the time.

[Kct]

Many have this mentality, it is so sad. I wish I never met a person who was so selfish. They left a void in me and lots of emotional issues. I blame me as well bc I stayed bc I didn't want to be alone

[NS-idff]

They have trust issues with everyone and don't have the brain wiring to be able to feel real love, obviously these people feel alone deep inside and as a result, they can't connect to anyone because they can't rely on anyone; this is the reason they keep on competing in all relationships and friendships.

[straykittsco.]

My mom comes from the generation that got married in the 80s and she's now 65. I'm blessed that this did not happen to my mother, but my mother said the reason why she picked a man like my father is because her father was verbally abusive to her mother and she grew up in a house hold where my grandfather made it his duty to remind my grandmother on how she couldn't do anything right while my grandmother constantly until the day she past couldn't stop talking abt how much she loved my grandfather. I remember that even while my grandfather came to the U.S. to visit us in his 80s he would date other women. He never loved my grandmother even though he impregnated her over 7x and never left her. Until the day he past he was in shape and goal orientated as my grandmother was just a house wife that lost all focus on herself and centered her life around her husband, children, and family.
So if you want to know how my narcissistic grandfather turned out? He was never happy, never satisfied, he would have moments of enjoyment but then would go back to complaining. He developed dementia and had to be placed in a home because he was so out of control. He past in the nursing home when my family got the news. My grandmother had a stroke in her home when she was rushed to the hospital and passed away with her loved ones beside her.

[fables]

I think it’s best for a person dx with NPD to be alone romantically speaking and never having children. Although therapy can help manage their symptoms, they will always be narcissistic. Marriage is about 2 way street and being a parent means being self-less.

[ashleyg]

Mine told me that nobody would ever want to be with me and that I would die alone. Sadly, there may be some truth in that because as one that he abused, I will never be the same! I have honestly never seen a narc get their karma. Although they may find periods of happiness, they will never truly be happy, and maybe that’s the only true “karma” they experience and that isn’t karma in their minds because it’s all they know!

[miraclehands]

NPD feel alone and unloved all the time bcuz they don't have self love (true self love not narcissistic love) They dont have true self respect or true connection with others bcuz they don't have a connection within themselves especially emotionally. Your outer relationships reflect what your inner one is, thats all. My x-fiance NPD was married three times and he told me the loneliest he has ever been was when he was married. I commented upon the emotional disconnect that is what connects ppl on a deep level especially women. He just wont look at this matter at all, denies it over and over. And this is why he (they) are a type of energy vampire. They are uncomfortable being with himself. They unconsciously always need others to be around them precisely bcuz they arent in tune with their own inner world and suck off others to fulfill that emptiness for them. It is a type of disconnect with reality in my view.

[Dateacha]

Yeah. 😢 HE most definitely is not lonely. He managed to turn our baby boy against me. TOLD me as much.
Now I’m the one that’s alone. 😢