Autism Boundaries THIS Is Why YOU Struggle! (5 TOP Issues)

People on the autism spectrum have issues and difficulties with social interaction and conversations.

Here are some awesome tips and hacks to help you become better at socialising and

1.Standing Too Close:
There is a socially accepted distance to stand apart form another person when talking. Autistc people have issues knowing this distance. It is typically between one to two meters in distance.

2.Knowing When To Talk:
In conversations everyone has their turn to talk. It is not accepted to talk over one another or interrupt someone while they are talking.

3.Knowing When To Stop Talking:
One big issues for autistic people is knowing when you are talking too long and when people are bored of you talking. Trying to keep a short precise conversation is the best way to keep on top of talking time.

4.Knowing What Not To Say:
It is not acceptable to bring up personally embarrassing or emotion / sensory topic about someone or yourself in a social conversation, especially a group situation.

5.Correct Engage And Depart:
It is know to enter a conversation with a small greeting and wait for a question to be asked of you first before talking. Then before leaving a conversation, give a reason for your departure without an abrupt leaving.

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[starcourtflayer]

I struggle so much with when to talk in conversations. Especially group conversation. I always either end up being spoken over because it wasn’t my turn, or I don’t say anything at all 😬😅

[inawoodenhouse]

in my experience, the trouble with waiting for another person to finish speaking, especially in a group, is that there almost is never a clean gap for you to start talking. someone else will start seemingly the exact millisecond the other person stops and by the time there IS a gap for you to speak, whatever you wanted to say before will no longer be relevant. then people wonder why you're so quiet 😅

[elizabethcanfield]

“Practice makes progress” I love that line much more than “practice makes perfect” for some reason.

[HannahRainbow]

1. Personal space
2. When to talk
3. When to stop talking
4. Knowing what NOT to say
5. Engage and depart
... Yep. A whole list of embarrassing moments right there!

[bradleybosley]

I think social anxiety isn't taken seriously enough when dealing with a person on the spectrum. All of these things I can see being issues for us. I have personally formed a 15 ft ~ radius bubble where I consider my personal space. I don't shout at anyone or anything I just get more and more uncomfortable. The fear in not being socially perfect is real.

[Gdam]

I'm more interested in an autistic person's personal space, and our boundaries. We are already familiar with all of the neurotypical boundaries of society that are difficult to conform to. I have found the only way to get peace is to isolate myself and when other people have to come into my personal space it is extremely disruptive.

[NFSMAN]

Im guilty of not having boundaries growing up, but i've learned how to have boundaries with people

[sharonyearsley]

I have no filter or boundaries with what I say. Or topic I speak about. People say I speak very openly.

[ginaale]

I think 1 meter (3 feet) is for if you’re talking with the person and 2 meters (6 feet) is the distance if you’re not talking to someone.

[aishatararobb]

I used to to talk over people a lot and they got mad so now I just avoid talking and only speak when I’m asked something

[tulip]

My experience with autistic people has been they are boundary kings, atleast as adults, as long as they know clearly.

[romeunleashed]

I recently got diagnosed from my psychologist. I was diagnosed when i was a child too but i never believed my mum. So i am now having to accept all this and your videos really do help so thank you.

[benjaminless]

"Gauge under power.:" Watching your channel for a few years. My memory can go back to about 2 of age. I can smell, experience, and exhibit those moments and/or incidents as if they were present. I know your pain.

[zacharycadman]

Wow! I've been professionally diagnosed with adhd and not autism so I don't want to give ownership to that, But your entry and departure bit was extremely reliable! I think I have always known the social rules on that and can do it in professional settings.... But I personally find it redundant and annoying. It would be so much more liberating to just instantly go on something that I have on the top of my head and allowed that person to riff back on it. People say things like good morning every day even if it's not a good morning. It's redundant.

[ginatheaspieexplorer]

What I find confusing sometimes is when the person that you are talking with starts talking with someone else that came to talk to them. Do I stay and try to converse or do I leave. I don't want to be rude and leave and I don't want to stay and not be wanted. I hate these situations. I often feel awkward. I guess if I feel awkward then I should just leave because they are making me feel uncomfortable. If they wanted me there they would probably make me feel comfortable which has happened before. I guess that I answered my own question lol.

[hugoyuugo]

I struggle and I think this is so unfair we have this ASD and no cure. I watched you last week. It's not fair you struggle too. And yes, I think of ASD as a disease. This super power power I have is rendered useless. We are good warriors though. Because we fight every day. Let's watch the video now and what you have to say!

[susansaunders]

BIG THUMBS UP!!! I really need to hear this and try to remember it. Although now I have to think about how far away I’m standing from people. If anything, I think I stand too far away.
I’ve parlayed many of my difficulties into a sense of humor but, unfortunately, the tension I feel in a social situation causes me to go immediately to a subject that’s “edgy” (read: inappropriate). My son was rather embarrassed by me until he learned about my Autism. And his.
A few weeks ago (at a funeral at Arlington Nat’l Cemetery, of all places), upon seeing a side of my family that I hadn’t seen in some years, I blurted out, “My GOD! Do I look as old as you all do?!” So, yeah. Thanks for these tips. I’m the worst conversationalist ever.

[joemarkbillington]

Its always nice to see more videos informing people of the basics because we're not all Rainman, man.

[camellia]

I find the chat 💬 function helps a lot with online group meetings where I can type my thoughts and the group leader will usually mention what I have said in the chat to the group - saving me from the timing / interrupting issue.

[kristinalindelof]

Thanks Dan for taking this seriously! I have been struggling with issues like this all my life. I am 56 and newly diagnosed with autism level 1. I would like to add something on waiting for the other to stop talking: sometimes they change subject mid-talking and what I have to say has become too late. Sometimes I realize that, sometimes not. Can be awkward. Sometimes the other person never stops talking, or never gives clear gaps for me to use, and I become the constant listener, not knowing how to break into the 'conversation'. And since I am so bad at concentrating on things I'm not particularly interested in... then the 'conversation' gets incredibly boring.