15 Best First Date Tips For Men/First Date Do's And Don'ts

In this video, Jeff from The Style gives his top 15 best first date tips. He talks about the dos and don'ts men should pay attention to on the first date.

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[Wolf-reeq]

I’m watching this in my car waiting for the girl to get here on the first date. The suspense is buildings let’s go boys! I got this!

[linebyline]

1. Plan the date
2. Don't be cheap
3. Dress stylish
4. Use subtle cologne
5. Be punctual
6. Pre-plan topics of convo
7. Ask her questions about her and listen
8. Don't be too serious/heavy; keep conversations light
9. Don't brag
10. Be a Gentleman (open the door, pick up a bill)
11. Provide her a genuine compliment
12. Don't be too aggressive
13. Don't drink too much alcohol
14. Don't talk about your ex

[jeffanco]

So I took a first date to one of my favorite restaurants. The server comes over and says “nice to see you both here again”. 😳
20 years later my wife still teases me about our first date!

[savvylifestrategies]

Great info, Jeff. Tip #16: Let her do most of the talking, and she will think you are a great conversationalist :-)

[j.t.]

Open her door. It's seems like a given but I see fellas all of the time who will not. Classics never go out of style gentlemen! Props OG.

[dwaynesides]

Confidence confidence confidence number one in my book!

[libra]

Quick tip Fellas.... When you talk about your Ex
It makes you look bad as a person.
Just say it didn’t work between us.

[robertdunne]

Salute to everyone in the comments section 👊

[NASSAfellow]

I'm going to put this on all the posts I watched. I watched this video the morning of my first date and it helped a tonne. Stories about my life I was struggling to think of beforehand but funny ones came to me during the date just as I needed it. If you ever start discussing something negative, always turn it positive with a funny story. Make her laugh, never sit opposite if you can. Always get there before her. The bouncers gave me one last tip before the date arrived. I was standing in the cold lol. Don't wait outside; it makes you look desperate. Also how you feel, she feels so push away nerves by talking to those around you before she arrives and familiarising yourself with the environment. Make bets with her and lose so she can buy you a drink too. Let her repay the evening with only a drink/ice cream or whatever during the same date (she should offer). Go kino EARLY. Start with a hug, she may or may not choose a peck. Be decisive but a gentleman e.g. about when to eat or do things etc. Don't ask her where she wants to go, have things planned out. Flow in conversation. Move environments, even if it's seats in the same bar. Have things planned like a competitive or team work activity that allows you to interact. Gentle taps on her shoulder whilst laughing, briefly move your hand over hers and let go whilst your both laughing. But don't go too early on this, it has to set up a relationship for a bit. So maybe an hour in if it's going well. Move in close sitting next to her. Maybe even lean close to say something funny (make sure your mouth hygiene is impeccable. Floss, Use a tongue cleaner/scraper with tongue gel and ultradex to be sure). If it's going well you should have tonnes to talk about. Someone here said FORD family, occupation, recreation, dreams. Don't reveal too much about yourself if you want a second date. Tease her a little, to break down her wall but don't make her feel insecure. Compliment something she has done e.g. hair/worn rather than a feature of her body. Never compliment makeup; the reasons for that should be obvious. If the date is successful she'd set up the second one in some way, it might be mentioning she's doing something for charity etc. Take interest in HER. Generally if things are going well, her eyes won't wander, this is why it is so important you set up an environment you're comfortable with. The worse you are with conversation, the more external focus you need e.g. bowling to fill the gaps/tour a stately home, palace together or go on a boat ride. Point out similarities between you rather than differences. Choose DIFFERENT drinks to her on purpose after asking what she's having to show you have a mind of your own. Do something spontaneous at least once during the date like do something you're both willing to do to make you both embarrassed like dance randomly for a few seconds on your way out. It will show her CONFIDENCE and fun and exciting. You'll only have confidence if you calm your nerves that's why I'll say it again, talk to people around you and make small talk to compose yourself before the date. Finally go kino again at the end, with a hug, hopefully she'll give you the peck this time. Remember the aim of the first date is NOT to get a kiss (that's a Hollywood thing), but instead, a second date with her. Hopefully it's her that sets you up. Walk her to wherever she's going to get her ride home. Be a gentleman and put your arm round her, asking her if she doesn't mind you bringing her close if she's cold. Finally after an hour or two text to ask if she got home safely, she'll probably text saying she had a lovely time before that though. Give her a chance to do it though. Resist the urge to text her the next day before she does. Resist a further urge to text back straight away. That urge will be the hardest you've done. Respond with things that follow up on things you talked about during the date. Make her feel good about herself but always make yourself the prize and like a kitten, she'll keep interest in the ball of wool. Never boast though.
I learned so much in one night and can't believe how many years I feared this day... And it went beautifully. She set up the next date.

I just want to thank all of you in the comments section and the creator of this video who literally changed my life. Don't be put off if it goes bad, not everyone is made for each other and it is better you break off and stay friends than force something that won't work. Take it all slow. Don't be disheartened. Perfect practise makes perfect.

Good luck brothers.

[CooLT]

"I watch Jeff the Style OG"
"...Your place or mine?"

On a serious note, very nice tips, OG! I consider almost all of these absolutely crucial that all people should follow. Some of these actually apply to women as well!
My extra 2 cents: for conversation topics, just remember the FORD acronym that stands for Family, Occupation, Recreation and Dreams. These are usually safe to ask about, depending on the lady and the situation, my favs being the latter two. Salute!

[ModernDatingMastery]

*First dates are all about creating a relaxed and engaging atmosphere.*

[lovepink]

Please stop talking about your ex it's totally a turn off. If you're trying to court me then why are we talking about your ex. Great video!

[TreFKennedy]

1st date tip, keep her laughing because humor equates 2 things, that your honest and that you’re smart 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽

[DrB]

Yo OG that suit and shirt combo is fire!

[TheNunakun]

I wish I had an invisible Jeff right next to me on my first date. Life would be _fly_ . Great tips brother.

[hugoingelhammar]

So, I've been out of the dating game for a while due to family trauma and healh problems.
Last friday I went on a date, which I enjoyed a lot, but the girl never answered me afterwards. I was totally confused, but now I realized after watching this that I made quite alot of mistakes.
So thank you for all the tips, I will alter these things and hope for better luck next time!

[ec]

I'm 46 years old. I thought was the last one paying for date opening doors.
.thank you

[bobbyrebholz]

I agree with not skimping on the quality of the first date. There's also a cool flip side to that. Sometimes, you can tell a lot about a girl if she can simply go to a place like Chipotle with you, have a good time on a casual lunch date, and you can talk about fun stuff. Ultimately that's what you're gonna be doing anyway once the initial phases of dating continues. It's like you see who they really are by just being with you without formalities.

[CitizenOfSymphonia]

This dude exudes class. Great advice. Most of it is pretty fundamental but hearing it from a guy like this really gives me more confidence to carry it out. Thanks for the help!

[angelpassion]

Late but another tip is don’t always feel like the silence is a bad thing, no need to rush to find something to say. Just look at her, exchange smiles and just let the silence last for a moment then go from there