SADHGURU Left the Girl Speechless| How to Deal with Toxic Parents

Sadhguru with his beautiful answer left the questioner out of words. Sadhguru explains how to handle toxic relationships with parents.

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[peengoo]

No one should ever tolerate toxic parents.We must build our career and make ourselves financially strong first. After that some good clear boundaries must be set with toxic parents.

[anushriii]

the amount of people that are present here and depressed about their toxic parents makes me feel like im not the only one.

[BuddhiYog-jg]

Just because you didnt had toxic parent doesn't mean they don't exist.

Just because you cant see doesnt mean there is no wind

[AjayTiwari-ennz]

I do not agree with Sadhguru on this topic. Living with a toxic parent(s) is a nightmare, and the fear you live with makes you extremely defensive. This defensive mentality affects you at so many levels that you don't even know when your pysche changes for worse. Being abused by someone constantly programs you to be suspicious and negative about everything in life. Even a slight disagreement with someone makes you aggressive, as subconsciously, you are trying to avoid ending up in the same situation again. You sub-consciously see the image of your parent(s) in every possible aggressor/offender/arguer. Even if someone tries to have a healthy debate with you, it seems like an assault and as a knee-jerk reaction, you mispercieve the interaction and attack verbally. All the humiliations and trauma you gather from one person becomes the source of your constant frustration and never-ending resentment in life.

[Momojadhav]

I respect him a lot but today I realised no one is always true

[achievers]

Practical solution is "Leave them n stay alone".

[rudecomments]

He just spoke too many words without making any sense. That is a skill.

[krip]

Very easy to sit and preach..not easy or practical to live a life without getting affected by toxic parents though.a human beings personality gets affected a lot if he/she had to go through trauma during those tender formative years itself..philosophy doesnt help while dealing with such trauma..those who know, knows how difficult it is when you have toxic parents..u cannot love them bcz they are toxic..you cannot hate them...bcz they happen to be your parents...wat an easy thing to deal in life..

[rakshakulkarni]

It is lot easier to say but as a child who have grown up in a very toxic household, though I have been lot progressive, still somehow affects me. It takes time to heal 20 years of trauma dealing with extremely toxic people that you can't avoid because they are your family members. They are going to judge you at every move you make, they will constantly try to break you no matter how good you are. They don't give you privacy and the person grows extremely reserved, will never have the courage or trust to welcome anyone new into their life. I remember whenever I went home, I would never wake up early because somehow I'm scared of hearing toxic things right after I woke up so subconsciously my mind wants peace so badly for that I end up waking up when they are not around to taunt me. I wish no child should ever get such family. I know being an orphan can be tough and a big word to use but still better than being around toxic family.

[gayathriragavan]

Every child deserves a Parents, but not every parents 😭😭😭😭😭.
I had suicidal thought for twice😢, but I didn't Hopefully I m waiting for my life to change, I know I can escape from this if I get a Job, but they are not allowing me to go for work 😭😭😭, I m a Software developer fresher got by job by my own hardwork, I m Bio background not even a Engineer and I don't even have a Laptop, I studied through my mobile and created a Project through it, even I got distinctions on final 3 semesters 😭 it was hard, My last Hope I want Krishna🦋 to help me😭😭....

[jamesatkinson]

easier said than done Sadhguru! how can you expect a 10-12 year old going through this struggle with parenting. as you said in your earlier videos, nurturing children is a life time work. if that's not done by parents, then asking the kid to gain wisdom out of the fight of their age is just stupid. if only kids of 12-14 become wise by themselves, this world would have been a better place.

[anuragrebelli]

Not just Sadhguru, in case of any motivational or spiritual speaker anywhere, they're not more intelligent than us, actually for most of our problems we know the solutions and what needs to be done, but we know only intuitively. We're a bit afraid to acknowledge the solution and implement it and that's why we listen to these people like sadguru what we already intuitively know, because we needed to hear it as it would hopefully give us a little push to step up to solve the problem. But sometimes we're more CORRECT than these public speaking EXPERTS 🙏🏿

[barack]

If Sadhguru had toxic parents, I would love to see how Jagdeesh Vasudev had become Sadhguru.

[prachigarg]

It is not always necessary to blame the kids all the time, emotional growth, mental growth and spiritual growth of a boy or girl is begins with their home, if that home is already is already distructive growing in to that disgusting situation is really a tough job if adults could not handle how could expect from the kids to handle that situation? . Bad distructive environment of home works like poison for a kid's mind it effect them badly, it destroys their creativity, mind set and there view towards people because they get restricted upto that environment.

[kumarshubham]

For People who grow up in these situations it's hard to have the kind of rationality Sadhguru is talking about.

[M.S]

Sadguru couldn't digest the idea of toxic parents. So instead of sympathising with the victim and offering solutions he calls her problem an 'excuse', blames the victim for being victim, questions her integrity and downplays the parents problem by saying they did what they thought best. Sorry sadguru you are part of the problem here. It is because of the judgement of people like you that victims of toxic parents can not open up and have to carry the mental trauma, insecurity, confusion and depression alone in silence all their life .

[worlda]

I am 25 years old ...since childhood to till now i have been facing this .... even till now i presumed I am the problem and they only thing i have to do is to please my parents by acting myself and by not being genuine to myself ..if I try to genuine to myself and start saying no..suddenly they bring up their sacrifices...i was extremely baffled ..i start believing myself i am the one who is wrong..i had lots of struggle to myself ..since childhood i have been pushed to suicidal behaviour, it's still continuing ...sometimes i feel like am i victimising or what ... having hell a lot of self doubt .now i have realised its not my mistake and I am not alone in this world....the only solution available is rather confronting them, ....focus to be financially independent and move on

[bobababo]

Same time last year, I watched this video and I disagreed with Sadhguru because I thought he never experienced such toxic parents. But today i’m back and listen to him again and i couldn’t agree more.

We are the master of our own destiny. If parents are toxic, move out! (You can start to make a plan now. It doesn’t need to be in a harsh way) it’s time to be brave and protect yourself. When we were little, we cant protect ourselves. But look at us now, full grown, it’s time to protect ourselves and grow out of it.

I constantly remind myself that the best thing i can do to my parents is that i can forgive them (so that we wont meet again in any other life)

And, the best thing i can do to myself is to stop living in the past and move on.

We are grown and safe now. Let’s live in peace.

[mdrafiqul]

Disagree. Living with toxic parents is impossible.

[priyankasawant]

I do appreciate his view on life but that's possible only upto a certain limit. We can always try our best to deal with a difficult situation. But our mind and body should also be capable of doing that.

With my experience I tried every possible thing I could do to get out of that situation. Tried to please them, tried to act stubborn, tried to ignore etc. but nothing really worked. She'll be nice only for some time and then she continues with the same thing. I'm into counseling for almost a year now. Things had improved only for some time. Now she's back to her previous behavior.

I don't know whether things will get better or not. At the moment I can just hope for the best. Just want to say never give up.
Not for others but for yourself. All d best 👍