Listening To The Emotional Pain Created By A Narcissist

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No one enjoys the emotional pain that is generated by a relationship with a strong narcissist, yet that pain is there for a good reason. Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter explains how your pain is part of your inner alert system prompting you to focus your energies toward a better path. Are you listening to the message your emotions are sending you?

Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who lives in Dallas, Tx. In the past 40 years he has conducted over 60,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

[meghanwebber]

I never thought I'd find so much comfort and solidarity on YouTube regarding feeling acknowledged and validated. 😭

[XenaTalbfor]

I asked my narcissist if he was ever happy. He replied, “no”. He didn’t ask me the same. No surprise there. Take your hand off the stove if you don’t want to get burned.

[AMo-]

My life is a drama free zone. Never tolerating manipulation like that again.

[wildhorses]

I have been Hated for decades, lied to, Raged at, disrespected. Recent divorce and
I am at Peace . Thank you Dr Carter, you are very kind.

[nikkirobinson]

A NARCISSIST will utterly destroy your self worth! They drain you emotionally and Financially!!!😱

[skysherlimit]

Hearing “I deserve respect” seriously made me cry. It’s true and hurtful that someone was allowed by me to cross such boundaries.

[hellicat]

Shout out to my "parents made me cry on my birthday" crew, we're strong and we'll get through this. ♡

[southamericanescapes]

"My healing will come as I remove myself from the one who is generating this pain, and as I listen instead for my own yearning for peace."

[ahamilton]

The emotional pain can be so overwhelming that it may take years to get through it and heal.

[CG-btoc]

The emotional pain of unresolved issues because the narcissist never apologizes or admits to any wrong doing. The deep pain of hurtful damaging words, accusations and assumptions run very deep

[caritaallen]

I've just broken up with a narcissistic person who towards the end of the relationship became not only mentally but physically abusive. Everything supposedly was my fault. Seeing your videos coupled with other videos on the same topic gave me the strength to leave. Thank you so much

[Moonbae]

" My healing will come as I remove Myself from the person who is generating this pain, And I Iisten instead, to my own yearning for peace." Peace is what you deserve. Thank you Dr. Thank you

[mattlehnardt]

clue: "YOU WERE MADE FOR NONE OF THIS" - Oh my God, i wanted to stand up and CHEER!!! thanks Dr. Carter!!

[nicoleb]

"They delight in keeping you in a state of upheaval" so true! Brilliantly said

[autumn]

I never thought a YouTube video would leave me in a puddle of tears. Your validation, kindness, and encouragement are a healing balm.

[kmkinney]

Another great video. A narcissist will say, "you need me." They cause unbearable emotional and physical pain but will blame you for everything. Even when you listen to your pain it is hard to leave because they saddle you with fear and guilt. The good news is there will be relief when you can break away. You might have to give up a lot to get away, but it's worth it.

[philmorrison]

This man is absolutely correct! I’ve been no contact with my ex narcissist for 9 months! Married for 34 years. It’s crazy, my knees and back no longer hurt! PTSD and anxiety are subsiding! I no longer have a need for alcohol! I’m remembering who I am! I’ll know when I’m healed when I can read my handwriting again!

[cloisterene]

I have observed that many people tolerate high levels of emotional abuse and pain because that is all they know and so they assume that it is normal or at least acceptable. Many people have been socially conditioned to be overly tolerant, forgiving, and submissive within particular relationships. They allow themselves to be assigned lower ranking positions within their social structures than is necessary or healthy. Often they are led to falsely believe that there might be some vaguely defined benefit or reward for cooperating.

Free-spirited individuals who refuse to play those games are often subjected to the degradation of unflattering labels and/or accusations, gossip, etc. Regardless, some persistently maintain the philosophy that it is of prime importance to remain true to oneself first, whatever the consequences. And clearly the goal of narcissists is to take control of others, mind, body, and spirit -- which I think most would agree is intrinsically evil.

Essentially it is a problem of morality and doing the right thing for yourself as much as toward others. In other words, realizing the truth that you are worth far more than the narcissist would have you believe; that is, embracing egalitarianism while rejecting tyranny.

[lftdxrv]

My sister stalked me on social media, she would be constantly saying things to put me down under my posts. So I did the same to her, she blocked me, now peace at last.

[tracysjostrand]

How refreshing to have someone who speaks to you in language we can all understand and with kindness and caring.Thankyou because I was feeling very lost and confused and scared and this has helped.