Am I Experiencing Complicated Grief?

Grief is tricky... and when it stays stuck in an Acute Phase it is called Complicated Grief. Have a watch and leave a comment.

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[DonnaRo]

I lost my husband of 36 years over 7 months ago & I believe I am experiencing complicated grief for sure. Never did I believe that I could take one breath past his last.This can not be fixed, he can’t come back, my pain will never stop until I am with him again. My world forever changed. I try to make it through each day & ask God to help me. The nights are long & exhausting. I’m so lonely. Thankful for my children, who are the only ones who haven’t disappeared. So thankful that I found your channel! Finally someone who I can relate too & knows the pain. Sorry that you know that pain but so grateful for the understanding of mine. 🥰

[cgravelle]

It is now 2023, I lost my husband to cancer in 2018.
We were together for 43 1/2 years.
I have not been able to stop crying even though more than 5 years has passed.
I cry all the time.
I miss him so much.
I just want him to come home. I am not living I am just existing.
He was the love of my life since the first day I looked into his eyes and listened to his soft voice.
He loved me as much as I loved him. We were inseparable. We, had no children, it was just him and I for all those, years.
I lived for him. I never knew what love was like until I met him. He made me so happy. I have so often thought about taking my own life. My crying becomes so deep and so desperate that I just want to die to be with him forever.
Knowing he will never come home to me again My heartache is so deeply painful, I could not describe to you the heartache I feel.
I never in my entire felt such deep heartache like this and I feel lost.

[lorenpolans]

I am definitely experiencing complicated grief, and it keep getting worse. My wife of 50 years died an awful death of cancer 15 months ago. Up until 4 or 5 months ago, I thought I was getting better. I reached a plateau, and then started getting worse. My depression is so deep, I sleep 12 to 14 hours every night. I'm exhausted all the time. I have so much trouble getting out of bed, because i don't want to face another day. I only go out to go food shopping. I miss my wife so much, and I keep getting images of how devastated she looked towards the end of her cancer. Every day, I wonder why I go on, and I know it's only because I'm afraid of death. If it wasn't for my 2 dogs, I might not be sane; I'm not even sure I am. I saw a therapist for awhile after my wife died, but her answer to everything was "Everybody's Grief is different." My best friend videochats me every day, but that's my only human contact; I can't deal with anyone else. I don't know where to get the help I need.

[lgd]

My parrot companion of 20 years recently passed. She was the only recipricated love I've ever known. She was intelligent and we had a beautiful relationship. When she passed all my unprocessed trauma surfaced. I definitely have complicated grief.

[MaurineGoodyear]

My mom died in 2019. I'm still in deep grief and miss her so much. She was across the country and died from falling and breaking her hip. She was getting better for a while and I talked to her on the phone and she was in the hospital and sounded better. I remember cheering that she was going to be ok. However, when she got out of the hospital I went to see her and she did not look good. I stayed with her a few days and she started screaming and I called the ambulance. She went to the hospital. I had to leave to be back for something but was coming back the week later. She died a few days before I was to come back. I cannot get over this. I cry constantly. We were supposed to buy a house together and she wanted to get out of hte hospital to buy that house for me and my kids. I want to call her so bad and fill her in. She was concerned about my medical condition and I have nobody who cares for me like she did. I just want to see or hear from her again. She hated hospitals so I tried to avoid taking her unless it was absolutely necessary.

[maxrennie]

Its now 2 yrs and 9 months and I am still agonizing with the loss of my wife even tho I am seeing a therapist.

[helensmith]

I am getting worse, not better 9 months after losing my husband of 40 years. I am frozen, isolated and alone and I have no vision of the future and have fear of what is to become of me aging and dying alone.

[DanyLove]

Thank you for your videos, they are the most real that I’ve found on the internet.
Unfortunately, I’m suffering complicated grief. It’s over four years since my husband died, and I think I’m at my worst position so far.
It feels like I’ve tried everything, to feel better, but to no avail. After getting severely depressed two years ago, I’ve had support for my ‘mental health’ plus I’ve been having one to one sessions with an excellent psychologist for a few months. She has been trying to help me unravel why I still feel so grieved. Focusing particularly on childhood traumas and other losses. None of it helps, and I think it’s because I am just grieving so hard for the loss of my wonderful, special, kind and funny husband.
Life is empty without him. My loneliness is the core of my being now. I do voluntary work in different places, but it all leaves an emptiness, that makes me long for my life to end.
I feel like I’ve tried everything, and I’m now at full circle - feeling as bad as I did on day one.

[nancyoconnor]

Based on your very informative and heartfelt video, I believe I may have complicated grief. I long for my husband every day, and am struggling with such intense sadness. I am sorry you have known this pain. I thank you so much for sharing your knowledge, and the calmness in your voice.

[jennifershort]

My grief for my father was put on hold because I was in survival mode caring for my mother who died 15 months after him of end stage Alzheimer's. Now my grief is complicated because it has doubled. Grief for my father has resurfaced as I have been grieving my mother. It's overwhelming.

[meskalokys]

I struggled to the end of your video and began to feel anger and sadness when you used the word “hope”. I understood that grief has no timeline, nor an end. Counselling would help me walk along side grief, that there would be days it walked behind or in front, but that it would always be there. Now I wonder if this is just complicated grief? No days passes without the deep mourning.

[monikafriedel]

My husband of almost 49years died 13days ago. I don't know what else to say except thank you Jo, these videos are a kind of lifeline for me since discovering them so very recently. I am very grateful for the insights, wisdoms and lived experiences you share, always given with sensitivity and kindness

[annekebrinkhof]

My grief is complicated even more now
First two years I was somewhat okay
Now I struggle and am frozen It feels
No one understands, so lonely and hopeless

[roberttammyturney]

I’m in the middle of complicated grief and cannot find a way out.

[jeremyashton]

What's made my grief somewhat complicated is that my mother's passing was unexpected and I'm the one who found her (alone). This shocked me in every way. It was very traumatizing. And there's been physical manifestations of this grief, shock and trauma via Functional Neurological Disorder including seizures. At the same time, most of me really wants to move forward in my life.

[dorelyherrera]

I lost my 22 year old son February 11th 2021 in a fetal car accident this is so heartbreaking I can’t sleep I have so many different emotions I want my son but I know the Lord wanted him home he just went a head of me I know he is happy rejoicing in Heaven I’m just not the same person 😢

[danlemko]

Thank you Jo 💜 It helps to understand what I’m feeling isn’t only just me. You describe me in this video. I’m seeking help :)

[sunriseschubert]

I lost my beloved mother unexpectedly on October 6 2022 and I'm heartbroken 💔😭. I'm single and she lived with me my entire life and I miss her so much everyday. 😞. And with the holidays coming, is even worse. 😩

[dredwardchisnall]

I have not been back to you for a couple of weeks as I seemed to becoming more reconciled to the loss of my Mary. Not so. It came back two days and stopped everything, eating, showering, sleeping, thoughts of suicide. It was so painful because it was unexpected. I cannot isolate a trigger except thought. I feel so weak and the weaker I feel the weaker `I become. Boy, is it complex. Mary’s death is itself the trigger. My life will never be normal again, hidden pain, lack of motivations, three months is clearly not enough, each month it seems to hang around just outside the window. It’s complicated grief and I wake in such terrible pain and a sense of loss. Thank for your gentle voice. I am very down.

[dogodivaamorfati]

I have complicated grief. I’ve had it for 6 yrs now and I have been in therapy and it was never mentioned that I have this. My life has been hell even since I lost my entire adult family back to back within 5years and went through a divorce. I swear I trust no one and I question why God would leave me alone with no support. I have twin 14yr old boys with autism and no family no support and it has been so hard. All of the deaths were not expected and I found my mother Thanksgiving Day and a year later my father died in my arms then 2 yrs later my only sibling my younger sister went septic after appendix surgery and passed away suddenly. I love my children they are what keeps me going but I have lost interest in everything I ever cared about before. I talk to only a few people and not often. I pray for anyone who is experiencing this type of grief and pain it is truly devastating it changes your life completely it changes you.