How to make a first date exciting, based on psychology

In this video, I talk about the one thing you might want to consider doing on a first date, based on psychological research by Dutton & Aron. Please like and subscribe if you enjoy real-world applications to psychology! :)

[naanbread]

lmao my girlfriend used this tip on me!! I AM SMITTEN LIKE YOUR KITTEN

[williamhrbacek]

This is why I've always gone with the tried and true simulated hostage scenario for the first date

[Stizy]

straight and to the point. surprised you didn't make this into a 10-15 minute video like most would

[tyreekmurillo]

the bridge experiment almost sounds like trauma bonding

[zeffery]

a couple years ago, my roomates and I watched soapy romantic movies for fun and I noticed a trend. Whenever a guy and a girl did something dangerous and/or illegal together, they fell in love. No movie or show breaks this rule

[ishaajain]

This is why they say, watching a horror movie on thr 1st date is thr best date idea heheehehe

[marlenegonzalez]

I usually wear a sexy professional outfit to dates and get the same response that they are more nervous then they thought they would be, I believe this is due to giving off interview vibes which most get nervous going into interviews but, it’s all a mental illusion stimulated by an outfit

[Airvian]

I heard about the theory a long time ago and then I realized this is what they do basically every planned date on the Bachelor. There’s always a concert, a fast car, helicopter ride, horse riding, zip lining, skydiving etc. It seems only near the end that the dates start to get more normal but even then they’re on vacation somewhere so it’s still exciting. That’s probably part of the reason the couples don’t last a lot of the time.

[Chelseaaaa]

So basically I’d be physically attracted to a bear moments before it kills me..nice

[udontknowme]

This video taught me what not to do on a first date lol

Keep the first 2 dates boring. Don't be boring, just the date. Nothing too stimulating, even alcohol. Run an errand together, or just take a walk. Just pure conversation and getting to know each other. Avoid anything that can your cloud your judgement, and form an honest opinion of the person.

If you like them after 2 dates, the third date is when you bring the game on ;)

[medialunasx]

Thats so interesting. My boyfriend always can pin point the day he realized he was really into me, and it was like our third date, we met up to play tennis (which I’m thankfully really good at). I was into him way before this, and that date was nothing out of the ordinary in my perspective, but for him, it caused him to realize he really liked me.

[gurnoorreh]

I love how you get straight to the point and keep it straight forward/ short

[Miss.Elaineous]

I once went on a date with a guy I wasn’t super attracted to. He was a great guy, and he was decent looking so I wasn’t necessarily not attracted to him either. We went to an arcade on our first date and I found myself far more attracted to him afterward. I always assumed it was because I got to know him better, but this makes a lot more sense! We ended up dating for a while, but it just didn’t work out in the long run.

[iliketositandeat]

Next date I’ll hire some big guys to kidnap us 🥰🥰

[caoimhemouse]

1 minute in. All I am hearing is "scare the shit out of men".

Perfect.

[heathmcdougall]

It’s true. In fact, anything that excites the body and mind, be it something thrilling as a rollercoaster ride, or something simpler like walking in the rain, or something even simpler like throwing french fries playfully to the person’s face on a supposedly boring dinner. Works every time folks.

[subman]

I don't know which aspect I love more: that this was not a 15-minute video, or that she left us with the warning don't forget, you're also going to spend time with this person when they're not adrenalinated, so that might be an issue. Well done

[wronglayerbutok]

So because I have anxiety i’m attracted to everyone all the time? Damn.

[f_r_e_d]

I remember when she fell in love with me. We linked up for a blind date and the moment she saw me she ran. I chased her down and when she tripped I stood over her exhausted body and said “where do you think you’re going?” She immediately said “your place”. Isn’t love beautiful? 🥰

[savannahharold]

I just started watching your videos and I'm hooked. They're so interesting and you have a very calming, healing aura.