INFJ, WHY CHOOSING YOURSELF WILL ANNOY PEOPLE

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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: Today, let's discuss why being an INFJ can bother people and how it may bother them even more because of your personality type. While other types like ISTJs or ESTJs choosing themselves might not provoke as much reaction, as an INFJ, it tends to stir things up. It's important to acknowledge this reality and not resist it, but rather understand it and move forward. By accepting this dynamic, we can learn to navigate it effectively in our daily lives without getting stuck on questioning why things are the way they are. Let's delve into why this happens so we can better accept it and find ways to thrive within this framework.

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[Wenzes]

What are your experiences with people getting triggered when you choose yourself?

[AshrekaKuku]

"A person who is not in alignment with who they meant to be is always going to hurt oneself and others"
Wenzes

[mlbullbooks]

Solitude and independence scares many people. I can be happy and content by myself, rarely feel lonely in solitude, and don’t believe in my emotional state or self-worth being dependent on someone else. Many people feel threatened or are unable to do this because of their self-worth and self-confidence being dependent on others’ validation.

For me, I see friendships and relationships deeper and differently than others do, and value my peace above having connections just for the sake of it or so I’m not alone. When you merely have connections because you NEED them, that’s when they fall into the danger zones of toxicity, codependency, obsession, narcissism, etc rather than personal growth, acceptance, and true fulfillment.

[AmorosoGombe]

I'm getting the point where I am so tired of people. I really want to stay away from them. I'm exhausted.

[jikook]

I'll never understand how anyone can hate on someone who is always nice to them and cares about other people. I guess misery loves company.

[noname]

When I'm being myself, people hate me and it makes me sad. It also makes me sad when I'm not being myself. One way or another, I'm always the one who gets sad.

[y.michelleelam]

Great video, thank you! This is HELL for me in Corporate America... I FINALLY realized that will never work and it's time for me to do my own thing 100%.

[Bat_Boy]

A GHOST STORY

My father was a malignant, grandiose narcissist. He fathered 9 children. All 9 of them became either a zombie, a vampire, or a ghost. A zombie is a hurting person, unknowingly hurting others. A vampire drains it's victims energy. A ghost can watch, but does not take part, often because of self preservation.

They look like normal people. But, you must get closer, to see who they are. But, the paradox is you might get attacked. A zombie has no self awareness, and can not / will not understand their behavior. A vampire knows what it is doing, and will not stop, as it emotionally drains you. Another ghost might try to solidify just enough, so you can connect, but they are likely to dissolve, and float away. Ghosts are uncommon. Vampires love ghosts, as they are tricked into solidifying, so the vampire can feed.

I am glad to be a ghost, and not a zombie or vampire. I don't want to solidify in attempts to save them, because they can not change. I want to solidify for myself, and leave the peace and safety of the ghost world...at least, more often. That's the great thing about being a ghost. I know who I am, and what I can do. I can change

[WarriorsSon]

Just try changing career, using your time differently to recharge, saying no to things others see as priority. People get very confused and agitated. But we have reasons for our change. Are we not the catalyst for change that when it has completed can also bring peace, interest, and meaning to others. A shame that they take so long to realise, and we fight alone for so long.

[tamiliknes]

All my life I have been such a huge trigger to others. And I always try so hard to be solely supportive to others. The ones that have something simmering in their own soul seem to have a visceral reaction to me. .

[Adailyy_]

This was why i stopped showing up at work. I have no idea why my boss was always triggered by me. I could never just sit and be myself. There was no time to think, and if i stayed idle for more than a second, she flights up. I loved the creative process of my job, but not that part. She wasn't a bad person. Just wanted me to become her. She called me and doesn't understand why i decided to "doorslam" her.

[digimei]

I mean like people are just judging us INFJs for the way we live even though we are not hurting everyone around us. they should mind their own business. If everyone around this world would mind their own business. the whole world would be a better place to live. that just me

[light]

Yeah, many people really dislike it when we decide to be ourselves and not make a ton of compromise to fit in. I've experienced that with my own mother. But I found out I really like my own company a good deal of the time.
Fun thing right now I'm wearing a dress in the exact same nuance of green as your blouse 😸

[suowner]

This is very true, I felt this last BJJ promotion, I was meant to be a part of the ceremony, and I wasn't capable of being emotionally stable with the social situation. I left and many people were upset with me because i didn't do what they wanted, i missed my promotion and offended a lot of people.
I also have another friend that uses me as an emotional trampoline, and if I don't answer their phone calls, I can feel they are pissed at me for not giving all of me; taking that space back offends them because they take me for granted...

[warrens]

I refused to go on a trip with my wife to visit her relatives. I had gone with her many times before, but I needed time to myself. That ultimately ended our marriage.

[kriskramer]

I’ve been sober for 1 year and since have been doing some serious personal development and introspection, through😅. Anyway, everyone I know and that thought they knew me were taken aback when I started focusing on what truly made me happy. Some were offended and accused me of being selfish and other things, but those few who matter were so very excited to see the evolution of my true self and happiness. So it’s gone both ways with others, but as far as I’m concerned, I’m experiencing true happiness and self awareness for the first time in soooo long. 😅❤

[Bat_Boy]

This is THEE BEST INFJ nuanced explanation, I have ever come across. And I've watched many of these type of videos. Great job!!! 👍

[jeffsadowski]

Energetically speaking, other people's joy was supposed to be half of our own. That's why we have mirror neurons and the Observer Effect. Atoms are connected folks:)❤😂

[MeMyself-yn]

Sometimes, we let others be like squatters in our home. We can put them out, but our own inaction allows this, even though we don't like it. Thanks for explaining this.

[calihew]

You expressed so clearly what I have been struggling to put into words about the way I've felt punished/backlash for being myself in this world. The part about going deep and accept the journey and ignoring the game is such valuable wisdom! God bless you!