The Preamble: Instantly Impress Someone You Like

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It’s frustratingly common to get completely tongue tied when we’re in front of people we’d like to impress. Which is doubly unfortunate because it’s often those situations that could lead to us landing a great new job, connecting with a mentor, or even dating someone we’re smitten with.

That’s why in this video I want to cover how you can avoid that awkward trap and impress the people you admire by standing out in a positive way. To do that, we’ll be referencing someone who has done it many times: Sean Evans of Hot Ones.

⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 

1:38 - #1: Ask questions beyond the obvious ones.
3:09 - #2: Use the question preamble.
4:48 - #3: Steer conversation towards things that elicit emotion.
7:40 - #4: Tease playfully / have fun.
9:18 - #5: Comfortably express disagreement.

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[AscendedMasculine]

Treat someone like a celebrity and they'll treat you like a fan

[ZacharyLaid]

Treat the person you admire as if they are just a normal friend.

[HvyMetalEver]

"see them as a human"
Indeed

I got to meet one of my musical heroes some years ago. It was backstage at a show, and everyone was losing their minds, asking for autographs and pictures. He wasn't in a great space at the time. His band-mate and dear friend passed away just 6 months prior.

I approached him, and said "I'm so sorry for your loss"
He was caught off guard. I think it was that human moment that so many skipped past all night.

I saw him again a few months later at another show backstage. I made a comment, and I think it clicked who I was. It's like he was genuinely happy to see me. Such a great experience

[ragtop]

Sean is definitely a unique host. Make no mistake, there is a team of people, including the creator of Hot Ones, Chris Schonberger, doing the research and digging up the topics Sean presents during his shows. His delivery is definitely his own but all credit must be given where due.

[Milestonemonger]

I appreciate a genuinely curious person.

[adels.]

Boss: Do you have any questions?

Me: So do you have any weird fantasies?

[SyrillSilly]

I am not sure if anyone has noticed how GREAT these videos are for people who struggle with pragmatics. I am an intervention specialist who has to help students on the spectrum learn how to interact with and/or read people in social situations.

These videos are gold and an unexpected gift that emerged from the virtual void 🤩

[nakdxsnake]

Damn Sean Evans can even tease and joke with people who aren't funny and still relate to them. Thats always been next to impossible for me.

[bradenboyko]

*At a Job interview:*
Me: so how are your 3 kids doing? Is your daughter still on the volleyball team?

[TimeFliesTimeManagement]

*Confidence is silent, Insecurities are Loud*

[rapzad]

The problem with doing this, at least with “peers” (like someone you want to date) is if you “do research” and start asking in-depth questions about things you wouldn’t know about without that research you’re probably going to creep them out

[karabelles]

I love that we are now analyzing Sean’s interview and research skills. That’s how good he is. Thanks for this. Super helpful.

[saralind]

"look at us. Hey. Look at us. Who would've though? Not me."

[thescoobymike]

"This is such a good interview, good research"

Sean: so are you!

[pastrana]

never get tired of how often sean impresses guests with his questions. though at the same time sean has said that he does a massive amount of research prior to any interview/guest

[cameronjadewallace]

I've been listening to this channel all day after it came up in my autoplay, and I've been trying to learn how to human properly lately. I've been feeling like I'm out of sorts, but my self-confidence (that I've built on my own just by listening to NF) has gotten in my way. Now... I've been seeing flaws in my character and how I can fix it.

I mentioned to my coworkers that I've found this channel today and been listening to it ravenously and they asked how it's been going... I laughed and said "Well, it's just Day 1!!!" And they found it hilarious.

I've always been known for my humor, and now ... I actually think this is helping me be more personable, instead of relying on shock value.

I love this channel. I hope it helps me human better.

[lokidecat]

Sean is the best interviewer hands down. He's respectful, funny, well-read, and has great banter. So great to watch a master at work.

[lokimorginstjarna]

Sean Evans deserves everything he's made of himself. Him and his superb team host one of the best talk shows in history.

[redbfc]

Sean is a gem. That’s why his show has done soo well.

[e.l.]

The way you put together those scenes really makes Sean's genius show.