Healing Loneliness Through Self-Connection | Dr. Mindy Pelz and Simone Heng

Welcome to Episode 233 with @DrMindyPelz and Simone Heng

In this podcast, "Healing Loneliness Through Self-Connection", we cover:
↻ The significance of self-connection in deepening relationships with others
↻ Why oxytocin fosters your relationships and self-love
↻ How social media creates ‘shallow connections’ in today’s society
↻ Strategies for overcoming loneliness and creating connections in a digital age
↻ Why self-love should be your number one focus in your daily routine

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[yvettebennett]

Dr Mindy,
You just described my life. I just turned 55, I have been post menopausal since 2016.
I am on HRT and I still do not have the patience to tolerate surface level relationships. I need more. I would rather be alone than be in a room,   invisible and feeling alone.
My son left home abruptly last year in February 2023 under not so great circumstance, more like dramatic circumstances. He was 21. My daughter just turned 25, still lives at home and is getting married this October 31st. I kind of feel like an empty nester as she is not here much.
For about 2 years now, I have been trying to figure out who I am, my new place in this home and life. It has been difficult and I was not ready for the drastic change from being a mom/caretaker to a woman that is lost.
I started taking guitar lessons last year so it's been about a year into that journwy. It has been so good for me. It has reminded me how much I love music and I get lost in my music as I remember growing up. The 80's and 90's music was the best. So many songs mean so many different good times in my life and even not so good times in journey. I am interested in learning how to hip hop dance as it has always been a dream if mine to learn how to do.
Last July my husband and I were not getting a long and on the verge of splitting up. We have been together since 1986 and married since 1995. We started going to marriage counseling. It has been so good for us. We have discovered so much childhood trauma we have never truly dealt with and we are dealing with it and learning how to heal from it so we can be healthy and not respond to one another in a toxic manner.
I have let go of many toxic people relationships in my life as I have learned I am a people pleaser and have been a co dependent most of my life and childhood. I let people take advantage of me and they dont ever asked me how I am doing or if needed anything or checked up on me.i was the one always reaching out. It got old.
I have the emotional intelligence of a 12yr old but I am learning how to express  emotions and feelings again and trying to figure out who I am. But mostly, learning to love myself and put myself first for the first time in 55yrs. I can tell you Innis difficult for me.
I enjoyed all you shared and your guest.
Thank you for the work you do and your guests too.
Blessings. 🙏❤️

[dankahorvathova]

I listen to my podcasts while chopping and dicing onions for dinner and walking dog or walking to work and I love it xxx

[moniquemitchell]

Two of my favourite speakers!
Thank you both.
As a Post Menopause gal, the emotional changes arent talked about a lot, but a change does happen.
I too tread the line of feeling lonely at times - but also being weary of who I spend my time with... I have to be careful of being with people/family who drain me or who take me for granted. And I dont have the tolerance I used to have.

I have antennas out all the time, looking for other humans to connect with - who have awareness, humility, and who are open and vulnerable

[beckibishop]

Dr. Mindy thank you for all that you do for women. You are a beacon of shining light to lead us to understanding our bodies, minds and spirits. Thank you so much!

[lindyvandenbosch]

I have a lot of trauma from being ALONE and being isolated
I moved to different countries and my friends and family just broke all communication
It was almost impossible to make connections because of language barriers
I am 44 now and have 1 friend because I can't form connection anymore.

[karate]

Loneliness starts at conception.
This is when we come into being and grow, in our first home, our mama's womb, in her home, the forest, desert, on water land under sky.
Modern babies are being conceived and grown in human onliness and human only habitat, with little reference to our place, cycles, connections with life in the truth of experience.
Life for modern humans needs sitting together, being conceived and grown together...in deep indigenous knowing.

We do not need to sit with ourselves.
We need to sit, lie, laugh and cry in our own time in all animal habitat.

Modern humanity is loneliness borne of disconnection with all animals in all animal habitat.
Modern life of not considering our children BEFORE conception, shopping for prams, cars, high chairs, schools, etc...all seperate us as we are strapped in, zooming around chasing one addiction after another.

We can't walk or do breathing exercises as babies...we can't leap out of the cot we were left alone in, the womb we weren't welcome in, the 3 seconds dad spurted to make us..


We need healing which is about truth of what is consciously unsettling in our bodies and stuck there because relationships with self MUST begin with healthy relationships and access to and inclusion in lives around us from when we are dividing cells.

Neurochemistry is not the answer.
Relationships are all.

[Leahslittlepatchofparadise]

This video is so relevant, I think everyone needs to watch it❤

[nellahummingbird]

Thank you to both of you for such an amazing and heartfelt conversation.. it filled my heart with so much love ❤❤❤

[graciagrindal]

How about going to church or another group?

[SunniGuffi]

Simone is 40? She looks younger than me and im 25😂