Why Do Old People Get Mean? Learn 7 Reasons Why Aging is Stressful

Pamela D Wilson responds to the questions asked by caregivers in this video. Learn 7 reasons why old people get mean to gain insights about the life experiences of aging parents and grandparents that can help caregivers gain compassion for the challenges related to aging.

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[mojojeinxs]

Even assholes get old. Just because you're a senior citizen doesn't automatically make you a nice person with a wealth of knowledge and wisdom.

[Mayrita]

We young people have many stressors too. Many more than old people had when they were young. And we are not going around being mean to everyone. There are no excuses

[heyu]

I tried to pay for an old man's cuppa tea cuz he took some time going through his coins and he got really angry at me and told me off. It's bizarre but it made me not wanna be an old grumpy bastard when I grow older. As long as you're breathing don't make earth your hell and just be happy

[DjJerryofficialChannel]

I love how you explained everything so crystal clear! Such extraordinary great speech and communication skills!

[tangbein]

Having worked at a convenience store I've learned that there is an even bigger chance that a middle aged/old person will try to trick you and get discounts. I've never ever met a teenager, person in their 20's or person in their 30's that have been difficult.
Reason for that is probably that life is more easier then so people don't see the need to react so hard to different trivial things.
I think one reason a lot of people can be afraid in conflicts with older people is that they have this natural instinct to respect them. They think like:"He's old and his life is difficult so I must respect him.". But that mentality will make one weak in the face of someone who just wants to bully you.
One should ask onesself if one would treat a person ones own age the same way. Because the normal answer to that would be no. And why should one treat an older person better.

[bezablaze]

Thank you I work in healthcare and I try so hard to be patient and compassionate. This video helped.

[michaelwilson]

My dad is 80 and he has been in some real serious bad mood issues and the next minute he will want to talk for a long time and laugh and carry on. I do just about everything because he is unable to do what he used to do. It takes enormous patience too deal with it.I just try to learn to ignore his bad behavior even though it is tough. I remember that he used to never acted that way but as they get older they start to change with their moods. I am 49 and going on 50 soon and stay busy most of the time which I usually like to do.

[Ctrozo]

My grandma always say that she take care of me. (Side note: she doesn’t, like at all!) My dad gives me food, and my aunt take me to go places. She cooks but I never eat it because I already ate. And she ALWAYS complain that no one eats her food. But she makes a big pot of soup and expect us to eat it for 3 days straight. My parents are divorced so I live with my grandparents and my aunt and her kids. We own a family jewelry store, so I see my dad everyday. My dad takes me to school, buys me food, and cook food for me. I just live at my aunt’s house because it’s closer to my school.

[BCLumberman]

Enjoyed your video. Makes lots of sense. I'm 76. I attended CSU until 1970 when I got drafted into the US Armed Forces during the Vietnam War. I fled to Canada and have lived here for the past 53 years. It was a major disruption in my life. I now carry two passports: Canadian and American. Cheers.

[keithlott]

This video helped and I so appreciate it but I'm leaving my culinary position at the retirement community I'm at by next month. I wrote a rant; then erased it, then rewrote it, then erased it. I'm retired military and I just can't do toxic anymore; from anybody.

[jessicarox]

thank you pamela. i hope we can all easily access MAID before suffering constant illness though.

[jellogecko]

I can understand and have empathy, but that doesn't excuse it. What I was taught by the older gen .As you get older, the more accountability you have for your actions. The same goes for older ppl

[Trkive]

I work in a diverse community and had been looking for some insight- this has been incredibly helpful. i wish i could present this in my groups but im not sure if its allowed. Regardless, ive learned and have been reminded of how i can improve and provide meaningful support to my clts. thank you.

[LMoreno]

I’m 48 years old and the word “old “ bothers me. In fact, I have a family member that is age 30 and he keeps talking about old people like for example: if you ask him a question about a building he would respond by saying “ a lot of older people with families like age 40 and over live in that building. “ or if you ask him how school was he would tell you how it was and then he would say, “ a lot of old professors at his school are checking out, ….. like they are dead, they died.” Like I don’t wanna snap back with a rude remark so what in the world should I

[scotthuffman]

I do not think I will have this problem but nothing is certain. The day life is no longer worth the pain it can toss your way. In the event I determine my mind or body is shot no improvement is possible I will not wake up the next morning. I have promised myself that I will never be a burden on my family. I went through it with my parents and stuck beside them until they passed ten months apart. They were great but their body worn out at 95. I am not going to put my children, now grown and independent, through this. I have had a good run at life but the day its more pain and trouble for all its time to go.

[specialstone]

What about this? Older seniors that act bipolar or BPD, and imagine the worse, and falsely accuse others of wrong they didnt do. I was witness to this a couple of times and kindly (in private) addressed the wrong accusations by an elderly lady towards another friend of mine behind his back. I think she been angry because she been lonely too long, and not having got attention the way she's wanted from my other friend (projecting her awful state onto my other friend) She offered me a room to rent but no way I could! She doesnt know that my friend ( told me that she said something not so nice about me, and that he said he didnt handle her well in defense of me). I caught on to her ways of slyly probing either him or me. She asks me about him and I keep it simple with her like, "I dont know" or if she complains about him, I say I am staying out of it (She rents him a room at another house). I don't trust her after she made accusations against him (maybe some memory loss beginning)?

[krxztyy_zz]

My grandma always tell at me and say lies about me in front of my mom when I don't even do it so Id rather just stay away my grandma cuz her condition is getting worse he even getting mad at my mom

[sarahmurphy-nfyl]

We donunderstand but it doeant make it anyneasier to tolerate esoecialky if its a daily issue whrn they are ill.

[NINABERETTA]

All of these sound like excuses for unkind behavior.

[debberraharriman]

Not necessarily it all depends on your lifestyle and how physically fit you are