Why successful MEN CHEAT: the ring of power corrupts all who touch it

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Cheating seems to be rampant among successful men. Despite coming from different walks of life, and advancing up independent dominance hierarchies, men in top positions seem to be remarkably consistent in this behavior. This can't be just a coincidence. At first blush, cheating in successful men makes little-to-no sense, because the risk-reward profile is insanely high. However, if we change the way we look at things, this behavior can be understood (without judgment). I'll discuss more in this episode.

Orion is a licensed psychologist in the state of California.
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[psychacks]

Cheating seems to be rampant among successful men. Despite coming from different walks of life, and advancing up independent dominance hierarchies, men in top positions seem to be remarkably consistent in this behavior. This can't be just a coincidence. At first blush, cheating in successful men makes little-to-no sense, because the risk-reward profile is insanely high. However, if we change the way we look at things, this behavior can be understood (without judgment). I'll discuss more in this episode.

Orion is a licensed psychologist in the state of California.
Podcast available of Spotify, Instagram, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts and others.
See the "About" tab for more information on donations and consultations.

[ppumpkin]

As a successful man, I didn't cheat, but if I did it would have been because women throw themselves at you. I had many indirect and direct offers from beautiful women. It was very temping. They main reason I didn't cheat is because as a busy man you often don't have time, don't want the complications, don't want to risk your family, and also the prevailling sexual harrassment lawsuit. After I retired from a successful career at age 55, I became a college professor, and again - the women throw themselves at men in powerful positions.

[keithkollenbaum]

Personally speaking, when I became successful, the number of women who approached and pursued me was incredible. That’s just the way it is but I then learned it is easier to become successful then to be successful.

[wethenorth]

Let’s be honest. It’s not entirely a man’s fault. How often do you see a gorgeous woman with a broke man…..not too often. However, you get that same man and he happens to win a 50 million dollar lottery, he would have a different beautiful woman everyday. Even if she knows he’s married and has children, she would sleep with him and doesn’t care about his wife or kids. That’s the reality!
I’m not saying he’s not a piece of 💩 for doing it, but it takes 2 to tango.

[anthonydukeiii]

It seems to me that only men are criticized for exercising their options at their peak SMV.

[dwightbrown]

Here is the unshakeable truth:

The less women you have in your inner circle of life the more Peace, Quiet and Freedom you will have.

[Akuruc]

For success you need energy, i have never ever seen a man who is successful at any field who does not have strong sexual energy. Basically sexual energy is life energy.

[OrthodoxRabbiBillClinton]

I’m guessing more men would cheat, they just don’t have the ability/option… success gives you both

[jaytan]

Successful men can cheat but not all do. I have successfully being faithful to my wife for 33 years now. I have a lot going well in my family and my own life, after working hard for very long. Can't think why I should throw everything away so casually.

[haraldodunkirk]

I really like this video. No one openly acknowledges what everyone knows.

[tyjuangriffin]

“It’s the point the hierarchy even exists in the first place” ….damn that’s deep

[karenofarrell]

Damn!! Way to go addressing this topic Dr‼️

[GilouTube]

👍 Right on. Makes perfect sense 👍. I couldn't agree more on the mechanics of the process, personally I hope to remain faithful as the years and the growth goes on. Thanks for all the great content 🙏

[myhusbandsrib]

Extremely thought provoking! Never would have even considered this to be a thing, go figure

[PrideFThLion]

Thanks for your input in this DR. This points out the flip side of Hypergamy that doesn’t get talked about

[James-pluc]

3:47 This is a key point. By the time that men start to become more attractive to women, which is their early thirties, they have already gotten married. Hence, when they are married, they get more attention from more attractive women. It may also be the case that the woman a man married in his 20s may not be the woman he would have married if he had met her in his 30s when he has more options.

Anyway, some reasons why successful men cheat 1) more attention from attractive women than when he was younger (obvious) 2) many men get tired of only being with their wives and like variety, this is especially true if the frequency of sex has declined in the marriage 3) the motivation for many men to become successful is to get more and more attractive women; most men wouldn't care about success if they were only get the same women they would have dated when they were broke 4) status - men are judged highly by both men and women if they can get beautiful women. When certain men want to feel superior to other men, they often say I get more/better looking women than you and people think this is a valid measure of superiority  5) making up for lost time/sense of revenge, a lot of successful guys were ignored by women when they were younger and are bitter, hence, cheating and treating women poorly is their form of revenge. 6) because they can; many men don't cheat because their wife/girlfriend will leave them and they will develop a bad reputation. For successful guys, their wives/girlfriends are less likely to leave since they like their lifestyles and it's unlikely they will find someone better. Many wives of successful men know their man cheats, they just don't want to be publicly embarrassed.  Also, even if a successful man has a reputation as a cheater, women will still fight to be with him. Women rather share the king than have a peasant all to herself. Also, no one is really surprised when they hear that a successful man cheated hence, there is not much of a negative stigma. 7) Cheating is just treated as a perk of success and they think nothing of it. Similar to how beautiful women receive free things from men and don't have to pay to get into clubs and don't think about it, many men see cheating as a similar perk. 8) Biology - it's the male biological imperative to sleep with multiple, attractive women. Society tries to suppress this urge by promoting monogamy and marriage and shaming cheating and promiscuity but, it still exists

[argon]

I have seen a study that shows that the most financial freedom a woman has the more she cheats and or is promiscuous.

[tinalove]

A lot of men feel they MISSED OUT on the fun of multiple women because they were working so hard or they weren't attractive to women until afterwards. Now they want what those experiences they always wanted to get.

[KomalSingh-cmgc]

End goal of male ambition and drive : secure better access to women .It is what it is

[giama]

My general rule of thumb is that boredom is people greatest fear and they act upon it . Cheating is a great escapede from boredom.