How to TORTURE a NARCISSIST. 🤕 #narcissist

The best ‘torture’ is focusing on yourself and not letting them have access to you ever again. Note that these are only mere suggestions. Do not take it as the end-all-be-all. Do what works best for you and your healing. But as someone who has done a lot of therapy and who doesn’t believe in revenge, these are the best ways to ‘torture’ a toxic person. Compassion over judgment. Self-improvement over staying stagnant in resentment. 🫂🖤 (and it’s okay to feel angry and hurt, I’m not saying to suppress your emotions. There just comes a time where you do need to propel forward, and giving them the least access to you possible is the best way to do that as you sort through the grief). #narcissist #npd #narcissism #narcissistic #mentalhealth #toxicrelationships #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #covertnarcissist #bpd #bpdawareness #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #empath

[KyleeRackam]

Note I’m **NOT actually advocating for tørture.** The best ‘tørture’ or ‘revenge’ is focusing on yourself and not letting them have access to you ever again. Note that these are only mere suggestions. Do not take it as the end-all-be-all. Do what works best for you and your healing. But as someone who has done a lot of therapy and who doesn’t believe in revenge, these are the best ways to ‘tortūre’ a toxic person. Compassion over judgment. Self-improvement over staying stagnant in resentment. 🫂🖤 (and it’s okay to feel angry and hurt, I’m not saying to suppress your emotions. There just comes a time where you do need to propel forward, and giving them the least access to you possible is the best way to do that as you sort through the grief).

[kausha]

Diagnosed narcissist giving healthier advice than most.

[wajunior]

Wow! That last part! "You Do not want to become the thing that broke you"

[R.A.P.-NC-ETHG]

When you realize you were the main character in someone else's story, it becomes clear why they were so invested in your every move. They built their narrative around you, but you've stepped into your own storyline now. You're the author of your life, no longer a character in someone else's plot. Keep living authentically, and let them figure out their next chapter without you at the center.

[eatthesunbeams]

You’re so right! Treat a toxic person like an uninteresting stranger in an elevator and they lose their minds. When I started doing this I was so shocked at both how much lighter I felt and how much harder my ex started trying to get back into my life

[kiikachu]

Yup. Ignoring them is single-handedly the best advice

[Shanana]

My ex is also a stalker, so in addition to blocking him, I moved several states away!! Been quiet ever since.

[chelseakal-qb]

“You don’t want to become the very thing that broke you” ❤I love that

[JKB-jixl]

Well stated. Success is the best "revenge": move on with your life.

[Kristinadeturk]

You’re right actually, because you can’t win by becoming them. You win your life back by letting it go

[missycitty]

A week after finally ended a 9 yr "relationship " with a Narc. I feel amazing.
I finally stood up for myself.
5 days in, he told me he's moving on.
I told him that I hope he's happy and wish him the best.
Definitely NOT the reaction he was hoping for. 😅
I'm not stupid. He was working on her for a long time before I ended it.
Poor girl. Has NO idea what she's in for. Saddens me.

[MikaelaTufts]

As someone who’s dealt with multiple toxic people, this is genuinely helpful and good to know I’ve been doing the right thing. Thank you.❤️/gen

[Caseyy]

As a narc this is very true
Being ignored, dismissed by people you may care about or simply value is infuriating because it brings us back to shit old days

[Jdrummer]

Great advice I have much respect for the self aware narcissist that helps others.

[Jacquelinerenees]

I wish we could avoid terms that allow others to think of ways to harm in return. My therapist calls it “disarming” which I feel is more humane.

[saruuhjess]

Best advice i can genuinely give myself: do it for YOU ! Might take a few tries, you might end up second guessing yourself more times than you can count but deep DEEP down... do it for yourself! Shut off your phone, close your eyes, feel within your soul and do. It. For. Yourself. ! Then don't ever stop ❤ keep going and have faith in every breath you take :) this kept me alive and healthy, i wish the same upon anyone reading this ❤ I could say "I'm here for you" but that means nothing.... compared to "you are here for yourself" ! Keep faith in your every breath!

[rebeccagutierrez]

This is why people abused by narcs and phycopaths end up not acting their age, finding one's self again, when you weren't allowed to grow before. ;, (

[FatmaFalciTarot-xi]

I love what you said about Don’t react!!! 5% of life is what happens to you 95% of life is how you react!!!

[imjustjules]

Ooof yep got a blocked call a few weeks ago on a Saturday night and it made my brain go back to old times and wonder.. but I didn’t make any changes. Tried to reassure myself it could very well be a solicitor. And the people who really love me won’t leave my life and try to come back just to hurt me. They’ll stick around.

[plainoolong]

Being able to pick up calls from unknown numbers and having public social media are two luxuries that unfortunately us abuse survivors do not have💔 but freedom from the toxicity is definitely 100% worth it