INTJs love ISTPs: Relationship and Friendship Compatibility

This video discusses why INTJs love ISTPs in all aspects of relationships whether it's platonic friendships or romantic relationships.

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[Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes]

2 years ago at a temporary job : I appreciate the ISTP corrected my mistake, I was thankful for that, because he explained directly without emotions, and was one of the rarest to come talk to me directly, not afraid.

The F types girls were mad at him many times (surely because Fe dom vs Ti dom)
I wish to have been longer at this job to talk more with him. He got along well with INFJ INTJ.

I think it’s difficult for them to have friends, or partner, they might prefer a type who have T as 1, 2 or 3rd function.

They have a certain presence, we are very similar, we talk only when it’s necessary, and don’t bother other.

[Dedo]

All so true! -INTJ wife of an ISTP manly man

[kevrokka.d.]

ISTPs love having our egos stroked! :P

I don't know if I've ever met any INTJs IRL although I probably have and I just didn't know it. Cool video with real world examples - our favorite!

[Diana-rvnm]

This is so true. Friends with my bestie INTJ since we were in kindergarten and we get along incredibly well. She doesn't get offended with my bluntness or lack of emotion which I really appreciate, and she enjoys when I get her to enjoy life a little and get out and about and do some fun activities if she wants to. Or randomly get her bubble tea when she's dying with Uni exams LOL. Great video, enjoyed it :)

[shadowboxing]

My ISFP partner taught me to simply acknowledge people's feelings, that it wasn't necessary to understand them. It's been an invaluable lesson.

You have great insight into how we are by the way, nice job.

[Adam-ntmi]

I think Ti and Ni makes a perfect combo for conspiracy theories. Very easy to generate an entire internally consistent theory from limited external facts. It should also apply to INFJs.
My understanding is that Ti-Ni types do tend to be less "certain" of their theories than for example a Ti-Si would because Ti-Ni types more easily understand that they're operating with ideas not strictly attached to facts. So conspiracy theory wise they'd be more like "here is a possible alternative explanation for this event which makes logical sense" rather than "this is definitely the actual explanation for this event".
Assuming they're in decent touch with their extroverted functions, ofc.
They'll also enjoy engaging with conspiracy theories because it stimulates their Ti and Ni functions - it's "fun to think about".

[feizhou]

An ISTP here, I have always been curious about the Intuitive types so thank you so much for making this video.

I think Ni is a difficult concept to be explained, when I first read the description of Ni, I got really confused. As a child Ni user, I try to share a little bit of my views on how Ni works. I would say Ni is a sudden “pop” of thoughts that comes from nowhere and I think this is a result of the brain quietly (but actively) retaining information from external sources without us ourselves noticing (whether that is the environment, a book quote or a conversation that we didn’t noticed we have heard). When we encounter similar situtations, the brain just quickly pull out information that we didn’t even noticed we have saved in our mind.

It is like having an exam. If we studied really hard before the exam day, when we see a certain keyword in the exam paper, we just instantly know the answer and the flow comes naturally in our mind. When it comes to Ni, the syllabus becomes everything in the daily life (and imagination of course).

So it explains why Ni users need alone time because they need to “study” the world (input information such as reading a book) and boils down all these scattered thoughts into one key idea.

I had times when I am suddenly interested in a certain topic and have the urge know everything about this topic. This urge swill not stop until I have done enough research and the ideas have been boiled down into one concept that I believed in.

I think you guys INTJs are experiencing the similar situation, but the urge for you guys are ongoing as you guys are interested in “every” topics rather than a “certain” topic.

I don’t know if I get it right, but feel free to let know me if I am not, I am really curious =D

For Se, the introvert way to use Se would be…. To enjoy anything that we see, hear and feel but not actively sharing… haha. Like if I eat something really delicious, I will think this is really good and will eat it again, but may not explicitly show any appreciation at all….

And for the Fe… We do have emotions, but is very difficult for us to discover and express our emotions. I hope I can do better on dealing with my emotions and to care others better…. :)

[Sioux]

My dad and I are istp and intj, the content you bring up are so accurate for the compatibility between me and my dad

[solideogloria]

...you have to acknowledge other people's feelings.. ha ha so true... intj here, married to a istp...

[CRlifeisgood]

That wasn't long enough John 😂.
Add more on the romantic side as well.
I am married to an ISTP. Almost 15 years indeed and yeah... it's like you have been spying on us. Lol
Down to the conspiracy theories. 😂
I will add that mature ISTPs engage more with their Fe. Mine is a tad more emotional than 15 years ago. But yeah, pulling words sometimes or feelings is like pulling teeth 😂

[Xereszone]

My sister is ISTP I really admire her how easily she does things like, she's still working on her last month of pregnancy, she easily learn how to drive, she's very handy she can fix doors, broken chairs tables. The funniest thing about her is she's short but she scary as hell 😂

[PaleGhost]

My istp got the nickname factory. I make an offhand remark about how something could be better or a tool improved and next time i see him he has a kit ready for the upgrade, if he doesnt already have the solution handy.

[GlitchInTheMatrix]

As an ISTP girl who’s always had INTJ best friends, just want to say the love goes both ways 😎👊

[malibustacys]

Agree on everything you say. Especially the car rides (or the conspiracies). I could write more about our relation, but it is best represented by only less words. If someone is intrested I will answer.

And yes absolutly much appreciation and yo know what it means when I say I got the best advice in my life from an ISTP.

[hilarious]

I admirer your way of speaking and understanding of the world, like you’re inside my mind and giving some data to my gut feelings - so now I am able to have deep understanding of my observations 😽

[helenshianimation]

It's nice to see an Ni user who actually appreciates Ti. I am an ENTP and I always have this banter with ENFJs where we just discuss about other people and have so many inside jokes that other types don't understand. My mom is also an ENFJ, she uses Ni to teach me about people's true intentions and I use Ti to explain more specific situations. ENFJs have Ti as 4th function, so I have to keep on reminding her to use Ti. Ni and Ti need to be used together to have a complete understanding.

[Gigi-wbpe]

I'm an INTJ married to an ISTP. We've been together for a decade and we accomplish a lot. For us, our "work" is our play. A few years ago, we both retired early and started focusing all of our energies and skills on ourselves (we pulled a John Galt). Now we live 100% off grid, grow a lot of our own food - you get the idea. Our projects usually start with an idea, then we draw it out and hand the paper back and forth until the plan is solid. I'm better at conceptualization and visualization; he's better at the details (measurements, hardware, etc.). Together, it works.
I think when you're in your 20's or so, a feeling/extrovert type might seem more appealing because you may be trying to "acquire" personality traits you don't have for yourself as an introverted/thinking type. It's easy to mistake admiration for love, though. When you're our age (50's), a complementary type is so much nicer to actually live with than the opposite. It's peaceful, quiet, and it stays interesting. :-) We're at loveoffgrid (dot com), BTW.

[aseelalaqeb]

Can you make a video about INTJ anger and how to control it?

[stephaniehubert]

love the background in the new place! the screensaver is super calming too and not too busy or distracting 😊 glad you're back!! Congrats on your speedy divorce 😂💍🚫🤭

[conniemiholee]

Just found out that I'm an ISTP and a lot of these just "make sense" to the way that I operate, especially being mistaken for a complete extrovert. Definitely felt that personally when I know how to take up space, but don't like being the center of attention. I definitely don't mind it if necessary, but I rather operate in the background and let other people speak. Another hint that made me realize that I wasn't that much of an extrovert was that I would and very much do socialize fully into my conversations with other people, love to get to understand people on a deeper level, but once I get home, I tend to shut down and only talk to my family that I live with. I dread making phone calls or even video calls with other people and stick to my family and partner in terms of who I actively try to maintain a consistent relationship with.

In terms of this video though, my older brother (11 year age gap) is an INTJ and I tend to have very deep and meaningful conversations, but find that we're also okay with having time to sit in silence during car rides together when going out to eat every so often. It explains that dynamic extremely well to why we mesh so well together, while also not needing to constantly talk to each other to feel close to one another.

I've switched around so many times within the MBTI types from INFP, ENFP, ENFJ, ESTJ, but this one especially speaks out to me and explains the quirks of being stable, yet spontaneous at the same time when I feel the sudden urge to go for something and have that guide me as if it were motivation. I tend to not monitor my body language very often and feel out of place socially whenever I express my feelings of excitement, since I tend to be very expressive when I genuinely feel some kind of emotion. It's often hard to hide my feelings, but I notice that there are times where I can just break down from holding a lot of my feelings in as well. I lose steam very quickly and switch from project to project, but if there's something that truly has a greater purpose that my role in it, whether it's for my career or interpersonal relationships, I prioritize that fully.

While it can be difficult to acknowledge other people's opinions on topics that I don't agree with or other suggestions (when working with other people) that I don't end up mentally critiquing, empathy in the pure interpersonal sense has been an easier feat for me to handle and it's more so having to work through times where I do need to step back and let someone speak their piece and understand the reason why they think a certain way.