The Father Wound | Otto Kelly | TEDxCarsonCity

Otto Kelly developed the "Daddy Academy" to combat the many social ills that are directly or indirectly related to fatherlessness.
As a young man, Otto played football for the University of Nevada, where he studied Human Ecology. He then embarked on a professional football career playing for the USFL’s Philadelphia Stars, and the NFL’S Philadelphia Eagles and Kansas City Chiefs before a 1985 injury ended his professional football career.
Otto returned to Reno where he spent 11 years as Washoe County’s Department of Juvenile Services’ first Gang Specialist/Community Outreach Counselor; a role which earned him numerous awards such as, The NAACP Youth Advocacy Award, Nevada Policy Research Institute Distinguished Community Service Award, and the Truckee Meadows Community Staff award to name a few. In 1999, Otto responded to God’s call and left his job to serve as a full time pastor focusing on biblical manhood, family preservation, youth advocacy, and community involvement. As a young man, Otto played football for the University of Nevada, where he studied Human Ecology. He then embarked on a professional football career playing for the USFL’s Philadelphia Stars, and the NFL’S Philadelphia Eagles and Kansas City Chiefs before a 1985 injury ended his professional football career.

[TheNyakaat]

I need to mention that it's possible to grow in the same house as your father and still have the fatherless wound.

[tyron-thevictim-woodley]

My Farther was there, he was never actually there.

[jessehernandez]

Who else tears up on that famous fresh prince scene? Yall know which scene I'm talking about.

[gunfighterdrummer]

Not having a father in our life can bring us to dark places. Not having a good father slowed me down, forcing me to learn on my own. Things that a father could have thought me in a more experienced manner and perhaps quicker.

[angelsrosena]

I will never understand why our society got so used to seeing fathers leaving their child and be ok with that, because if a mother does the same she will be dead through the eyes of every single person of the planet.

[Hannah-bgur]

Mothers teach kids female energies, Dads teach masculine energy.

A good mom teaches you respect, sensitivity, sensuality, patience...

A good dad teaches stability, selfworth, boundaries and a healthy ego, confidence in love, action, courage

[mickbowe]

I broke down from the exercise. close your eyes and picture the perfect father. boom. I sobbed in an explosive manner. and I didn't even know that was there. I'm 32 and I need a dad.

[danielduncan]

The fatherless wish they had:
Protection
Provision
Presence
Praise

Deep desire to have affirmation from a father figure

The father must be:
Encouraging you
Telling you you’re the best
Compassionate

[tvm-growthisunlimited]

I'm a psychotherapist and feel the need you are expressing. This was not just a presentation - It is a CALL! Keep up your amazing work sir!

[lasinturaeshuchi]

I feel sad, my dad was my first heart break, my first wound, i really feel sad, it has really changed me alot when i see men ....

[divinaluz]

Be the man, the father, the friend, the mom, the dad, the partner you want others to be. That would change your world.

[OnasaD]

“I hung around with killers, searching for father figures”…. A father is an important foundation in a child’s life

[madiflow]

my dad cheated and had a kid with another woman. it hurt so much as a little kid seeing your mom throwing your dads clothes out. i just wanted a daddy daughter relationship without feeling guilty

[Jguru]

I never knew my father. Met him one day; 25 minutes at the age of 25.. he patted me on my shoulder and left.. I’ll never know growing up with a dad.

[kagomejackie]

this made me cry but i feel less alone 💕

[sumaiyaanika]

I literally cried by listening this podcast didn't realize despite my father is alive i never feel loved, encouraged, he was so emotionally unavailable that he can't even say i love you i never hugged him, Yeh i born in a wealthy family but the emotional detachment from my both parents are equal, there is no memories no little moments, i just realized i also needed to be my own father and meditate through that

.Thanks universe for giving this guidance!

[wshelby]

This was such a good speech. Boys and daughters need their fathers

[jenndaizy]

“When she lacks the things that would cause her to feel better about herself, she’s more willing to do things that goes against her morals.” This is so relatable as when I reflect back on my past relationships or friendships, I realised that I’ve tend to lower my standards and messed up the boundaries just so to please my friends or partners so that they could stay.

[sanchez_]

My pops was there, but not there for me emotionally and mentally. He’s a hard working man but never really put effort with me. Dude it’s sad like I don’t even know him. Always called me out for doing wrong but has never gave me advice on life, women, or friends..

[summerhassoun]

mannn this had me 😭… its like livin with a wound that never get healed no matter how hard I try