A Fatherless Child's Journey towards Healing | Natalie Alexander | TEDxHuntsville

[_simply_beeh_]

I watched this video sometime ago
I reached out to my father and he still says he shows no interest in being involved in my life and he is proud of the decision he made of being absent with me. He raised 6 children and I am the 7th but he would haven’t any other way. This cuts deeper than me ever not knowing why he is absent

[mamapilgrim]

Very well put, Natalie. I had never before connected the dots that not being available emotionally is equally as damaging as not being there physically. I suppose there are emotionally absent mothers as well. Thank God for saving me from being a complete train wreck and redeeming my life.

[cafangytang]

I’ve always wondered how i may have been changed as a person, ever since my father passed away. This happened 7 years ago, and it has since left a void that my mom has always constantly tried to fill. Of course, her constant care and strict parenting to try to fill both roles wasn’t entirely in vain, it did help shape me as a respectable young women. However, I’ve always longed for a father figure, and the void has since never left me.

[kyladawson]

Most of our stories are like this. I was fatherless and so is my daughter. How do we break the cycle????

[taylorduvernay]

Very interesting intake. However, some of us did seek to understand why our fathers were absent in our lives, but we were met with 2nd, 3rd, ....10th rejection from our fathers. The anger and resentment is not something we voluntarily carry, but it's something we fell into as a default and turned to be our survival mechanism .

[thepokergod]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 Great message. I agree 💯 % There’s a reason for everything. No excuses for abusive behavior, but knowing the why expedites the healing process ✌🏿

[lochan]

I do not know if you believe in God, but I pray that He reveal Himself to you and show you WHO YOU REALLY ARE in His eyes. You are GOD'S BELOVED CHILD. You may not have experienced your earthly father's love, but please know in your heart that your Eternal Father has loved you even before you were born... and He will always do. That's what makes GOD a reliable Father to ALL OF US. Who He was before, He is still the same God today. That's your REAL FATHER, our real Father who we can always depend on. We can not see Him but His Words are found in the BIBLE. That's the best LIFE MANUAL we can have for guidance. I hope you'll find your REAL IDENTITY in Him. GOD LOVES YOU.

[lourodriguez]

Good job 👍 your delivery was an asset to my being

[sherlocklone]

I am here learning about all this because someone needs help with all this. Wish I can help and hope the person atleast tries for their own sake. Thanks!

[wndamracl]

I was a fatherless (and motherless) daughter. Through my personal spiritual journey, I learned that, from how I responded to authority, I was not used to receiving male authority, discipline, correction, structure. In the military, I bucked against male authority, and with female supervision I wanted to fight. This was indicative of my upbringing because my father was absent and when I did see him, he had no authority, he was weak, beta male and I saw him get "dominated" by his wife. But with female caregivers (foster care) it was filled with confrontation, bullying, combativeness, envy, and jealousy. So I saw them as enemies. It was eye-opening for me.

[wispers]

Excellent presentation! Thank you, Natalie.

[sararichardson]

My father left when i was 8. I attempted to see him when i was 25. Flew across the world to see him and he stood me up. He died 3 yrs later making no attempt to contact me in those years.

[VALiantiosous]

Unless the father is an abuser, an addict, a narcissist, a sociopath. Many women don't involve the fathers because they would harm their children.

[ivadedeva]

You are describing me and my father! And I did not know that I was suffering from that!

[ghettomelody]

In order to find the right man to have children with you need to study his lifestyle habits. Does he check on his family? Does he visit casinos? Does he have several phones to keep track of different women? When he drives his car does he drive always with out his family members? When he goes to restaurants does he invite his family or only his friends?

[siyonatheres]

What if he's physically present, emotionally abusive and absent too? And scary and unpredictable and controlling?

[jomarvega]

Very well put together. Unfortunately I don’t want to reconnect with him. His never done anything with his life therefore I see no benefit.

[gabrielleekpe]

then again people who are mentally suffering from the absence of their father that just makes me think as though they are looking for more patience to explain themselves.

[rainshower]

How can I help a fatherless daughter? She always choose a man who doesn't care about her. And is there a correlation to cheating behaviour?

[michelle_ca]

Yep there’s a real problem with men and fathering skills. A conversation may make you feel better temporarily, but it’s their behaviors and willingness to be aware of their lack that children to adults don’t receive.