Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria may be affecting your work life #momonthespectrum #rsd #latediagnosed

[shelbybutler]

YES! Performance reviews give me the worst anxiety and defensiveness. But, when put on the spot, I become paralyzed. I freeze and feel under attack in work review meetings with supervisors. I even had one ask me if I was made of glass.

[pear]

RSD has caused me a lot of embarrassment in the workplace, because I end up tearing up and crying, and it’s completely out of my control despite how much that I hate that it happens 😩

[nattokki]

One time I bawled my eyes out because someone told me I couldn't park in a place I thought I could park in. IDK WHY I WAS SO UPSET EVEN THOUGH I KNEW IT WAS MY FAULT 😭

[fashionqueenhc]

i experience this! i thought it was just something wrong with me and not something that is actually out there and known, it’s nice to know i’m not alone, and that i’m not broken!

[annekanemoto]

Yes! I’m extremely sensitive. It drives me crazy when people make comments about me. I just don’t want to talk to people anymore. I just can get too worked up.

[marisa]

Yep. Been over a decade since I had what you call a traditional workplace, but have long struggled in this area. Even to the extent I avoided college for fear I would fail, leaving my employment options that much more limited. I have always attributed much of it to the CPTSD from childhood abuse and abandonment more than anything. I have never felt sure I was good enough since the ones that professed to love me would yell and smack me around when I displeased them-or leave. Or a mix of both. So, why would the workplace be any better? I would surely displease there, too. I was constantly quitting places for fear of the day I would be fired or turning down positions I was sure I'd mess up. I managed to stay for over 6 years teaching pre-k, but that was when I was a single mom and getting my spectrum kiddos diagnosed. I pushed and masked a lot because I had to. They needed me. Then, I got remarried, pregnant with baby four, found my EDS pain markedly worse, and let my husband take the financial reins. Now, I did try some nontraditional work over the last decade, such as writing. I even got a book published but quickly discovered I love writing but despise selling and, these days, authors must do both. That fear of rejection was definitely a major player then, too. And it still looms large today, even with the simple things, like leaving comments on places. I agonize over how foolish I will sound to others and assure myself the lack of response is BECAUSE of it sounding foolish. Finding others who understand the struggle is at least something. I feel a little less alone. Thank you.

[crystalchristensen]

🎉 I hate when my RSD activates and derails me. Its exhausting to regulate once it's affecting my nervous system eith fifht/flight/freeze/fawn response

[applesandlilacs]

I come to find that it depends on the person. Not all the time, but some of the time, I can tell if it's to build or to break. I find criticism falls under control for me, and a loss of autonomy is a BIG NO-NO. It can be verbal quicksand that I can get stuck in and start chewing on it till I meltdown.

[UnBoxLifeWithLori]

I've learned so much from watching your vlogs. *I identify with many things you talk about. It's funny because now as I watch TV or other YouTube channels I tend to spot others who 'are probably on the spectrum''. It makes me want to reach out and say it's okay, you are not alone, there is a reason you are struggling. I feel so much more 'normal' knowing I can breathe easier knowing I'm not alone a lot of people share the same struggles.

[steveg]

I’m overly sensitive even when someone gives me the finger in traffic. An employer bad mouthing my work, maybe just to withhold a raise, is an imposing, albeit imagined, threat.

[tracythomas]

I just did *an art piece depicting RSD from my perspective ❤

[stephonh.]

I kinda deal with this in the cleaning field, especially when there's someone super picky about something that's not cleaned, when in fact it was. I don't deal with that well. I don't get into a tantrum but I get very frustrated.

[I_Am_The_Social_Reject]

That's me. Insanely scared to be rejected. By women, with requests. I never ask for anything unless i have to. I never ask women out. I talk to them and study their interest levels. I can't stand interviews. Would never put myself out there to be judged

[ritarevell]

Oh man, have I struggled with this problem.

[the--asmr-tarot-art-show]

I know about that. I have gotten written up for this multiple times in my life working for corporate America.

[CardinalTreehouse]

You know how they always say that some traits were present in past humans because they drove them to assimilate into their local communities (for hunting and food, etc.)? I wonder if there was as much discrimination/difference between autistics and allistics in the past, and if there was, how was it dealt with? Autism genes are still here so they must have gotten by some how.

[orangeziggy]

I have PDA but I don’t identify with ADHD but I do have RSD. Why does everyone say that I need to have ADHD in order to have RSD?

[steveg]

You mean being vulnerable to an instant, capricious, unilateral divorce from your work life (aka employer) is unsettling for autistic adults? /sarasm

[phobianxietya]

how do i know if my partner is abusing me emptionally or if im just "too sensitive" like he says i am?

[kewoshk]

I think my bro has this one 😅 He refuses to accept any kind of feedback or critcism and gets nasty if he ever gets one 😅