The Torture of Pathological Narcissism | DIANA DIAMOND

Being a narcissist is not always fun. Diana Diamond explains how the myth of Narcissus depicts the experience of narcissism: tremendous pain caused by self-encapsulation, self-preoccupation, isolation, rigidity, etc.

Those with narcissistic pathology don't have high rates of suicide, but they have higher rates of lethal suicide than those with BPD, according to one Columbia study.

We interviewed Diana Diamond about narcissism and its prevalence in our society today, all the way from healthy traits to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).

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Diana Diamond is an expert clinician who makes use of Transference-Focused Psychotherapy in her practice treating NPD and BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder).

[susantomlinson]

Grandiosty is a stable structure when it collapses extreme risk of suicide.

[lrow]

Anyone who challenges the grandiosity or presents a snippet of reality is shunned or abused. In such cases, the narcissist’s inner torture is externalized and extremely damaging to those in their wake. It’s the cost of keeping the illusion intact.

[edgreen]

Paranoia is the cornerstone of narcissism, with frequent dissociations.

[viniciusvyller]

I fell in love with a person, but in that person i only saw superiority, i only saw what i wanted to be, what i should've been and what i felt entitled to be. I saw in someone my illusion of grandiosity and fell in love with it like Narcisus, the person was just a material vehicle to that ideal. And it's heartbreaking when you find out who that material vehicle is in reality and that not your Illusion of Grandiosity nor the real person will ever love you back, it trly takes you to suicidal places. The narcissistical world is a soulcrushingly lonely place where love and affection are nowhere to be found, i'm really glad my friends taught me rationality so i would actually want to treat this painful condition and glad too that i found Dr. Diamond videos, it truly is relieving to find that there are people devoted to treat this behavior and offer empathy to people like me.

[Clevelandsteamer]

Narcissists see empathy and compassion as a liability. Empathy is weakness to them. They understand it only cognitively.

[edgreen]

Extreme rejection sensativity real or imagined.
Callapsed narcissist at risk for suicide. Reality is what intrudes on their fantasy life.

[emmamonroe]

I dated a covert narcissistic sociopath and after an accident he went into a narcissistic injury and he acted like he was going to do it, but looking at it now, he just wanted me to feel sorry for him. It was the oddest thing I have ever seen.

[edgreen]

God I would love to be trained by her. Such talent and patience.

[belovedchild]

Realities that don’t fully affirm the grandiosity are rejected = discard.

[PassionateFlower]

I see the value in positive thinking and optimism but I stay the hell away from anyone who demands "Positive Vibes Only"...I know what that means. "Don't disturb my Happy Land with your valid thoughts, feelings, and boundaries or I will crush you!"

[laboucher]

"realities that don't affirm their grandiosity are rejected"

[nightowl]

Pathologic narcissists may not feel pain. The purpose of the rigid and impenetrable defensive structure of superiority is to defend against feeling emptiness and pain. Massive control of others is a hallmark behavior to prevent any confrontations to the wall of grandiosity. Rage, not pain is the affect experienced.

[francochianale]

I have an ex. She doesn´t want help. I don't wish her bad. I only wish me and my sons could ever recover from the damage inflicted over 30 years, or their entire life for that matter. We lost one of them to suicide. The others are divided, angry, confused. I see no way to offer them a view that they might perhaps consider, that won't cause them more pain. I lost 30 precious years to that monster. All I wish is I could somehow teach my young not to do the same.

[bluest]

I wish just one competent psychologist would write, then speak on the parallel, the corollary, the appalling correlation between malignant narcissism and law enforcement in the United States. More than any other the profession currently reflects this personality disorder. It attracts, protects and supports and enables malignant narcissists, and nothing would be more attractive to an abusive person.

[martinanderko]

Many thanks for great work you are doing for NPD. Especialy for your compassion with us narcissists. I appriciate it a lot.

[dotta]

There is another passage later in that novel which says
“He sat up, and lifting his arms Called to the forest: 'You trees, Was there ever a love As cruel as mine is to me?””
Which is very insightful and it sums up pretty well the pain for being cursed with not being ever able to experience reciprocate love

[EdHosking]

The insecurities and pain around the ego fractures create the need for the sufferers to push the false self images (used to paper over the ego fractures) forward with extreme vigour.

[yiravarga]

I am so glad I landed on this video soon enough! This helped me understand that even though I think my suicidal tendencies, and expression is gone, I might be at higher risk of lethal suicide than I was before. I am starting to see, that I need to take this condition more seriously.

[mjremy]

What an intelligent series. Thank you for illuminating another facet of this subject. I lost my dearest cousin to suicide. She died of a broken heart. I believe she was a covert and vulnerable Narcissist.
My own daughter was a grandiose Narcissist and died of cancer. I believe it was self inflicted with lack of sleep, excessive work and stress, and bad nutrition habits, probably some drug use earlier. It could have been prevented.
My ex husband was a Malignant Narcissist and once he felt isolated in old age, he ran his health to the ground and self destructed.
Generational trauma is a terrible thing. Thank you for shedding light on this topic. Being informed is being warned.

[johnnycassell]

I have been dying to hear more from Diana Diamond. Thank you!!