I Hate My Parents, Sinful? assim al hakeem JAL

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𝐊𝐧𝐨𝐰𝐥𝐞𝐝𝐠𝐞 𝐁𝐚𝐬𝐞:
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𝐍𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐋𝐈𝐕𝐄 𝐂𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐒𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐤𝐡 𝐀𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐦?:
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𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐬𝐤 𝐒𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐤𝐡 𝐚 𝐐𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧:
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𝐅𝐨𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐮𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤:
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𝐀𝐬𝐤 𝐙𝐚𝐝 𝐙𝐨𝐨𝐦 𝐋𝐢𝐧𝐤 (𝐒𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐌𝐚𝐠𝐡𝐫𝐢𝐛 & 𝐒𝐮𝐧 𝐚𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐀𝐬𝐫):
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[sakariajama]

This was a good response because you cannot control how you feel about someone but you can control your behavior and actions.

[amoonemery]

I growed up raised by an abusive dad. I am 30 y.o now. I struggled my best to follow the command of Allah all theses years.
And mind you. Allmighty Allah rewarded me plentifully for my patience and commitment. Its a difficult path but its worth it.
My advices to my younger brothers and sisters facing this kind of test from Allah. Be patient and know that things in life doesn't remains the same forever. The situation can even turn around and you could have opportunities to avenge yourself. Have a good opinion of Allah and yourself and think about how He would appreciate to see you behaving at all times.
The rewards in this life and the next are worth the suffering. Never lose hope or become ill-hearted!

[lotetree]

Some parents think children are their fixed deposit and saving certificate. As if children by themselves came in this world with a contract to fulfill their lifelong wishes. I feed you now you feed me ! Everything has to be within their liking . Career, degree, spouse, even how many children married couple would have and when should have !!! Taking care of children should be for the sake of Allah as rewards are from him .

[PositiveWomenTV]

"Mission and vision statement" loved that line.

[ledam]

May Allah make it easy for those with abusive and evil parents. Ameen.

[razin]

Thank you sheikh for such a beautiful answer ❤ where you looked at both sides. I thought you were only going to take the parent's side by default 😅, not realizing that the children are not robots, as many people unfortunately do..
So thanks sheikh 😊

[MrSpacemechanic]

Thank you for taking both perspectives into consideration. Sometimes its not as simple as black & white. Parents do and can overstep the line.

[ytmozey]

JazakumAllahu khairan to the Sheikh and also to the channel owner for the accurate subtitles ⭐️

[BrahminVaad_BaqiSab_Bakwaas]

I do the same. I have no love but i obey allah and his rasool sws. Alhamdulillah for islaam.

[Fogofwar]

I’m having a same problem with my mother i have no love and respect for her. Thank you for understanding

[uglylve]

My whole life my parents were abusive and I was forced to help my mother in times where she was scared of being murdered by my father. There were times where my mother choked me and I couldn't breath. There have been many times where my mother tells me to kill myself because I am worthless in her eyes (this was because she didnt agree with me praying on time when on vacation and wearing hijab).
I've messed up plenty of times when they were in the midst of cursing at me, hitting me and more and then screaming back at them that they shouldn't say that because it hurts me alot (not cursing at them) I have asked them and Allah for forgiveness for it, but what is the best thing I should do in this situation. I'm not able to go to therapy, because I'll be put into foster care system if I say what happens. (the foster care people have tried to take me for years)
I can't move away because im not old enough to work, Im still going to highschool and legally not allowed to live on my own. I can't do anything to get away. Furthermore my mother always uses me as a therapist and talks all about her problems ever since I was 6 years old.

I can't bear this anymore. I went to a psychologist one time and she said that im in need of therapy, but I can't go anymore. I have struggled with mental health ever since I was a child because i was bullied by schoolmates and my parents were very abusive towards eachother, my mom beat me and now all of this still happens and im turning 16. So for as long as I'm alive, live has been hard and I'm mentally falling apart.

What should I do to minimize arguments? Is it a sin to be mad at my parents even in this situation or is it forgiven? Please make dua'a for me

[TellTheTru]

Masha allah. Beautiful way of approaching the answer (by first accepting that the error may also happen on the part of parents then explaining the point). Jazakallah khayr.

[farahsiddique]

May Allah Save us from sins and forgive us our sins AMEEN
SubhanAllah THANK YOU

[crazylottt]

Guys please make duas for me that Allah makes it easier for me and all muslims to become true muslims please Ya ALLAH give magfirah and jannatul firdous to every muslim who has passed away and give shifa to every sick living thing and turn all our sins into good deeds and make this life and hereafter easier for us that are still alive and give us afiyah and jannatul firdous and make us good muslims and give iman to all non muslims
Allahumma Ameen ❤❤
Jazakumullahu khairan
Guys copy this dua and share it with everyone please ❤️
Udh

[abdulmoiz]

I got beaten up by my mother for asking her for water and i asked her why she wouldnt reply to my request when i said that i would get it myself if she couldnt
I want to love my parents but everytime i try i always get told something harsh or she humiliates me in front of others

[rohail-saqib]

Praise be to Allah, this came just when i needed it.

[shefakhaliq]

This is one part of hadith i cannot agree with because i have suffered as a child and my mother always tortured me. I dont think people understand the mental trauma. I dont disrespect my mother but i just avoid her because you can only buy her love with money and i cannot do that. I pray to Allah SWT and seek his forgiveness.

[babyshark]

Can't we just confront the parents and tell them they are doing it wrong?!

[sbe]

Parents have to understand you cannot think its ok to abuse your child their whole life, in the end they will hate you so much that they will wish for you to die, and then comes that day as a old parent you ask your child for forgiveness for all the ill treatments and hurt you gave them from the age of 2 and whilst your on your death bed that child will not grant you forgiveness and you will die wishing you hadnt done what you did to create a child that hates you so much that their will to forgive is stronger than the bond of a parent and child. Remember that be kind to your children for they will be kind in return. What you parents sow is what you will reap in your old age.

[drowdreyar]

Alhamdulillah.. Searching for this.. Alhamdulillah..
May Allah make it ez for us all..