THIS Is Why Wives Should NOT Submit to Their Husbands!

We've been taught that wives are to submit to their husbands based on what the word of God says. But, could it be that we have been interpreting that incorrectly? In this video I discuss what I believe is a better way to understand a women's submission to her husband.

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[karinclark]

My husband and I have been married for 22 years. I have doubted his salvation for years. He constantly makes bad decisions, suffers the consequences, but never learns from them. I try my best to live for the Lord and follow His will. My husband at times mocks me for obeying God instead of submitting to him. I tell him that I'd rather be in trouble with him instead of with God. If it wasn't for the Lord I probably would have lost my mind years ago. Please pray for me, brother. 🥺🥺🥺

[craigwinters]

I watched my mother submit to my father all through my childhood. She didn’t always agree with him but knew he honored God. She viewed her submission as true act of worship to God, as a child I was always impressed with her act of devotion by submission to her husband and thus honoring God . While many women of her generation are broken miserable and living a life not worth remembering. She has lived a long amazing adventurous life one who became the millionaire next door with many friends and extended family. She taught me the true worship is obedience to the Scriptures and she lead by example.

[VisionunSEALED]

You nailed it. Wives submit to your husband as unto the Lord. It’s very easy to submit if the husband loves the Lord. Because he will love his wife unconditionally.

[janellestoermer]

When I was single, I knew I only wanted a man I could follow, and that ruled out a lot of guys I could have considered. I agree with your thoughts and biblical interpretation of this. God blessed me with a very godly husband. In our marriage, there has only been ONE instance where I deeply wanted something different than he did, and I KNEW God was calling me submit to his final decision (he had heard me out, but was acting according to what he believed God was leading us to do). It was so hard, but God really blessed when I submitted to how He was leading my husband. I was so thankful I had married the one HE had for me, not some spineless guy who would never have sought God's will.

[letsprayandfasttogether]

Pray God lifts the scales from the lukewarm and lost eyes, opens their ears and soften their hearts, pray for your brothers and sisters in the Lord.

[AVKingJamesBible]

A Biblically loving husband and a Biblically submissive wife is the key to a happy marriage.

[bluecollardiesel]

The wives should submit to the husband as the husband submits to the Lord. If the Man is telling the wife to do things thats against Gods word then Gods word overrides the husband. Thats the only time a wife should not submit. This is my understanding. God bless.

[BrotherCalebMusic]

My thoughts:

Women submit to their husbands, unless its sinful - otherwise, even if the man does not obey the Word, the woman can win the man by her Good Chaste conduct. Some tend to think if the man is not following the Lord, that the woman is under no more obligations to obey her husband in anything - yet that would be absolutely faulty for anyone to think, since that is clearly not what the Word of God teaches.

On the point of Esther, just to be clear, Esther did not actually "disobey" her husband - she did not submit to his initial first premise, by consulting with him in wisdom, YET, she did not disobey him in any way, either - being, the man had the final say, she was able to bring about a different outcome; of which he was the authority over executing; through the consultation.

In the case of Ananias, it should be addressed, that we need to stay from Ahab-ish tendencies as men as well - since, if it is true that he waited for his wife's consent, to go on with a lie, then it would be that they were both wicked and it's not like Sapphira was trying to plead him to the other direction.... she was in full agreement. When she came into the room, she COULD HAVE said "Oh no, we only gave 'such n such amount'", but she chose to lie as well, on her own accord, while her husband was absent and God used both that man and that woman, as an example; and rightly, the Fear of the Lord came upon all the Church and the Disciples.

And with that being said, we need to be careful all around about Jezebel and Ahab tendencies, because this is too common, EVEN IN THE CHURCH - sadly. (Spineless, weak men, ruled by boisterous, manipulative and/or controlling women)

We need to be careful not to further perpetuate what this culture already saturates itself in - women should not do evil if their husbands are leading them to - and husbands should not submit to the whims or a woman, in her emotions, etc, just to "save face" so to speak with her - it is bad.

Women of God need to be submitted to the Word by submitting to their husbands, in everything that is not pertaining to sinfulness. Many woman are already not submitted, are teachers, etc, and they are calling themselves Christians, despite the Words of the Lord.

Nevertheless, do not get me wrong, plenty of men are doing plenty of wrong, and need to be corrected rebuked, admonished -

Remembering to avoid what the Word of God says about the gentiles "blaspheme the Name of God because of you" - we need to be "examples of the Believers" as Paul exhorts Timothy and to continue to be witnesses of what it is to be submitted to God all around.

As far as the order, we should be in order - men Loving their wives and nourishing them as their own body (For who has hated his own flesh? as Paul rhetorically questions) - however, just as if a wife is not submissive, we practice patience and Love still, and do the necessary things according to the Word of God - and vice versa, if the man is not submitted to God, and not Loving as he should, again, through the wifes Good and Chaste conduct, she can win him over - i think of hot coals being poured upon ones head through doing good, when they were not doing good unto you - their conscience is touched with conviction.

[thegodloverthegodlover]

Agree 100%! Ultimately, we are submitting to the God in the husband and not the husband alone!

[charismagustafson]

1 Peter 3:1‭-‬2:
Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.

[bradenhogan]

If you want to combat misapplication of this passage, just read the scripture directly following it which lays out the expectation for husbands

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of His body. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭5:25-33‬

If a husband is supposed to love his wife in the same way Christ loved the church, such that he is expected to both metaphorically and potentially literally lay down his life and sacrifice everything for her, then the wives’ submission to the husband should also look similar to the church’s submission to Christ as well. Because that’s what the Bible explicitly states

Usually, misapplication of the Bible seems to result from missing context. Just don’t let people go around quoting single verses to make a point without knowing what the point of the original was

[smartchristians]

It should be that as long as the one you are submitting to is either submitted to God or is not violating God’s command.

[austincasby]

This is very helpful. As a Christian wife, who’s husband has fallen from the faith. This is actually a big light bulb moment for me. Thank you.

[mjsblessings]

1 Peter 3: 1 "In the same way, you wives be submissive to your own husband's so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives." This is very clear. Unless my husband is asking me to sin (whether he is saved or not) I am to be in submission to him. My flesh is to flighty to depend on my evaluation of my husband being "in line" with God. One bad week and my feelings can sway that judgement of him. I know many wives who take this position and are constantly judging if their hubby is worthy of following. It creates misery and a critical spirit. It's simple... don't follow if he asks you to explicitly sin. Otherwise, we are to follow our hubbies!

[charmillehare]

Thank you for this. I’ve always said that it is easy to submit to a man who loves, submits and serves Jesus because I trust Jesus more than anyone and if he is submitted him, I can trust him.

[smpittsburgh]

Nothing exposes a woman's fleshly nature like the command to obey her own husband! This is true whether one's husband is a godly believer or not! We must walk in the Spirit and trust in the Lord in our roles as wives. Submission to one's husband is a testimony to our husband, children, other believers, and the lost world. This command is being watered-down to mean something less than what it plainly says.

[bbll]

Glad I don’t have these problems! God really blessed me with an amazing Christian husband ❤️

Glory be to God

[PotterSpurn]

This is a good video on a much needed topic. The lessons learned here are....

1. A wife should submit to her husband in everything, providing that the 'everything' is in alignment with God's decree that her husband loves her like God loves the church. In other words, he is not exploitative and abusive in an ungodly way.
2 A wife's role is to be helper to her husband. But being a helper may result in her 'leading' her husband out of problems where he is not submitting to God. Helper does not always imply 'underling.' A professor can help a student improve their essay technique. But who is the underling here? Not the professor. A secretary can help her boss run his business, but that makes her the underline. Help does not always mean 'underling.'
3. The whole point of a Christian marriage is that God is at the very centre of it for both parties. When God is elbowed out of the way by a husband but he still expects to rule over his wife, his wife need not submit to him because he is not a Godly husband. After all she married a husband who submitted to God, not one who did not.

Conclusion: that means that a man must be Godly at all time for a wife to be submissive to him. Because to be submissive to him is to be submissive to the God that her husband submits to as well. That means that she is fully protected from abusive husbands who exploit their wives and break the law by endangering them by physically abusing them or emotionally destroying them.

It is worth noting that the Bible states that a wife must submit to her husband; it does not say that a husband can make his wife submit to him. The first implies willingness and obedience to God, the second implies obedience to a man who has no intention of obeying God.

[nadiabarrett]

I think blindly submitting neglects the role of a wife as "helpmate" ...you are the closest person in your husband's life, so who better to speak insight into his life? Plus, submitting as a mutual act is also biblical; here's where I think submitting needs to be understood as selflessness, which is something we are all called to, as opposed to a situation of dominance. Also, husbands, remember to leave space for your wife to CHOOSE to submit, otherwise, it's not submission at all.

[coursemyt]

This reminds me. because my parents are not believers, I used to sneak out of my house during middle school to go to prayer meetings. My parents were upset but God comes first