Why Are Narcissists So Angry All The Time? #narcissist

[hifumigreen]

One would think that they would eventually realize their frequently random and sudden outbursts are not normal human behavior, but they NEVER EVER come to realize that.

[BarbWiest]

Everyday they pretend happiness, for strangers that is .Trying to talk to them you will get the stupid look of them waiting to respond instead of listen .

[perdidoatlantic]

Anger intimidates people and helps the narc get his way.

[janetsiemer]

Anger…..all the time. I finally had the courage and family support to leave.

[gigidayz]

My ex is ALWAYS angry. Never smiles. Flies into a rage at the SMALLEST things!

[JohnSmith-wons]

I think they expect to be living like Kings or queens, so as this isn't always possible, they are constantly frustrated and angry, so take it out on their partners.

[vonehrenkrook]

What bothers me most is seeing how he talks when he’s around our kids—one of the kids will be talking and all of a sudden he (dad) will start talking about himself, and what’s bothering him. I’m like, your problems can wait til after the sweetness tells you what he or she is thinking—stop interrupting!!!

[gabymontanari]

If I asked him a question he would shout at me and ask what the hell are you talking about when he actually caused the problem

[ryanvillacruz]

This is the exact words to describe a narcissist

[katherineandrzejewski]

Yes....always angry .. not appreciating
anything and anyone ....
No regards no compassion
Such a big demage has been done to me .. the Empath

[Dyane]

This is actually one of the first traits where I suspected my sister is a covert narcissist. Your description & definition really clarifies so much about her insane & frequent bouts of rage over the years. I once tried to confront her about her rage issue and how draining & embarrassing it was to witness. Her only response was to shift the blame to everyone else & again lash out in retaliation.

[LoveSource]

it's terrifying and I know the next victim is going to run. my narc in is a monster

[bluebird]

Absolutely I identify. Was married to a mean, raging narc for 20 years. After 18 years of marriage, all of a sudden it dawned on me that I was always only an object to him and that’s why he could do what he did, then start chasing skirts and dating 13 women at a time and saying he wouldn’t walk our daughter down the aisle if he couldn’t bring a date. She didn’t want it at her wedding, but he insisted. He is t in a lot of the wedding pics because he couldn’t be found because he was out there somewhere with Flossie. He brought women around me from the get-go and it felt like we didn’t even know each other. We had 3 daughters and 18 years of marriage. He did despicable things, owed up to nothing. Acted like nothing happened, I was nobody he knew and he had moved on. It was incredible. Unimaginable. Really weird. I was so sorry I’d had children with him and that he was putting us all through all this. But I love my daughters and grands and they are doing well. All grown and have children of their own. It was a very hard life, for us. He was most concerned about the ladies and getting supply. Married three times. It’s just crazy.

[jhoran]

being angry always is just an escape goat or an alibi so he can leave the house to meet his girl..outside the house he's friendly and sweet and inside the house he's irritable angry and violent

[thereugo]

YES Yes yes, angry and argumentative about everything. Nasty and evil! I recall my mother in law got angry cause I didn't personally wish her a happy birthday. Actually she was looking for a fight or to goat me into an argument on how I hurt her feelings. She develops this tone to her voice of disapproval

[Freeminder-tjus]

Exactly! I once confronted with my stbx overt narc mil when I couldn’t tolerate her anymore by saying “why are you getting angry so easily?” She just raged more.

[lysas]

There’s silence. Then you see them tense and shaking, clenching their fists, their eyes turn black and then they explode with expletives and screaming. If they can keep other people in fear, shaking in their boots, walking on eggshells, they think they’ll do whatever they say. They’ll have utter control and get to be kings in their little fiefdoms. In fact they’re just two year olds having a tantrum. They’re so pathetic and I’m SO angry at them.

[rskoura]

Yes, I do resonate with this. You will never know what will cause a fit of anger. Even a change in the tone of your voice can trigger that. And the anger is not proportional to the cause. It is always too high, sometimes destructively high 😮

[robinlindberg]

I knew a woman a few years back, who I befriended. She was having trouble with her mother, she confided in me. Often she would call me up at all hours, sobbing. I thought I could be an ear, a help. Admittedly it was a good feeling that she came to me for help. And I did try, but when we got together...she was different. Friendly, giggly, and very interested in everything I had to say... It was ... flattering. But in the end of our "friendship" there were several things that started breaking down the relationship FAST. Example, we did a ride share to her mother's condo one day. I stepped into her junk filled van that once we were on the freeway, I discovered was infested with flies!!! I begged to roll down the window, but she didn't want the window down. After that I vowed to NEVER go in her car again!
But not long after that, she and I were in my car... talking back and forth for quite a while. She told me she couldn't be out to late, because she had to get back to check to her mom... Okay, that's fine, I understood that... But this woman went on and on and on talking. Once she stopped talking, she asked me what time it was. I looked at my watch, and told her. SHE BLEW UP, PURE RAGE!!! She jumped out of my car, shouting at me that I was supposed to tell he the time before it got to late, that I needed therapy, ...as she SLAMMED MY CAR DOOR SO HARD that I thought the window would have shattered! 😱 I had never seen this person react like this. PURE RAGE. IT SCARED THE HECK OUT OF ME. I drove home shaking in fear, thinking "I don't even know this person." "She's really dangerous, unstable, violent...."
I stopped all contact with her after that night, purely out of fear for my own safety.
Though she lives on the complete other side of the large city that I now live in, she tapped me on the back while I was shopping at a store close to my home. 😱 I was horrified! I asked her what she was doing over in this area of town, trying to be careful not to enrage. ... She acted like we could pick up where we left off...like nothing happened. In this public place I felt safe enough to bring up why I stopped talking to her. She went right into blaming me, telling me my responsibility in what happened... That was it! I didn't feel I should be responsible for telling a grown woman what time it was so that she wouldn't be running late... especially when I couldn't get word in on the conversation.
Way to many flags in this relationship for me to ignore.
Many lessons learned here, and feeling like such a dope for even not seeing flags in the beginning. I let myself get sucked in.🤦🏻‍♀️ I never would have thought this person could have had such rage, and expressed that rage on the shouting and very passionate slamming of my car door.
My best to all of you.
Stay safe.

[bernitacenteno]

Where does the narcissist get their idea that another person is ONLY AN OBJECT ? WHERE, HOW DOES THE NARCISSIST OBTAIN THEIR CHARACTER, LACK OF HUMANESS ?