Escaping Toxicity: 7 Key Questions

Should I leave my narcissistic partner? Can they truly change? Navigating a relationship with a narcissistic partner is a complex psychological journey. From an outside perspective, the decision to leave may seem straightforward, mainly because it's impossible to understand the psychological impacts of narcissistic abuse if you haven't experienced it firsthand. In this video, I present seven critical questions to help you contemplate the realities of your relationship in an effort to help give you more clarity.

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Video Chapters
0:00 Intro
01:47 Question #1 Is your partner regularly exhibiting narcissistic behaviour?
02:38 Question #2 Are your needs constantly being met?
03:15 Question #3 Can you communicate conflict in a mature way?
04:32 Question #4 Can you feel secure in this relationship?
05:32 Question #5 Are you bringing out the worst in each other?
06:05 Question #6 Are you willing to further invest in this high-risk relationship despite the losses that you've already experienced?
07:23 Question #7 How will you measure progress?

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[fredflintstone]

My experience with narcissists is that they turn the narrative around and make YOU the narcissist, and themselves the victim in the relationship. This is one of the maddening things about having them in your life. I'll bet anything that there are narcissists watching this video asking these questions about their non narcissistic mates.
My mother, the first narcissist in my life spends time studying narcissism. She's an expert on it, and she'll tell you about each of the people in the family who she considers to be narcissists. She's not wrong about many of them, but what she's totally blind to is her own narcissism.

[JohnSmith-wons]

If you're with somebody who has a personality disorder, who won't admit it or try to work on themselves to improve, don't stay, it is a fruitless task, a one way street. You cannot fix them, so leave and save yourself the misery of staying.

[heyoldman]

i hung on for almost 40 years 😞 years i can not get back . if you think your in a narsistic relationship ? RUN you can’t fix them period. thank you Lise 🙏🏼. you are helping a whole generation…. God Bless You

[vivisimonvi]

"If you can't handle me at my worst, then you don't deserve my best"

Takes on a whole new meaning in the context of narcissism.

[ChrisPTY]

After much reflection and consideration, I have finally decided to end my almost 5 years relationship with my covert narc NOW-ex-gf, four months after my initial comment. This decision was not easy, but it was necessary for my well-being. I want to extend a special thanks to Lise Leblanc for her incredibly informative videos. These videos were instrumental in helping me identify the red flags and understand the covert narcissistic behaviors exhibited by my now ex-girlfriend.

Thank you all for your support during this time. Cheers.

[Iamkolbycarignan]

Recently split with my girlfriend of 2.5 years. Heavily manipulative and narcissistic she was. She had an absolute atrocious upbringing. ex: being through 18 foster care homes by the age of 9. Lost both biological parents at a young age. Sent off to behavioral school ect ect. I tried everything I could but just couldn’t do it anymore with all the gaslighting, dismissiveness, defensiveness ect. I literally feel like I’m having withdrawals now.. trying my best to pull through with no contact and get my life back on track.

[carparthero]

when people show you who they are, believe them the first time, and definitely no later than the second time. otherwise you may not survive physically, mentally or financially.

stop looking for closure with a toxic person. it happened the moment when they treated you with disrespect. there was no doubt it happened when their mask slipped off. at that point, toxic people will treat you exactly how they feel about you.

relationships only continue with a narcissist for as long as you're willing to put yourself last.
moving on from toxic people is a lot easier once you understand that they never cared or respected you in the first place.

cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁

[DP-nejv]

“Don’t love them for their highest potential and who you believe they could be” well said, definitely something I’m prone to doing.

[tlee]

I was married to one for 4 years. The last 2 months I got the silent treatment and asked her to go to counseling with me to save the marriage. She told me she has done nothing wrong and it was all my fault. I got to the point I couldn't do it anymore as she was using her son/my step son against me. I was able to get my foster son. All that to say it isn't worth the time you lose and the emotional and mental break down they do to stay.

[Seekthetruth]

When you feel lonely, you are vulnerable to abusive people.

[Lightworker]

🙏Thank You so much for this message!🙏 I have a friend who was healing after break up with a covert narcissistic female and on his social media from Fake accounts she was leaving nasty comments about him including a statement that "People don't change" Her twisted mind has projected her own inability to change on my friend, who's been successfully recovered after long term of an emotional abuse. Normal people do change their ways but narcs No! Narcissist only can Fake her improved behavior for some time and once her supply lowers his guards she continues to invalidate his feelings and control his life. What I've learned from an experience dealing with narcs is to go No contact. It is the best way to keep my peace of mind🧘‍♀

[Rico-RR]

Your content is extremely valuable & very validating 💯

[jbheaton]

What I appreciate about Lise is the intelligence of her arguments. She may have saved my life. And I know I’m not alone.

[taazzmaann]

Ive been looking for this specific video, ive been in a constant cycle of push and pull with the mother of my child for years now and i cant shake the feeling in my gut that shes never going to change..i need to let this go as ive lost everything financially, mentally, and spiritually but she always has YET ANOTHER ISSUE TO deal with that makes me feel guilty for leaving or gives me hope that she can change

[propsaganda]

You know what Lise, I just liked and subscribed based on the timing of this video. I’ve been married since 2007 to my covert narcissist wife. We have 3 boys ages 5, 12, and 15.

I remember asking myself earlier in the relationship about having children with her. I had a gut feeling that it would be a power struggle, but I’d never imagine it’d be this dysfunctional.

I’m almost one foot out the door and it’s been several pump fakes to leave (from the past). This time I think it’s just the beginning of the end for my unhappy marriage. I even believe whatever cluster B genes got passed down to my oldest son.

Hoping for a new life to transition from this garbage.

[tonypascale]

Great video Lise! 👍

I've also noticed how narcissistic humor can come at the expense of someone else's boundaries (usually projected as a litany of put downs causing hurtful humiliation). It's a perfect exhibit of the narcissists own petsonality disorder.

(And I know I've heard you cover this particular instance)

[pierre]

thankyou lise, is not the first time that you help me.i have cut the relation with this woman, she was bring me to die

[bronwynsimons]

Thank you Lise

These are such valid reasons to just pack up and leave. And it's everything I am dealing with on a daily

It's what I've been wrestling with since I discovered NPD traits in March of 2023

But I.am still in denial while struggling with a trauma bond😢

I hate that it's so hard to believe and simply act on.

Because no one will understand or even believe me 😢😢😢

[holgerinhester]

One of the best short podcast I heard in a long time. Perfect ? to assess the situation…very helpful. THANKS

[tonypascale]

Dealing with a female covert narcissist. I recently passed her your video Lise. She said "I don"t watch videos."