Do you have executive disfunction?

Chapters
00:00 Intro
01:46 What is executive disfunction?
04:52 What are executive funtions?
09:25 Types of executive function
11:04 What does executive disfunction feel like?
13:02 Examples of executive disfunction
14:23 What causes executive disfunction?
16:17 How are the disorders diagnosed?
17:53 How to manage executive funtion disorders?
19:33 Tips to deal with executive disfunction
24:15 When should you go to the doctor?
24:39 PEP TALK!

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[curiousfirely]

I am a teacher with ADHD. I often 'narrate' my strategies out loud, so students see what I'm doing and why. I then use this as a model when I'm asking them what strategies they could use in a situation. I like to think it helps the students see that adults work through the same problems, and that strategies can work!

[flightlessphoenix]

My working memory is so unbelievably badly impaired. I tested in the top 5% of UK adults my age for verbal and non verbal reasoning, but my working memory tested in the bottom 20%. That discrepancy makes it hard to get people to believe my difficulties- I seem articulate and competent, until I don’t write something down and forget to do it and let them down. And the more stressed I am, the worse it gets! Yay!!

[AnanasAbanaan]

More tips (I'm autistic):
- When faced with a large task, do the mental work on another day than the actual task. For example: I made a step by step plan of how to clean my bathroom. I didn't make it on the day I was going to clean the bathroom, because making the plan drained my energy. Now, I just have to follow every step, and my bathroom will be clean. For things like this, making the plan once is enough! ☺
- I have a google calander, but I also have a physical, paper bullet journal/planner. It makes a major difference for me to write down something vs typing it.
- When I finish a task I will take time to evaluate how long it took me. Both at work and at home, I am generally unable to estimate how long a task will take. Instead I consciously build up an inventory of types of tasks. I then know that cleaning the bathroom takes about two hours and I will be tired and sweaty afterwards, so I can be prepared for that situation. At work I apply this too. "This task is similar to x task in the past. That took me 4 half work days. That means I have to block off at least that amount of time for this task."
- Make a simple action plan for recurring "stuck" situations. I sometimes get stuck, especially during a decision making process. This strongly ties in to mental health issues as well. My easiest plan is for when I am putting off self care. This can be not eating or not moving from the same position for hours. The plan always start with: 1. Drink a glass of water. 2. Eat something. Anything. This can be a piece of fruit, a biscuit, a jar of applesauce, leftover rice with hot sauce, anything. 3. Go outside. Walking a turn around my building is enough, or taking the book I'm reading and sitting on a bench across the street to read. These steps usually help me out of being stuck. After these 3 steps, I identify the reason for being stuck, and decide on a solution.

[eileene]

I was told I was lazy A LOT when I was a child/teen and it hurt so much when I couldn't articulate what was wrong.
Now I'm 38 and have all my doctors saying I have adhd and my life makes so much more sense.
I wish I could go back and give that stressed and confused little girl a hug and tell her she's okay.

[millies]

My mom used to eat my food if it was left in eye sight, and she was always late picking me up from school. Learning about her executive dysfunction has really improved our relationship, as I now know that she is trying and these things aren't in her control.

[flawlix]

I call my executive function issues my “inertia problem.” Can’t get going, can’t change course without intense effort, can’t stop easily once I start

[leornere]

ADHDer here! Executive dysfunction solidarity!!

[alenaalisakomendova]

"Insist on people writing things down." THIS!
This is one of the reasons text messages and emails are superior to phone calls! If it's written, I can check it million times to make sure I got it right, go back to it in the future, copy&paste the relevant info. When the same (regardless how simple) information is given verbally (either in person or over the phone), the chances are close to none that I'll be able to recall any of it.

[sjzara]

I have an executive function. He’s my husband. Without him I’m inactive blob.

[marabanara]

Oh no! Not Better Help!!😩 and right on the most relevant video, too, as someone with chronic illness and ADHD.
I do understand more than most the importance of telehealth mental health services. But BetterHelp is so horribly problematic- it doesn’t take much digging.

[jennifers]

I do not have an executive dysfunction, but my wife does. I can’t wait to show this video to her. Your personal examples were so very relatable. I just know she is going to be telling me “See!! It is not just me.” the whole video.
(Your pep talk at the end was very good.)

[saundraswain]

I was diagnosed with “moderate to severe” ADHD in November 2021 when I was 37. My psychologist thinks it’s amazing that I managed to get 2 undergrad degrees and 1 graduate degree. When I went for my second undergrad degree (after my graduate degree) everyone was using computers to take notes and boy did that take away the tiny amount of focus I had! That degree was a struggle. This year, the company I work for started offering FREE coaching through our mental health service and I’m taking full advantage. I’m in the US and coaching isn’t cheap, but with this benefit I’m able to meet with my coach an unlimited number of times! It’s been amazing and learning to time block has to be the biggest game changer for me so far.

[emmynoether]

"You are not lazy!" Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!! ❤ I was called lazy all through my childhood until I was 24 and got diagnosed with a very serious mental health conditition. Just as you said in a different video: "people struggle before and after their diagnosis!"

[bilemcin]

Since my diagnosis of ADHD, reparenting my self I think was the key. Thinking what would I do to help my little self if I saw her struggling has work wonders, doesn't always worked, cus sometimes depression and anxiety win the hand. But, as with a toddler, patience is the 🗝️😊

[kaisoep]

I'm autistic and maybe ADHD, I'm sending this to my mom because she keeps telling me it's just about discipline whenever I tell her about my struggles with executive dysfunction. You explain it so well that I'm sure she'll understand :-)

[nyxcuseme]

Every time my family is extremely annoyed/disappointed with me, or doesn't understand what's happening, I just ask if they really think that I like living like this.
I don't know how anybody could think that I love this about myself, that I love living in constant chaos, anxiety and dysfunction, that I miss important appointments on purpose or that I like that my kitchen/whole house starts looking like crap every time I don't feel great - that I have to gather all my motivation to get up in the mornings sometimes, and that's the only productive thing I can do that day.
I understand that it is hard living with or around a person that has those problems, but I'm clearly not like this for fun, it stresses me out to no end, and I constantly apologize and feel useless.
It's hard to understand for most people - I really like this video, it explains a lot of the stuff we're going through that is hard to put into words sometimes.

[New_Wave_Nancy]

I had a brain abscess in my frontal lobe - which has resulted in frontal lobe syndrome (main symptom - executive dysfunction!) and epilepsy. I can totally relate to having words fly out your mouth before you even had a chance to consider them and determine if they're appropriate or not. I also interrupt people a lot due to this. My partner has ADD and his executive dysfunction manifests differently from mine, thankfully.

[vrubin]

I assign every item a spot where it’s supposed to stay and that helps me keep track of my stuff. When it’s not in its designated spot, it’s easier to remember the last place I left it.

When I didn’t assign everything a spot, my life was chaos, I’d destroy my room looking for one thing. 😅

[lauravanimpe]

I started asking every company I have an appointment with to email me a confirmation of the appointment. It was a life changing moment.

[annislander]

I definitely really needed that pep talk. I find that the most frustrating aspect of my autism is the executive dysfunction I experience. Makes life and university tremendously difficult. I feel rather horrid when I compare myself to peers with average executive functioning, as much as I try not to do that.