Pediatricians Debunk 16 Myths About Raising Kids

A pediatrician and a developmental psychologist from the Mount Sinai Parenting Center debunk 16 of the most common myths about raising children. They explain how strict parents don't raise well-behaved kids and how kids don't get hyper on sugar. They also debunk the idea that a slap on the bottom never hurt anyone — in fact, it could lead to covert negative behaviors in children.

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Pediatricians Debunk 16 Myths About Raising Kids

[anthonybenson]

"Because I said so" is the worst. If YOU're the only reason to not to stick the fork in the light socket, guess what the child will do when YOU leave the room

[chatwatcher]

If I ever have children, and they do something wrong, big or small, I want them to think
" i need to tell my dad " instead of
" my dad is gonna kill me "

[digiishort]

just an extra tip for parents out there: never tell your kid to stop crying. it doesn't work, the more they try to stop the harder the tears will pour and you're only teaching them to bottle up their emotions.


just let them cry it out, it doesn't matter how stupid their reason for crying might seem to you. clearly it's not stupid to them and they need to be allowed to process their emotions at their own pace

[DevonI]

Was told I'm not allowed to question my parent's motives or reasons for anything. Whenever I've had performance issues at work I get told by managers "if you're not sure just ask" or "ask lots of questions so you can learn". I'm 40 and still working on this one.

[centuryfiles]

Kids deserve respect too. If you constantly belittle them or their ideas or ignore them, they will let anyone not respect them too, and they won’t know their worth!

[drkzr]

The myth about "you end up parenting like your parents" is one I hope I never fall into. Yes, there's good and bad but I definitely don't want to copy the bad

[bcaye]

I have been criticized for allowing my 8 year old nephew be at the bedside when his mother died. He and I both held her hand and said we love you, find peace, we love you. We never really talked about it until he was grown, but as an adult he did tell me that it was easier to let her go because he literally saw the life go out of her.

[lichxd]

After having my first child, I noticed that he was a person from the very beginning. His personality, preferences. I can't understand why a lot of parents treat children like they don't matter until 18.

[connoisseurdumbass]

*Actual people with experiences in the field giving advices on how to raise a good human being*
Parents: "I pretend i do not see it"

[cecijayx]

“because i said so” is one of the easiest ways to lose respect from your child

[Blazeyful]

honestly its amazing how many problems with kids get solved once you calm down and explain to them why the behavior they have is wrong as opposed to just immediately going for punishment

[thedevin]

If you use violence and hostility when your child makes a mistake, they will not go to you in times of need and will try to resolve situations themselves, which may obviously make things worse.

[DanielJuarez-gbgh]

As a toddler I was spanked by an uncle while in my grandmother's care. As a kid I would freak out when I was in trouble with my dad and refuse stand up from the floor so that he couldn't spank me. This went on until I was eleven or so. The last time that I did this he said to me that he didn't understand why I was so afraid of being spanked because he had never once spanked me. I realised that it was true that he had never spanked me. It wasn't until I was around twenty that I remembered that my uncle was the one that spanked me as a toddler.

[Llamallama]

The sad thing is more kids are probably watching this tryna see if they’re raised good when the parents should be watching it..

[peeppeeped]

as someone who was spanked throughout my childhood and told stuff like "I'll give u a reason to cry" frequently, it did indeed make it worse lol

[Nobody-uxjb]

there's a psychologist near where I live and she said that when her son misbehaves or things like that, she throws anything at him that is near her, like books, tv remotes and even vases... I have absolutely no idea how she got her license or how she can treat her kid like this

[reynasoraten]

lesson: always learn to be decent adult first before being a parent.

[jungkooks_microwavephobia]

There are two types of people who are watching this video:
The people who come here to improve their own parenting skins vs teenagers and adults who will watch this video to find out what their parents did wrong.

[discogoth]

About the strictness myth: my parents were never strict with my brother and I about the little things— bedtimes, clearing our plates at dinner; and when we got older, the clothes we could wear, whether we could dye our hair or wear makeup or get a nose ring or have a boyfriend/girlfriend, and we could have a beer or glass of wine with our family. The result is two kids with college degrees that we got by working multiple jobs, who have healthy relationships with food and alcohol, who were honest with our parents about sex, who didn’t pierce our belly buttons with a sewing needle at a sleepover or lie to our parents we were at sleepovers but instead at parties binge drinking, like a lot of our peers. Our parents went away for the weekend a couple times in high school and we never had one party. They’d come home on Sunday to the place clean and we’d maybe have a couple classmates over for a group project or watch movies with friends. My mom let me get a nose ring after a lot of research and having me think about it for over a month to ensure it wasn’t a rash decision, and we went to a reputable piercer. In contrast, I knew a lot of girls who were piercing their friend’s and their own noses, lips, and belly buttons at sleepovers and getting crazy infections. I never hid that I was having sex as a 17 year old with my 17 year old boyfriend because I didn’t need to. My mom taught me honestly and frankly about safe sex and healthy relationships. Meanwhile, I knew 15-16 year old girls who secretly dated 20 year olds for years in really controlling, unsafe relationships without telling their parents because they were forbidden from dating or having sex. If their parents fostered an environment of honesty, their daughters would tell them that they had boyfriends that age and the parents could talk about healthy relationships & explain why that kind of age gap with a kid is harmful, even if it doesn’t feel that way to the 15 year old. My brother and I never felt the need to rebel in dangerous ways because we were given trust and freedom. But a lot of our friends went wild when they got to college because things like parties, all-nighters, piercings, unhealthy food, beer, and boys were the forbidden fruit.

[chrinarai]

I think it's important to remember that your child is not your subordinate who is carelessly misbehaving. A child is a real baby human with a raw an immature nervous system that needs to be supported and loved while they grow and encounter life's challenges