Reacting To “45% Of Women Will Be Single & Childless By 2030”

Chris and William Costello discuss why so many women are choosing careers over family. Is it accurate that 45% of prime working age women will be single and childless by 2030? What is the danger of women struggling to find a mate? Is there a mating crisis in the current dating market? Is it Tinder’s fault?

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[ChrisWillx]

Full length episode live next week. Press Subscribe you beauties.

[darbrad]

Reminds me of a funny joke about Beyonce being up on stage singing "all the single ladies" then she goes home to her husband and leaves all the lonely girls dancing in a circle pretending to be happy

[janedo-re-mi]

Some men and women just don't want to get married and/or have kids. It's not a crime. Some people don't want the responsibility and stress of being a parent. Those people are absolutely right not to have kids, because there's no reason to bring another life into this world knowing you don't want the experience.

[FantasticLife]

I'm a man who doesn't want children, so I don't have a problem if women are deciding that they don't want children as well.

[mooniebo]

famous funny quote: "I left my ex husband and one day I sat down to reminisce and cry about it, but I couldn't think of a single thing he did to miss him for"

[niceandcurly]

I'm from a 3rd world country. Most women of my mother's generation were stay at home moms.
The abuse, infidelity and general misery that I saw in these women, cemented my decision to NEVER be economically dependant on a man to give him children. Ever.
I am very happy.
To each their own....

[annalynvang]

I’m a stay at home mom and I think it’s pretty amazing. Sure there are days where you’re surviving to the next, but most days are fun and enjoyable. I do think the women who chooses a career over building a family will regret it. As an employee you’re replaceable at the end of the day, but as a mother there is no one that can take ever your place.

[ShortCircuit]

As a man who also doesn't want kids, I find it interesting and kind of annoying the general male perspective on women that don't want kids.

Sure, being a boss babe is one motivator, but there are plenty of others which I think dominate.

For example, it's almost never brought up that a woman has to be pregnant...not men. This doesn't even get into the during/post pregnancy health problems that can arise. Factor in the brunt of parenting disproportionately falling on women or the rising costs of well...everything, it's not really surprising that in an age where women are less dependent on men, more are choosing to opt out of motherhood.

That said, if parenthood is for you, then by all means go for it! I don't care one way or another. I just hate how judgemental we are towards people's decisions regarding kids without even asking "why?"

[Faithmay]

Some women want a family life, some don't. Some regret it, some don't. Same with men. As simple as it sounds.

[lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr]

Husbands tend to die before wives though, and children typically don't look after their parents in old age, so I think a lot of women now see motherhood as a lot of work for little reward - they wonder 'what's the point?' if they'll end up alone anyway.

[Hellokittyy]

Most people who settle in their 20s are divorced and single parents in their 30s. It’s children who suffer the most in broken homes. So it’s better for people to focus on themselves not only financially but emotionally/spiritually. There’s no need to rush marriage and children. Take your time.

[LadyMarigoldWithers]

It’s funny how the podcasts on this subject always focus on childless RICH women like every single one of us is on boat holidays, casually f*cking and snorting coke every weekend 😆🙄. I’m working poor, have no children and do none of those things. I never wanted a child for the sake of having one, in fact I never wanted any until I met one man at 34 and that switch immediately and surprisingly flipped.
Unfortunately he broke my heart. The years it took to get over that loss mean that I’m now 40 and obviously no one is interested so I’ve accepted my lot. The alternative to that acceptance is literal Hell and I’ve already been there a couple of times. I have no wish to return.
So I try my best to be a good daughter, I have two dogs who are my world and I have the spare time to help my friends and wider community when needed and yes, enjoy myself and indulge hobbies more than a parent might. I never pictured kids in my life AT ALL until I met that one man and now I feel just like I did before that, a bit sad for having missed the chance sure, but it is what it is. I’m much stronger emotionally and grateful for all the comforts and close family I have. It could be a whole lot worse is what I’m saying and there ARE 7+ billion people here, its not like we’re about to run out, although I’m not one of these de-pop people either so I don’t hate humanity and have huge respect for the mothers out there.
Life doesn’t always work out the way you thought it would, doesn’t mean you have to cry into your gin every night!

[blazingrose]

Everyone woman has her reason for either having children or not having them. Mine is that I wanted to be married first, then have a child, but didn't luck out in love. I also was not financially secure during my reproductive years. I find it disturbing that many people find it okay to lower your standards whether in dating/marriage partners, financial ability, etc. just to have a baby. I may lament not having a child of my own, but I do not regret my choice to not bring a child into a loveless or abusive marriage or single parent household just to satisfy my biological clock.

[BJ-yujs]

I’m a 26 year old male and became a father “before I was ready” at 19. Next thing I know, I tripled my income, doing far better in my career, fixed my health massively, and live a comfortable life with my family. My circle of relationships has gotten smaller over the years, but the relationships I do have are much stronger and more meaningful. Having a family and kids is one of the best ways to become more focused in life and grow. Man wasn’t designed for the modern ideal, and it’s clear to me why so many people are depressed. Opting out of families and the lack of meaning in society today are undoubtedly correlated.

[doingjustfine]

Damn I didn’t know us childfree women were ruining the world.
I think mothers are lovely and important. I don’t hate children. I just want a life without my own. Single childfree women get SO much hate. I’m literally not hurting anyone nor am I promiscuous and competing with men.

[evanowen]

The only thing that needs to be said to the 45% of single childless women of the approaching 2030's is " congratulations". They will be leading lives that they enjoy and feel successful at.

[Tadams]

I don't think all single women want kids. Many single men don't want kids. My husband didn't want kids and I could have done it, but decided I was ok without them. We have been married 20 years and very happy. We don't care about passing on our genes, both sets of parents were utterly miserable and still are. We enjoy our time together with our dogs. We also have a group of married friends that opted out of kids. So to each their own. As long as you are happy.

Also we don't live extravagantly with gucci shoes and fancy trips. We do have two homes that we go to seasonally. We also give back to our community by volunteering with humane society. Our passion is welfare of animals and working with animals. Many kids and seniors benefit in their mental health with adopting and caring for pets. Not all of us are meant to be parents, nor should we feel we have to do it. Look at how screwed up society is. It takes a village.

[curious]

I'm 26, and a lot of my friends of the same age, say that they don't want to have kids. Regardless of their career, and despite being in long-term relationships, they will actively choose childlessness. One friend even told me she fears society coercing her into having kids.

I think we should be asking why women don't want to have kids, rather than just sh*tting on them for not having them.

There are many reasons - and as a woman myself - I understand many of them.
For example, health concerns, the fear of pregnancy and childbirth (which a lot of men in the conversation tend to forget or overlook), the child's future, etc.
These are all very valid reasons - and they aren't all connected to the sexual revolution.

I also think women have always had these fears and concerns surrounding motherhood - the only difference nowadays, is that they are no longer forced upon us.

[dalmalifemore]

Men say enjoy your cats. Women say enjoy your porn. Men say they are happy without women. Women say the same. So what’s the solution, just dragging the opposite sex? Seems like that’s what y’all want to do here.

[niftydom]

As a woman in my forties, the choice of not having children is a combination of bad parenting model, economics and bad relationships. Nothing to do with career.