60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma - Part 15/33 - Negative and Critical

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Many who have experienced Complex Trauma develop a negative and critical mindset, where they habitually find fault with almost everything. Why is that so? Is it a big deal? What can they do to change?

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[sammavacaist]

My parents were both so angry. I feel so sorry for the sensitive, sweet natured child I was born. I became withdrawn and sarcastic and nihilistic like my father. It was almost constant negativity. I feel like I'm starting from zero to change my way if thinking. 😢

[christopherleubner]

Dude did an hour video on each of 60 aspects of Complex Trauma 😳 and people wonder why its so hard to heal... 💀💀💀

[melissachinnici]

I agree it feels weird at first, transitioning to a healthier mindset. One therapist I truly admire always says- if being healthy means being corny, then be corny

[willowwisp]

CPTSD is devastating. It’s not narcissism but it looks like narcissism, it’s dying inside all the time. Throw in some judgmental religion, physical abuse, and being bullied in school you have entered hell, for life. It destroys relationships, and in the end you realize you’re perpetually alone with nothing but your feelings of abandonment. My life in a nutshell.

[cp]

I grew up in a home where my mother was critical about everyone. Listening to the negativity on a daily basis definitely put a dark view on everyone who crossed my path.
Thank you for this. I now have a better understanding of this mindset.

[susansilvey]

It gets better when you accept this truth: no one gets what they "deserve"

[ROOKTABULA]

The SOB in my head rips on me, every thing I do, any mistake I make: 24 hours a day. Literally.
Been attacking me for decades.
I also catastrophise about what's to come like a pro.

[JustT]

This guy is really speaking to the hurt that so many people suffer from.

[makaylahollywood]

I walked away from family- after parents are gone. Holidays alone for several years. Reunited with one sibling and her family. I prayed and prayed for this...Thank you God.

[IntentionalityMentor]

38:00 How Do We Heal, change?

1. Start With Mindfulness "chatch tourself becoming negative/critical." Stop yourself and choose to see the possitive.
A. ID the patterns
B. Choose to stop yourself "is dangerous not to”
C. Commit to focus on my issues
D. Work towards seeing others Accurately. Have somebody that you trust to help you learn to have a healthy assessment of people.

[paulantoine]

We can readily trace 5 generations of trauma in my family... no doubt there are many more. Hugely sad. My psychologist once told me I had "unrelenting high standards"... though in me it's mostly of myself, not of others. But man is it hard, at 60, to still be dealing with this stuff... for my brain to **still** not feel safe, even in the loving household that I've created...😢

[adopteeonamission]

You described my childhood. All of this so heartbreaking.

[rubychurch]

At 60 ish I’m still trying to get away from this from my childhood

[TiffanySloots-Baxon]

It's sad how sick we are as a society. I'm glad this content exists to hopefully heal us all.

[ARichardP]

My father was angry almost all the time and found fault with everyone, almost never himself. He was extremely critical of us. Total narcissist. I try not to be like him but some of it rubbed off on me. Thanks for this video. It makes a lot of sense.

[drsandhyathumsikumar]

Amazing how you Analyze with such compassion

[NewYasmine-nljq]

This man exposed my whole family 💀 I now understand their behavior

[nancytenbarge]

Boy, does this ever ring true. It's so subliminal. Unbelievable how accurate he is.

[mustafanaser]

You don't know how much you are helping many current and future sufferers and not only them but also their friends and families

[paulaspiker]

I pray that you continue to make these videos. I have watched several of your videos and they have helped me so much. Your are exactly right on everything!!! I absolutely love the Christian piece.