8 Therapy Ideas That Saved Me From Disaster

8 Therapy Ideas That Saved Me From Disaster

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[lemsip]

Whenever I cut ties with a toxic person or organisation, I want to go in and rescue other people who were in the situation as me. But someone told me to forget about those people and concentrate on myself and my recovery. There is still the urge, and I fantasise about it. But its their choice to stay in the cult and their responsibility to wake up from it and get themselves free.

[sharonthompson]

"People are full of advice, but often their lives are on fire."
Woo! Mic drop Patrick. 👍

[elizabethfrootloop]

Patrick's babysitting business is bursting at the seams... 😂

[adoxartist]

Don't bring your inner child. Why did this never occur to me before! Gotta find me a babysitter.

[mysticsuzi]

"just because they have big opinions about you, doesn't make it true" Such a good reminder

[LittlePunnkk]

I tried not bringing my inner child once when I wanted to confront a friend who betrayed me. She then showed a lot of guilt and genuinely apologizes, which made my inner child want to show some vulnaribility. I let my inner child do that, and it made them feel a glimmer of safety, as well as strengthen the friendship with that person.

[peacerun]

Sometimes I feel like I spent my whole life being the diplomat and I’d like to be REAL and SAY IT………tired of being the good kid.

[beahaven]

I try to remember i dont owe anyone an education. Its a struggle that im not always successful with . I try...

[jssbqqh]

Patrick, I'm wondering if you could address the crowd of Gen Xers and younger that have already left the dysfunctional family of origin decades ago but we're still dealing with the reverb.

Because we're out dealing with community and co-workers and others that are the children of emotionally immature dysfunctional and abusive pseudo parents.

We're no longer in our own original dysfunctional family but we're clearly in the middle of everyone else's...

I can't believe how much aggression and emotional immaturity there is even in trying to make a medical appointment, have an interaction at the grocery store or negotiating an agency or application with a city or county worker. So many sad pathetic abusive responses from every direction. Even when I walk in cheerful, diplomatic and professional...

[patrickteahanofficial]

0:00 Intro
0:22 Tip #1 - Don't Sweat Them!
1:35 Tip #2 - Pronoia (The Opposite of Paranoia)
2:47 Tip #3 - Is It Kind, Necessary, True?
4:22 Tip #4 - Let People Feel Whatever
6:20 Tip #5 - The 3 C’s / Let People Fail
8:03 Tip #6 - Know Your Audience
10:02 Tip #7 - Don't Bring Your Inner Child
12:00 Tip #8 - Can You Be a Diplomat?

14:54 Final Thoughts
15:18 Outro

[cairosilver]

Maybe pronia is why I like trees, as they tend to be there reliably and give shade, beauty, air and being tall. Their steady existence kind of conspires to grant you something continually.

[margaretkennedy]

I said goodbye to my grandmother over the phone because I knew my (no contact) mother was going to turn the deathbed into a soap opera.

[connectingthedots]

I never feel safe when other people's feelings are less than great.

[MagpieP]

You said something early in the video about spending too much energy on people outside of our inner circle. This made me think of it like we have an "energy budget" and we have to decide what we really want to spend our energy on.
Recognizing that our energy isn't unlimited and we should spend it wisely helps me think more about how I choose to react.

[the.toxic.phoenix]

At what point do we push on with no. 8 or say "no, this isn't worth my mental health"? My sibling was angry I didn't attend their wedding (which they snidely said would be their only one, and I was on my second marriage) because two relatives who abused me would be there (he knew about the abuse, most of it, and accepted some and denied others). I chose not to push through for him because it was just one day for him but would destroy my mental health.

[ilikeitlikethat]

1-don’t sweat those not in your inner circle
2-the universe is conspiring FOR me
3-is it kind? Is it necessary? Is it true?
4- Let them feel whatever (I’m not bad, I didn’t cause their emotions, I’m safe, allowing others to feel their emotions… warped trauma codependency emotions overly feel for others)
5- I didn’t cause it, I can’t cure it, I can’t control it
6- know your audience: who’s giving the advice and how sane are they?
7- no children allowed. Bring your prefrontal cortex
8- be a diplomat to achieve a healthy end for you in a finite situation

JUST SUMMARIZING FOR MYSELF

[alejajm]

I need to turn this into a chart, laminate it, and bring it everywhere with me

[katyjean]

This 10-minute video is the equivalent of $10, 000 worth of therapy. How is this free?

Of course the hard work is to remind yourself and to remember these ways of thinking in a time of need.
I'll be giving this one Lots of repeat watches.

Thank you so much, Patrick.

[bostonterrier]

Love the diplomat concept. I associate putting on a brave face to not burn bridges at a job with fawning. I like the idea of it being a way to advocate for yourself in a hostile situation like a diplomat at the negotiating table.

[plzniteonly]

Patrick, you don’t know this but I just want to thank you for babysitting my inner child today. I was able to go to the dentist for the first time in a very long time (like, a very long time) and I needed someone to watch my inner child while I did it. This was a huge thing for me and it was made so much easier by imaging this scenario. Thank you.