Special Topic Lecture: Real Healing Means Real Feeling

Here are some Questions/Topics I discuss in this chat:

5:48 - What is real deep feeling?
7:15 - Why do we lose the ability to connect to our feelings?
7:38 - Feelings are in the physical body
10:11 - Closing your eyes when healing
12:29 - Why it’s important to feel in the moment for children?
13:31 - Fight/Flight/Freeze
14:31 - What happens when we stop connecting to our body?
14:51 - Example of suppressing your emotions
16:39 - Shutting down your emotions - how we have been wired
19:20 - How to start working with expressing your emotions
22:41 - Orienting and the importance of it
23:31 - Mind - Body connection
24:13 - Connecting to breath (without changing it or using it to bypass feelings)
27:59 - Breathwork practices
29:01 - Intuition and connection
31:01 - How can I help my children?
32:35 - Post-partum depression
33:56 - Impact of unregulated parents on children
37:10 - Crying as a child and parents response
38:51 - Animals and letting them feel their impulses/feelings
39:20 - Importance of rest and letting yourself FEEL out emotions
41:31 - How can you express your feelings when living with people who are toxic?
43:29 - Why feeling safety as an adult can not feel ‘safe’?
45:34 - Laughter; when healing and what it could mean
48:20 - What does healing look like?
53:25 - Feelings/emotions that come up when doing exercises
58:29 - Importance of education and practice when healing trauma
59:40 - What is anesthesia trauma?
1:01:54 - Learning/Homework being traumatic as a child and impact now as an adult

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Resources I mention during this video:

► Drop In Class

► SmartBody SmartMind

► Captain Fantastic - Movie

► How suppressing our emotions & physiology can lead to depression

► Healthy Nervous System Revolution FB group

► 21-Day Nervous System Tune Up

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[barbaraalbert]

Who remembers... 50(or so) years ago, Sunday nights, Disney movies. What (little child), highly sensitive person, doesn't cry? And have siblings to terrorize. I tried to hide my tears. I massively overcontrol my teats. To making happen, to making it stop. I hold my breath automatically while breathing. To not feel. Probably to distract also. I've actually been in my body. First. I'm sixty. Am doing breath and body work. Have come to realize the physical pain and lots of medical in my body is trauma related. As Im becoming aware...my body is in even more pain. And my father..."I teach you all I know and still you don't know anything" I knew back then that said a whole lot about him.
Am in progress.
Thank you for your being, and sharing. 🕊️

[yusufalispring_spiral_dynamic]

Breathing, Feeling, Connecting, Movement & self expression, the ultimate ways to deep healing. Thank you .

[mcaldwell]

Whenever I don't express what I'm sensing, it makes me feel phony and like I'm betraying myself. It makes me feel like a coward for choosing comfort over what is really true and real.

[Artsy]

Wow. So thankful I have found you. Everything adds up for me. I often stop breathing. When my sister was sitting with me in the hospital after surgery she kept having to say “ breathe Nanc”, I also wake my self up as I’m drifting off to sleep realizing I am holding my breath. I have an over exaggerated startle reflex, everywhere, anything. You clearly explain how it takes more than just positive affirmations, breath exercises, visualizations, energy balancing etc. Thank you!

[timothybollenbaugh]

Everyone—anyone who might not connect with any moment of Irene's presentation, know that an "in other words" would do it. Meaning that what's been said is reliable as it is, and to give consideration and repetition and education many chances. Each round enhances your coming through.
Aha moments, when something resonates and is realized are new experiences. But soon, when familiarity sets in, familiar feelings don't find distraction. Answers realized are no less answers than when first experienced. Abandoning these for something that seems new, and so seems more powerful, is to delay progress already begun for having to back up and start working all over again, which reinforces old trauma.
Keep with her and keep going—you've a great resource and support, and an education ahead. Use her references to her mentors. Don't waste the effort you've expended thus far...even if this presentation is a first for you.
Team Lyon—excellent!

[Joyfulsweetness]

Irene, I really really love your videos. I can't even express how much you have helped me in the past year to deal with my system and all the trauma stored in my body. I listened to you for hours and just the tone of your voice is so soothing to me. Let alone all this amazing free information. Your videos are real gems. 💎 I also looove your heart exercise (meditation) video, it's different from all the other things out there.
The other day I listened to a podcast by Anthony william about compassion and it was so beautiful it brought me to tears. And I just let those tears come and run down my face. And I was so happy and touched and I only realized after a while that this was the first time in my life that I just cried without questioning myself or feeling weird for crying. Cause I was never allowed to show my feelings early in life.
So thank you so much for your work and dedication 🙏🏼🙏🏼💗💗

[LilMsLorelei]

Irene, your caring heart always comes through in your videos. Thank you. 🌺

[bebaaskaful]

I had so much resistance on the SBSM course. And it is conected to that feeling of deserving to be healed. Lot of toxic shame, and avoiding it to be felt. I tried to do little stuff threw whole year, and it is not easy. So much freezing, and disociation. A lot of resistence to Feldenkries excersize wich is conected to early development and much of shaming and emotional and verbal abuse from older sibling. And it conects to the statment that if I dont move, I will not be on my systers way and Ill be safe. That way I cant be hurt even more. So this year, Im preparing to continue this working. A lot of fear, avoidance, and grieving. I have problem to cry when Im outside, and when I walk in the nature sometimes just orienting brings up tears. Amd I shut it down or avoid people to not see me, because they would think Im crazy, or that something is wrong with me. I realized just now that yes, something is wrong, but not with me, I have a lot of stuffed emotions and there is nothing bad in that. Bad thing comes up when I try to skip it, and then I start to be more anxious. I dont have to be smilling each time, or in every situation. I would like to come one day on the road to feel and to not be afraid of it, or what would other think about me. Thank you for everything that you do for society.

[vikiz]

I feel the breathing recommendation. I often tried breathing exercises while being in a response- but I feld more overwhelmed. Thank you for your awesome videos.

[nyctilia]

I try to be that safe older sister for my 10 years younger one and while I see she still has an impact in her feeling of self-worth she is totally different than I was and much more open, rebellious and connected with herself :)

[denise]

Oh yes, I, too, was told, “I’ll really give you something to cry about!”, as a young child. I learned to shut down. 😢

[LilMsLorelei]

Wow! The part about the actual anesthesia chemicals being released decades later when the trauma gets revisited and worked through; that is fascinating!

My Autonomic nervous system was severely affected when I had impacted wisdom teeth removed. They ran into issues so they had to give me another hit of anesthesia. Two hits back to back. I started to wake up in the middle of the procedure. I saw the dentist and the last thing I heard was him yelling “give her more”, before I passed out again. (More anesthesia).

When I woke up again, I was ice cold, chattering, and could not breathe on my own. I thought for sure I was going to die. I literally had to tell myself to breathe in and out. The automatic breathing function was knocked off line.I didn’t think I was going to make it. The staff there didn’t even have a clue that something had gone really wrong. By the grace of God I survived But my life hung in the balance over the next few hours. Automatic breathing finally kicked back in.

Has anyone else ever had an experience like this?

[laylas]

LOVE this video - I am am SBSM student about to enter my 3rd round in 2024. Personally, I would like to see this video placed in the extra resource section of one of the labs. Maybe lab 2? This is meeting me where I am now. I love the fact that Irene states that a person's first experience of an exercise might be very different from their 2nd, 3rd or 17th experience of the same exercise. And yet each experience is important, valid, and invites opportunity for discernment (I'm paraphrasing). Again, ❤ this video!

[landscapesforlearning]

Outstanding video I plan to share with as many people as possible. In Bikram yoga we encourage people to keep eyes open for the exact reasons you stated, especially when relaxing in savasana. Being with “what is” continuously is a disciplined, intentional practice and fosters interoceptive awareness. It literally changed my life— inside and out!!

[somatiskorientering]

This makes SO much sense to me. I have been a misattuned mother, and I notice a real change after I have shifted my own stuff. So tempting to fix the other, that saves me feeling the feelings I'm avoiding feeling ;-). Thanks for the tip of orienting when positive, I think I already knew, and it registered positively ❤️

[ffff-htiz]

So nourishing this video Irene, thanks!!!

[ashleyandrews]

I’m 50 and my mom is still trying to shut my emotions down....now I call her out on it

[c.w]

Wow, so much golden information. Thank you 🙏🏾

[chilloften]

Fascinating. I so adore these topics, life.

[sharang]

Anaesthesia yes! Thanks Irene! After I came back they would not understand when I told them I feel like my breathing is shutting down when I’m going in to deep
Sleep my body wakes me up to breath again! Not sleep apnea it’s like my breathing system is shutting down before I can hit deep sleep it’s like I’m afraid to deep sleep