How to Talk to a Defensive, Difficult, Emotional Person 😒

We all can shut down at times, and we've all had to deal with someone who is hard to talk to, whether they are sensitive, emotional, or just overwhelmed. I want to give you the 1, 2, 3 of how to handle them, as well as yourself, in these situations.

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[hurricaneaquatics]

There is no talking to a covert narcissist that Stonewalls, immediately attacks, silent treatments, etc. You will not talk to a narcissist that is also dismissive avoidant. No way.

[seasonalliving]

I learned from the High Conflict Institute (totally recommend!) that people who are high conflict should honestly never be told they are wrong. They are so dysfunctional and full of their ego that they immediately become defensive and aggressive. Instead, knowing they are unhealthy, talk to them about attacking the problem together with a solution. So frustrating but it works!

[goofykitty]

I don’t have the bandwidth for other people’s energy. I have enough on my plate with family, career and household. Had a friend try to drag me into her insecurity, fear, jealousy issues. Love her but she needs to figure it out and she was not respecting my boundaries when I politely requested empathy from her. My politeness is not an invitation to test or feel entitled to my space. When I say something, I mean it. If ppl refuse to not pick up social cues, then professional help is required for them. I got it when I needed it and it definitely helped. You can’t feel responsible for fixing others, only yourself. Hopefully, they’ll be inspired by your example.❤

[garyharris]

From my experience, it's hard to resolve conflict with people like that. They don't like facing shame for whatever it is they may have done wrong. You have to be able to sit down and discuss your issues with the person your with.

[BrianHornak]

I can relate..thank you again Stephanie..enjoy the rest of your weekend

[何清泉-jq]

It's easier said than done. Human beings are very complex. Everyone is individual. You can't change anyone. You can't control people's behavior All you can do is to change yourself. This is real life in the real world. It's what it is. I am Chinese, you speak very fast. I try to understand you. It is difficult for me to understand. I can follow this video. Thank you so much. I really enjoy it. I'll see you soon in the next video.

[lanag]

Thank you for this great advice Stephanie sospot on ! I also hope your'e enjoying the rest of your weekend.God bless you always.💞💐🌸💕♥️🌺💝🌷💖💖💖💖💖🧬🌹

[PassportPleasure]

Leading with curiosity and looking for the next question with the focus on understanding where someone else is coming from has always been most effective.

[steenkristensen]

Thanks Stephanie for your information, and have a Nice Day 😉❤️👍👍

[calliechurchill]

This was really a great video for everyone. There’s something to take out of it no matter what kind of person you are or relationship you have. I haven’t watched your videos in a while. I left my narcissist ex-boyfriend 3 years ago, and found a great guy, got married, pregnant now actually, and I give a lot of credit to you for all of your self discovery videos! Definitely a success story, but I will say, no relationship is perfect and through having a husband now, I realize that there’s just no perfect relationship (even if it’s not with a narcissist) With that being said, this video is super helpful in all regards to any kind of relationship! Thanks Stephanie!

[haylesm]

Really needed to hear this, thank-you 🙏 💫

[cheryldias]

What happens when in a discussion a family member reacts by attacking my personal opinion. How does one react when someone feel that they are the authority on everything

[jsensefi]

Thank you, Stephanie, for your videos and your podcast! It is easier for me to start my next chapter in my life with your support🙏 Be safe and have a great week❤

[ameliasavage]

Thank you for this video . This video is me with being sensitive .❤

[CHOOSE_TO_BE_U]

Very helpful video. Thank you, Stephanie!!

[aaronjohnson]

Thank you Stephanie. Your videos and advice are invaluable and life-changing. Thank you for being willing to share your hard earned knowledge and experience in order to help other people. You are appreciated more than you know. ❤

[drleo]

This is a more positive method. Rather than hitting the road. Patient but set boundaries

[NFSMAN]

This is definitely helpful advice Stephanie! Sometimes we just need to see things from their perspective, thanks Steph, have a good week pal!!

[FlorenceLunsford-sknj]

I really should try to be calm when am emotional overwhelmed

[keariewashburn]

When they already make a chaotic and difficult environment and do not think that anything is worth listening to your responses, it is impossible to have a productive adult conversation for the better. They become unrealistic and dismissive to anything. So, you quit wasting your time and energy after awhile. But, when it happens, it's exhausting and I put the responsibility for their behavior back in their hands. Very very hurtful verbal/ emotional abuse keeps on, I remove myself and say " I don't have the time or energy to explain or say my boundaries anymore to them. I refuse to hear or have the attacks put on me. I di not accept that behavior anymore. And walk away and do what I need for me and well being.