8 Evidence-Based Tips that Helped Me Find Love

One of the biggest predictors of life satisfaction is the quality of our relationships and there are studies which show that it's specifically your romantic relationships which correlate with these health and happiness outcomes. So in this video, I'll be sharing some tips from that I picked up from talking to behavioural scientist Logan Ury who's written the fantastic book How To Not Die Alone. Enjoy x

⏱ Timestamps
01:17 Tip #1 - Throw away the checklist
03:03 Tip #2 - Overcome the hesitater mindset
04:47 Tip #3 - Don't fall into the interview trap
06:34 Tip #4 - The peak end rule
07:45 Tip #5 - The second date rule
09:15 Tip #6 - The experiential mindset
13:18 Tip #7 - Basement person vs penthouse person
14:02 Tip #8 - Treat it like an experiment

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Ali moving from productivity to reproductivity 👀

[ThreeTwentyTech]

Ali's one true love is *productivity*

[sakinaalia]

I like how you’ve extended your channel into improving your personal life! Sometimes productivity channels can feel so about the grind culture that we forget to have lives outside of it.

[bobbyboo]

Honestly the best relationships I've had were when I was not looking for one, I put myself out there through hobbies instead and met lots of new people and eventually that's how I met my current bf. It feels way more natural this way and we were actually friends first. But I totally get the frustration, I was on the apps for a while and it was so frustrating and dehumanizing

[BanANNAs]

I am really enjoying your content Ali, I’ve been thinking about what it means to improve happiness so it’s really cool to see you go through things systematically, even relationships! Really happy that you’re growing in this way as well ☺️

[SadbhW]

Yep, I actually met my "ideal" and didn't feel anything. I altered my approach to pretty much everything in this video and then I met my husband who was the complete opposite of my original list!

[EastofSublime]

Unbelievable amount of quality, life-changing content in 15 minutes. This was such an excellent way to follow up on the book summary. As someone who's fairly well-read in the relationship and therapy department, you introduced some new concepts and there's always more to learn. Thanks so much Ali !

[JannekeW]

Honestly, just take it easy and follow your feeling. If it feels right, continue to grow the relationship. Use conflicts to deep dive into each person's needs and each person's pre-wired behaviour shaped by parents and life experiences. This will lead to a better mutual understanding and to becoming a stronger team together. If it doesn't feel right, leave. And do not treat your significant other like something you can own or shape to your needs and never rely on that person to support you financially. That way you can always fairly choose for the relationship and not hang on to it for other reasons than believing in it.

[MeryKeit]

You suddenly became my favorite YouTube channel. Your advice is always something to consider and look forward to.
Thank you for what you’re doing ❤

[BeneathTheRomance]

2:10 damn she really said “my husband is NOT the ideal partner physically but he’s Brilliant and hilarious” 🤣

[AlexPresa]

I think one word can summarize this entire video and its: humility.

We are all human, we all have amazing qualities, flaws, and everything else in between. Give people chances, and more chances, and chances are you will find love.

[zottun]

So happy to hear you've found love 🥰 love to see it!

[ish.]

I just got out of a relationship fairly recently but I didn't go into that relationship with any kind of checklist expectation. And I think that's why it was so successful during the first, second and third date. It may not have led to marriage or whatever, but it was a great first relationship that was truly genuine.

[ydavidzhu]

Insightful. Love the tip about having an experience when going on dating rather than the traditional meal/interview.

[rw]

Ohhh Ali’s in love 🥰 We all get those feelings and it’s so nice to hear you talk about it.
I hope you find the right one ❤️

[radhikadashputra]

Congratulations Ali. Productive way to announce an engagement!

[ZoeysMusings]

Learning how to find love productively is something I never knew I needed 😁Happy you've found love, Ali!

[explainexplosion]

Thanks for this video always all of your videos encourage us everytime always help us to realise many things also thanks all the members who are working at background

[nurinsabrina]

I love how your channel cover different aspect of lives - love, education, career etc 😍

[emaanmazhar]

Off topic: Ali's voice is so therapeutic.